How do I deal with the death of a friend?

Question

I have a friend that that died last week after a very sudden illness. He was in the hospital for a week, and they were getting it under control. Everything was going fine, then during the night last monday, he took a turn for the worst and suddenly died. Im having a hard time dealing with it. We had a very special bond. What can I do to help ease the pain?

Answer 1

I am very sorry to hear about your loss. I first suffered such a loss when I was 23, and my friend was 25. He was a brilliant musician and artist, and died of neurblastoma. My older brother (by 10 1/2 months) died five years later of T-cell lymphoma leukemia; he was 28.

It is never easy to deal with the death of a person who is young, and who has lived an incomplete life.

Where I live, there's a place called the 'Center for Living with Dying,' and they have group meetings to talk about bereavement. Please ask about such groups in your area to help you with your loss.

I wish you all the best, and my deepest condolences on your loss . . .

Answer 2

theres not much you can do to ease the loss of a loved one. except remember all the good and happy times you had together. everyone greives in their own way, no 2 people are the same. i guess you could be thankful he didn't have to suffer a long terrible dibilitating illness, and think on the positive of that. it may help a little. but you just lost someone you cared very deeply for and you will truely always miss them, the pain will fade over time, i know what helped me when my dad died was the fact that i knew he was no longer suffering and was having no pain and could finally be at peace. my dad was only 58 and thats still young. 10 years before he died i was diagnoised with my illness and told i only 2 years to live and he told us all no child of his was going to die before him. he didn't believe a parent should ever have to bury a child.the night of my dads funeral i had a dream about my dad, it seemed so real, he was healthy and his regular ol self telling me everything was fine he was where he was suppose to be and wasn't hurting or suffering. i think it also helped that the hospice nurse told us that the reason dad was still fighting was he was afraid to leave us, that we still needed him in some way even though he was suffering. he had started to pass and drawed back when we all started to cry. we got closure by letting him know that it was ok to go that we didn't want him to suffer any more, and after the boys come in from work and the last one of us had held his hand he took his last breath. still today i can think of something and it will make me cry, its been 8 years, thats the way we remember those who touch our lives in such a special way. i hope i helped in some way, good luck and best wishes.

Answer 3

My boyfriend was killed in Iraq over 2 years ago. It still hurts. There are times that I just stop what I'm doing and cry.
Losing someone is hard. It's even harder when there is a bond there. Just think of the good times that you had with your friend. Laugh as loud as you can, and cry when you need too. I wish I could tell you the pain will go away, but it won't. However, it will get easier.

Answer 4

well, I somehow also experienced something similar, but not exactly. See, I'm thirteen now, and my mother died when I was just 8. It hurts a lot until now, because I'm not the kind of person who recovers from things right away, or even in 5 years. A lot of people have said to me that I am the only one capable of healing myself, especially when it comes to the matters of the heart. I somehow believe this, so should you. Encourage yourself that he is in a much better place now, unlike if he where here in this very complicated world. Think about it this way, I'm sure you'll meet him again someday, if you believe in heaven. Right now, try finding new friends, but don't think of it like you're replacing him, just think that he surely also wants you to be happy with your life, not sad because of him. Live your life, but don't refuse to cry sometimes, it's natural and it's good to let your emotions out sometimes...
hope I helped...
hope you cheer up too :)

Answer 5

For grief related depression, go to http://www.mind.org.uk/ and type "grief" in the taskbar, and enter. Call: (U.S.A.) 1800 445 4808, or Hospice (phone book). Email [e-mail] Chatrooms and forums: http://www.chatmag.com/topics/health/gri... and http://talkingminds.15.forumer.com... and http://messageboards.ivillage.com... Other websites: http://www.griefnet.org/ and http://www.helpguide.org and http://www.mental-health-abc.com/... and http://www.boblivingstone.com?q=node30.. Understand that there are often several stages of grief. See www.amazon.com for books on the various stages. After a while, consider making a photoalbum/scrapbook and/or a shrine, in remembrance, and set aside one day per month on which to reflect. Many religious organisations offer counselling, or you may feel more comfortable with a therapist, to express your thoughts, and feelings. Journalling may help in this. If the depression continues, visit your doctor, and see depression treatments, at http://www.ezy-build.net. (.net.nz/~shaneris) in section 2.

Answer 6

Someone told me years ago you don't get over the death of a loved one, you just get through it.

At this stage, day by day is a good strategy.

Be aware of the stages of grief too, sometimes that can help in itself. Link below.

Hope this helps!

Answer 7

I've had that happen, and it's awful. It's awful for a long time. The things you can do to help are: to talk about him, to talk to his family and keep in touch with them, to write a journal about your feelings, and to see a grief counselor. It's hard, but it eventually doesn't feel so bad. Personally, I got involved in some of my friends' activities, things she enjoyed, and that helped a lot, too, as I felt closer to her.

Answer 8

Nothing. Only time can heal some wounds.

Answer 9

i'm sorry about your friend, hope he gets better soon!

Answer 10

just let it go
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