why wont my parents let me have a boyfriend??

Question

i am 13, and EVERYBODY, i mean EVERYBODY is dating. I like this guy, and he likes me, but if he askes me out, i HAVE to say no. : [

can you tell me why YOU think they wont let me have a boyfreind?

Answer 1

They arent ready to be grandparents. Until a boy is about in his twenties his only real interest in girls is sex and your parents know this. They say they love you long enough to get that sex then move on to the next stupid girl. Listen to your parents.

Answer 2

lol, sweetheart, not EVERYBODY is dating

i wasn't dating when i was 13, though i wanted to

if i had dated when i was 13, i think i'd regret it
there's just not enough time and money to spend on a boyfriend
considering i want to get into a good college, and there is so much competition

plus, its cool when you go 'i don't date' when people ask you things liek 'do you have a boyfriend'

because it makes you more different than the majority of snuggling kissing people

plus,i think, unless you see a future with this guy (living together, marriage, commitment, and children) what would be the point of dating, just so you can snuggle kiss and feel romantic and then break up?

its rare for relationships to last that long

of course, if you're the type of person to like to take risks and think its exciting and that's what life is about, go ahead

in the end, it's always your choice.

Answer 3

It may seem like everyone is dating, but seriously, 13 is young. They don't want you to have one yet for one or all of the following reasons.
1) They want you to focus on being young, being in school, having friends and not getting your heart broken so young.
2) They don't want you having sex too young, and relationships can lead to sex. The sooner you start dating, the sooner you may have sex. If you start dating now, by 15 you'll probably have done SOMETHING sexual. If they let you start at 15 or 16, then maybe you won't until 17 or 18.
3) They just think you're not mature enough for relationships.
4) They weren't allowed to start dating that young themselves, so they feel they should raise you the same way.

In any case, I'd trust them, as lame as that sounds.

Answer 4

It's not a good idea for kids your age to be dating, regardless of whether everybody's doing it. Kids who start dating too early are more likely to get into serious trouble, such as pregnancy. Your parents are doing you a big favor by protecting you against this, and I think you'll see the wisdom of it in the future. If I were your parents, I wouldn't allow you to do any dating until age 16, and I would recommend that you don't have any serious boyfriend/girlfriend relationships until you are ready to get married.

Answer 5

As a parent of four kids - ranging from 19, 17, 15 years, and a 4 month old - I can say this with full certainty. Parents realize that you aren't going to be a kid very long, and they want you to enjoy everything that you can being a kid. Believe it or not, it won't be long from now and you will be wishing that you were young again - playing and going to school Remember that dating is what leads to being engaged, and then married. Adults don't want their kids to grow up too fast else they will lose something that they can NEVER get back. Their youth. Enjoy being a kid. Enjoy the fact that you are still too young to drive, too young to vote, too young to purchase alcohol or cigarettes. One day and it won't be long - you will see what we are trying to tell you.

Answer 6

you 13 most guys are not interested in a long committed relationship in this age and only want to test the water how far you let them go, i have 2 little sons, but was young once 2 if you don't wanna become another star on his belt take your time and wait there will be plenty of more boys in your life and 2 wait for the right 1 is more fun, just because everyone else is doing it doesn't mean you have to if everyone else jumps of the bridge will you 2????

Answer 7

i am sorry but i think that you are a little young to date and that is because the boys your age are not thinking with their brains they are thinking with their waste, the hormones are in overtime and they will be for the next 7 to 10 years so all they really can think about is sex and you parents know this, they went trough it when they were that age . i know i sound like a old man but i would Rather tell you the truth now then to try to tell you how to take care of a baby later... NOTHING IS 100% so you can get pregent if you have sex and i am a man so i know that is what boys do i would tell the girls " if you really care about me you would let me" or tell them "if we stand up you can't get pregent" or anything i could think of even to the point that i used " well if you don't i can find someone that will" and after i got what i wanted then i would find some reson to drop her and find a new one. breaking up i even used "sorry but you must of gave it to someone else you were too lose and you didn't bleed enuf" so i am going to tell you little girl /// if a boy wants to be friends then tell that they have to talk to your dad first and ask him

Answer 8

i think your parents would have allowed you if you're going out for the right reasons.. i dont think there would be anything too bad about going out with guy "friends" but dating at the age of 13?? i dont think so...

There's so much more to consider and understand when you enter in a real relationship its something deep. Its not just because you like each other :)

Answer 9

because they dont want to lose their "little girl", maybe if u sit down and have a huge talk about it. or maybe they just dont know how to handle guys going out with their daughter, they dont trust the guys... maybe if you introduce this guy to ur parents and show them that they actually can trust him, and ask them to at least let u give it a go to see if your ready.

i would say wanting to protect u is their number one reason though


by the way 13 isnt too young to date.. its just too young for sex theres a difference.. ive had boyfriends that have been with me for other reasons than sex

Answer 10

because they suck! my ex and i cant get back together because of her parents.me and her got together when i was 13 and she was 12 and her parents didnt care that we dated and we were together for 2 and a half years. we are trying to hid it but we are not sure yet if we can. say that you are old enough to date but if you really want to you can try and sneek it but just be very careful. im 15 now. Btw Good lucky with everything