I have been hurt emotionally by family memebers should I end all communcation with them?

Question

I have been hurt emotionally, by my dad, half sister,and a few other family members...I really feel like I should wipe them out of my life by not talking to them or seeing them anymore? I really don't feel like talking to them is going to help them understand how I feel. What do you all think I should do?

Answer 1

set boundaries for yourself and stick to them. get some counseling cuz it's not easy. surround yourself with positive people and honor yourself.

Answer 2

I would suggest just not allowing them access to you unless you want to put up with them. Give yourself lots and lots of space and stay away other than the usual Christmas, Thanksgiving and Easter celebrations.

You are right, they will not understand anything about how you feel about their raw treatment of you. If the family members you do care about ask about it, just be frank with them.

Listen... you need to get a little something down. There are FRIENDS and there are ACQUAINTANCES... even within family groups.
Acquaintances only call you when they want something... bring a present to a birthday party, or come when they call. These people are "users" at best. They typically don't care about you or anything going on in your life. You always wonder where you stand with these people until you put 2 + 2 together.
Friends are different. They are there for you, usually share common interests, offer a shoulder to cry on, cheer you on, and want the best for you.
At some point, you need to evaluate each relationship and ask, "What does this person bring to the table?" Is this person a mooch? A user? A manipulator? A drama-queen? A time-waster? Or is this person your cheering section? Provide insight? Make you laugh?
As you go down the list of traits and how each thing makes you feel, you will know who you should be spending more time with. That alone will make your life better.

Answer 3

Carefully distance yourself somewhat, not much. Cutting off all ties with those who have hurt you also cuts off the likelihood of a happy reconciliation later. Never burn your bridges.

Instead, be more grown up about it than they are, and just pretend you don't notice their bad behavior while simultaneously getting some friends who will be more careful with your feelings.

I heard a saying somewhere, "Friends are the family we get to choose for ourselves." I have learned to believe it.

Answer 4

Well first thing is for you to have a long talk with them and tell them how it makes you feel when they talk to you that way. And if they don't seem to care so be it and just don't have anything to do with them anymore. AND this way they can't say or tell you it's your fault.

Answer 5

usually people who can hurt someone they love and can't see it....usually...won't see it no matter how many times or ways you try to explain how they hurt you.....

depending how serious or how often...of course...I'd probably step away for a while....my experience is the more you expose yourself to them....they will repeat who they really are and sometimes the issues become more painful and serious as the years go by....

If you don't want to totally erase them...just keep in touch ever so often to say hi and check in....but don't open your life up to them to be able to continue their painful ways.........

Answer 6

ask yourself why you want them out of your life. is it because they continue to hurt you or is it because you want to hurt them? think of it like this: would it hurt worse if they died tomorrow and the relationship was left this way?do they even know they hurt you? before you jump at leaving them behind, you should definitely talk to them about what happened.

Answer 7

even though they have did you wrong you should not dis own them. they are still your family. if you do not wish to see them i would call and send them letters.