If you feel sexually attracted to a girl, what other things about her make you actually love her as opposed to just wanting a physical thing with her? This topic facinates me as I know that sometimes a guy would just like a sexual fling (or one night) with a woman. Then, what are the little extra things about a girl that would push you to fall in love (as opposed to lust) with her?
2007-09-22 21:04:34 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
For me I put away sexual desires and look for personality first:
goals
respect
maturity
honesty
loyalty
One night stands are a no go for me.....
2007-09-22 21:09:29 · answer #1 · answered by chaminda l 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
They are 2 completely different and separate things to the vast majority of men.
We can have sex with girls we don't like of even find physically attractive, it's purely a physical thing where in women they are very much linked and seen as one thing.
I'm not saying women need to feel love to have sex with someone but there is a connection in the two emotions, for men there is none.
I see and feel love as a separate entity and could love someone without the sex for example, it's a different feeling and it hits you in a different way.
I think this is a major confusion between the sexes and how women misjudge the 'feelings' and 'intentions' of many men.
2007-09-22 21:15:39 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You've got the question completely backward.
As if the grand prize, the grand goal (love) is accomplished with "just a little bit of sprinkles on the top of the (sexual) cake."
Mm-no.
I personally look for love. I wouldn't be truly attracted to a woman, or have sex with a woman, unless I loved her and accepted her, and unless she loved me and accepted me.
This is not the norm today, I understand. But I'll take the 15 thumbs-downs and not really care one way or the other. It is my choice.
2007-09-22 21:14:24 · answer #3 · answered by Me 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I try to avoid the L word.
For the most part, it's a matter of time. I know that there's going to be a certain point, a certain age when desire for simple sexual pleasure is overtaken by desire for a loving relationship. Until then, I'm just letting things play out and avoiding jumping the gun until I feel that point has passed.
2007-09-22 21:10:25 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sexual attraction doesn't last long, my friend. When you fall in love, you care about that person, you can't sleep at night, you want to touch her, you want to feel her, you want to hear her, you wouldn't want to hurt her. Sexual attraction whereas is you just want to have sex with her and then move on, which is wrong. I prefer falling in love rather than sexual attraction. But oh well that's me.
2007-09-22 21:31:27 · answer #5 · answered by Crises_In_Heaven 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first impressions are really important--
but i have fell in love w/ a girl that i didn't see in a sexual way---until i fell for her.
we were friends for a while-- then BOOM--i wish i could tell you exactly what it was, but the way she looked at me really did me in, i was so taken by her that she appeared to look different to me, in a really good way!
and yes to be honest sometimes just seeing a hot girl does it for me as well, but "hot" is a frame of mind because now i find myself comparing other girls to her--and they don't!
the fact that we're not together now hasn't changed my mind about that ----lust,love,sex--all good--but better at the same time!
2007-09-22 21:22:09 · answer #6 · answered by bboccanfuso 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
For me it would probably be ....
1. laughing at silly things together
2. making you feel wanted
3. showing an interest in things you do
4. knowing you could call her at any time and not feel you're interrupting
5. enthusiasm about a future together ...
I'm sure it's different for everyone but I think those are 5 of the things that do it for me.
2007-09-22 22:33:54 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
it doesnt matter what any man says, if youve had a 1night stand with a girl, thats it, shes a booty call, you can never then fall in love, you might see her again, even date her for awhile, but she'll never be the 1. love grows, and sex comes later. if youve given out straight away, love cant grow, FACT. we dont marry the easy lays, we marry the girls that conducted themselves like prized possessions, something to be earnt after much time of getting to know.
2007-09-22 21:19:30 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
The way she presents herself will determine your intentions.
Whether the attraction is sexual or just normal.
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