It didnt work out with me and my guy, I have vowed that i would never speak to him again!! So now it has been a couple of months since. AND TO MY OWN SURPRISE I HAVE DONE A GOOD JOB OF IGNORING HIM!! But now all of a sudden he wants to ask me how i am doing, and even said you act like you are mad with me. I am still ignoring him. Why now does he want to talk to me even though i am ignoring him my answer to any of his questions are very short if any answer at all. He dosent need me women have always been crazy over him I have seen it with my own eyes!!
2007-09-22 19:57:17 · 20 answers · asked by latora_king 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
A thought:
You spent time and energy getting to know him, now you're determined to waste that because your emotional relationship with him didn't work out?
Why would you vow to never speak to him again? What if he knows a guy that would be perfect for you, (what if you knew a girl that would be perfect for him?)
You're wasting a precious and valuable potential resource, (a friend)
I don't get it.
Is he evil? Did he intentionally hurt you in some spiteful way?
You said it "didn't work out".
Contrary to popular belief, it IS possible for the male and female of the species to be friends, (and often quite helpful, it's great to get a different point of view, and believe me, men & women usually have very different points of view)
Think about it.......
2007-09-22 20:01:39 · answer #1 · answered by spam_free_he_he 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I don't know how to answer that. If I would know that he call me or even if him would just stop by I would have told him how I felt. I guess after the last call and text it broke me down and I couldn't do nothing but cry. Now I'm just try to see why he didn't find me special enough or am I just assuming that he didn't. I never wanted to ignore him. I wanted to get back the person we both like. I hate hating myself and I could get over some of the things we been through. Talking to him was like it would go in one ear and out the other. I heard every thing he told me that why I try not to go off. It became hard when it seem like he just didn't care would I have to say. His thought and feeling on how my appearance was more important than I was doing was not. I have so many problems that was not important to him. So, I would put my side. So, I can hear his. I guess he'll never know I truly do love him. More than any words can ever express.
2007-09-22 20:20:51 · answer #2 · answered by Stephanie S 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's wondering what happened to you. Maybe he thought the lapse in communication was due to you being busy and he didn't want to bother you or seem clingy. If you don't want anything to do with him anymore, then you owe him the respect of telling him so instead of just hanging him out to dry. He still wants to talk to you because he still likes you and he apparently likes you better than all the other chicks who are after him. Once you tell him that things are over and to please not call you again (or email or however the two of you communicate), then he'll stop checking up on you. If he does keep bothering you, then make your stance clear and blunt to him a second time. If he's still after you after you've been verbally cold, then it's time to threaten him with a restraining order. This is a last ditch effort though because you'll have to prove to the courts that he is harassing you after you've told him to leave you alone several times. Seriously, though, grow up and tell the guy you're not interested!
2007-09-22 20:05:10 · answer #3 · answered by rainbowreggie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He either broke up with you or done something really wrong for you to react this way. I don't know the details of the breakup but will only answer based on what you wrote.
Since you are pushing him away, it gravitates him to you even more now you're ignoring him. And if you respond back, he have you where he wanted and you will have to deal with females being 'wowed' by his presence. With all the women drooling over him, I'm quite sure he should have a busy schedule with all of them instead of wasting your time. Keep on acting 'out of reach' because he must have a hidden agenda.
2007-09-26 18:19:42 · answer #4 · answered by ranay 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just be civil. Say "I'm fine" and leave it at that. Smile and walk away. If he persists just say "No, I'm not mad at you, I don't feel anything toward you". And just look at him. But the more you ignore him the harder he will try, unless you really make him feel your cold empty hearted stare! If you discuss how it didn't work or how you are over him or even just talk to him about anything, you will just be encouraging him. Or that's the way he will perceive it anyway. You have done something a lot of women can't. You are strong, now go live your life with not a another thought about him...........
2007-09-22 20:01:10 · answer #5 · answered by char__c is a good cooker 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You're doing a good job and should continue. I had an ex who wanted to still talk and would make excuses to see me. I just had to ignore her completely.
2007-09-22 20:02:31 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Honestly? It is because your ignoring him with success that he's interested. He's used to having girls following him and being crazy over him. Since your not acting like the rest he thinks that you might have something more than the rest. He's intrigued but I don't think he genuinely interested in getting with you.
2007-09-22 20:03:53 · answer #7 · answered by Superfly sister 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Maybe he just wants to talk?? I mean, even if you're probably never gonna be a couple again, can't you just hear him out? If you really want him gone then you should tell him that too.
2007-09-22 20:03:04 · answer #8 · answered by Roo 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It might be that he realizes how much he misses you and wants you back. And if you are bent on ignoring him, which hey, thats your choice, next time he asks you if you are mad at him tell him that you don't want to talk to him anymore. If he says hi, say hi back and reply " I dont want to talk to you anymore please don't talk to me". Let him know you don't want any part of him.
2007-09-22 20:12:10 · answer #9 · answered by sexyvamp303 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like he really wronged you. If he did, tell him why you are still mad at him and tell him not to expect another word from you.
If he didn't wrong you.. he maybe just trying to make peace.
2007-09-22 20:04:36 · answer #10 · answered by tim 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋