Religious people how would you respond if you found out your son or daughter was gay, would you disown them?

Answer 1

I would love them no matter what.

Answer 2

Since being a Christian is different than being "religious", for the sake of not splitting hairs, my answer comes in the form of a question first. Do you disown your kids if they become addicted to drugs? Alcohol? How about when they come home with tattoos all over their body? Or sleeping around? Or marrying someone who you know will bring them only misery? Or getting an abortion? Or having six kids by six different guys? My answer is no. They are always your child, no matter what they do, or who they think they are. While I might distance myself from their lifestyle choices ("NO, your friends cannot smoke dope in my home"), they will always remain my child. I happen to know that it's possible to turn away from this lifestyle (www.exodus-international.org), so I'm confused that many are convinced that they're born this way. The bottom line (since you are asking us "religious" people) is that sin is sin, and while I don't support a sinful lifestyle, I love my children, no matter what they're into. It IS possible to separate the sin from the sinner, and still love the sinner. God does. I can't do anything less. <*)))><

Answer 3

I have a cousin, a friend, and a sibling who are gay. As I Christian I was duty bound to tell them my point of view, but there certainly hasn't been any love lost! It would be the same for a son or daughter. I wouldn't support any homosexual relationships, but that wouldn't change the fact that I love them and they would not be disowned.

Answer 4

I am my child's only mother, and I can not ever severe that relationship........EVER. To say that someone has "disowned" their child is a concept that I can not grasp. Perhaps it simply means, that one has not come to terms with their own anger or disappointment.

My child has the potential to do many things that I do not approve of or condone. Some are out side of my moral guidelines and some are out side of Biblical teachings, which I uphold.

If my child robbed a bank, I would not advocate for bank robbery to be called legal.
If she had a child while in her teens, I would embrace the child, without advocating teen sexual relationships.
If she drove drunk and injured someone, I would let her suffer the consequences.

My sense of right and wrong apply to my own children as well,as the general public, but even if they go outside them, they are still my child, and deserving of a mother's love.

I see a bigger issue in between the lines in this question.....and what amazes me is that some of you on this forum can't grasp that Christians can seperate the deed from the doer. But indeed we do, it is the same way with mothers, whether we are Christian or not. We love our children even when they are wrong, whether by the law of the land, the rules of our own household or by the word of God.

Answer 5

My children, just like ALL children are sinners. I don't disown them, but God gave me the responsibility of training them up in the way they should go, so I tell them what God's desires and expectations and rules are. For each of them, when the time is right, they must decide for themselves whether or not they want to accept Christ as their lord (lord = "the boss of me") God has no grandchildren, only children so I cannot 'make' them be Christian.

If a person chooses to not repent of their sin, they are not saved. It doesn't really matter what that sin is, now does it?

Answer 6

I would not disown my child because of their choice in partner; I believe that religion has a part of our lives to give us morals and ethics in a positive way; I do not condone how priests are sexually violating children; I believe priests should marry and have children so they can understand family behaviours and their family problems (budget; food; etc) I was religious but have chosen to step back and view religion in a different light; the bible has given me a guide to how I should act; and also a guide on a mans life and how he was treated with his family history mapped out; as for James I. anyway; from a religious point of view; no I wouldn't disown my child for their choice in a life partner. Good Luck

Answer 7

people that need your love and undstanding the most deserve it the least. If my son or daughter eold me that i would try to understand. No I would not disown them. I believe Gad created all equal and he does not make mistakes. I know that my beliefs differ from many in the congregation and several Clergymen of the church I go to or prefess to Belong there, I do not think that everyone has a choice to be Gay or not. I feel that their social behavior is such that they feel the same. God loves us all the same. I dont think that just because you are gay that you will go to Hell. We have a forgiving God.

Answer 8

No -

I have yet to find a Bible passage that would imply that I should.

As a matter of fact - I am grateful for the story related in the Christ's parable of"The Prodigal Son" found in Luke 15:11–32. For myself as a child - and for myself as a parent. It is a lesson best remembered in all circumstances of a Christian walk.

Answer 9

I am going to share my story with you to provide some insight. My parents are very strict - by the Torah - holier than thou Jews. So for years I was petrified that they would disown me once I came out to them. I went to my Rabbi for counseling and after almost 2 years nothing had changed. One day I sat my parents down and told them I was gay. My father essentially told me I wasn't his son. About two months later we were all sitting around having a beer when my father turned around and said "You know the fact that you may never be able to carry on our blood line is a huge disappointment to me. But I want you to know Daniel (thats my name) that even though you are gay, you are my son. I tried to forget you but I couldn't. I tried to stop loving you but I couldn't." ....

so what does this essentially mean to me === a true parent who really loves their child can never honestly disown their child because to disown them is to quit loving them - and a parent cannot quit loving their child.

Answer 10

No we love them the same but, we do let them know we don't approve. We actually are going through this with a couple of daughters. The kids tend to not come around the Christians because they feel uncomfortable.

Answer 11

I am religious and my sister is gay and I don't disown her, that is not a christian thing to do. It is not up to me to tell people how to live. My son or daughter may be a little harder to accept but I would NEVER disown them I would love them and support them.