and my husband is in Iraq serving in the army. my mom and him were extremely close but everyone is telling me the military wont let him ocme to her funeral bc shes not immediate family, why is this. it sucks so much i have to go through this wothout him. she would want him there. and i know he wants to be there so bad. they were sooo close.
2007-09-22 17:03:15 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Politics & Government ➔ Military
First and foremost, ...God be with you and your family through this time of loss. Nothing anyone says or does will ever make the pain of losing your mother subside, ...but with God's help you will be able to cope much better.
As far as your husband coming home from Iraq for her funeral, a Mother-in-Law was (when I was active duty) considered to be a member of the immediate family. In any case and regardless of what ANYONE on Yahoo answers tells you, you need to contact the AMERICAN RED CROSS and have them send an emergency AMCROSS message to your husband and his unit. Tell them in the message you absolutely need him home for your personal well being.
Good luck and God's blessings.
2007-09-22 23:10:58 · answer #1 · answered by CV59StormVet 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Normally yes. As soon as you two got married she became immediate family as well. Speak with the Red Cross right away so they can get a message to his chain of command. However, since he is in Iraq, there may be extenuating circumstances that aren't making it possible (not enough assets to transport him where he needs to go, he may be key personell, etc.). The military is always going to place the mission first but they will do their best when it comes to the death of a family member.
I'm sorry for your loss.
2007-09-23 14:27:24 · answer #2 · answered by J K 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The military only allows emergency leave for immediate family members... If your husband isn't deployed, he can submit a leave chit for the days of the funeral, and if his chain of command approves it, he can go.. Otherwise, its just a suck it up kind of deal. The needs of the goivernment always come before a soldier's individual family concerns.
2007-09-23 06:00:20 · answer #3 · answered by Denise S 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry to hear of your dilemma. It may sound strange but have one of your friends (better two or three) video the funeral, burial, memorial, etc. You won't want to watch it for a very long time but if you include some personal comments and let someone else edit it all together, your husband probably WILL appreciate it.
2007-09-22 17:11:52 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
i've got faith your soreness. This 365 days, mom's Day falls on the third anniversary of my mom's passing. it is not common. yet, i'm married and love my mom in regulation and sense that i would be better off doting on her and letting her comprehend that i admire her too. Tears and crying will come, it particularly is organic and it particularly is okay. You, of anybody, comprehend that it in no way gets 'better', yet we do discover ways to administration and stay with it plenty better. in spite of the undeniable fact that, there are situations through the 365 days the place you are able to not cope and it particularly is alright to mirror and mourn. yet, I do agree that dealing with a number of her issues like photos and stuff, nonetheless you will nevertheless cry, will help heal that 2nd and what a better time to look over beneficial photos of your mom...than on mom's Day. carry in there and comprehend which you're actually not by myself.
2016-10-19 11:56:23 · answer #5 · answered by finnigan 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have your husband talk to the Chaplin, he may be able to get your husband a leave, the Red Cross may also help to defray the cost of his travel (he has to pay his own way).
I am terribly sorry to hear about your mother and will say a prayer for her (as well as for you and your husband)
Tell your husband that THIS American appreciates his service and I appreciate the sacrifices that you have to make in your on personal life.
God Bless.
2007-09-22 17:16:26 · answer #6 · answered by justgetitright 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Contact the red cross. She is an immediate family member and the red cross might not be able to get him home before she passes but can indeed have him home for 14 days for the funeral.
2007-09-22 17:11:13 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 1⤋
I just want to tell you that I am sorry about your mom and I will say a prayer for you and your family.
I have no idea about how leave works in the military, but maybe it is because he is deployed overseas? I would still check and make sure that there is no way to get him leave.
2007-09-22 17:09:29 · answer #8 · answered by lansatx04 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry for your loss, and your husband has a chance to come home it is really upto his commander to approve it, even though it maybe a slim chance it is still worth a shot.
Good Luck and may God bless you and your family.
2007-09-22 17:13:24 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Get in touch with the Red Cross. The only people who can approve or deny emergency leave is his chain of command. They can't do either if they don't know about it.
2007-09-22 17:19:48 · answer #10 · answered by DOOM 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋