Mom or dad's name first?

Question

If my wedding invitation is informal and I am only listing my mom and dad's first names followed by their last name (they are still married), who do I list first?

Answer 1

Whatever you feel comfortable with but usually it's Mr and Mrs. (father's first name) then (last name).........good luck!!!!

Answer 2

Mom = Orthella Marie Dad = Harold Patrick

Answer 3

Without getting out some dusty etiquette books, I might suggest you ask your Mom. I assume you are concerned about their feelings primarily in this question and not that some aunt will say.....My Goodness, what a breach of etiquette! Without the etiquette book, my best guess would be Dad should go first to be emily post. But it is possible Dad wouldn't notice one way or the other. Just ask your Mom. I am wondering if she might not surprise you and say Dad should go first and be grateful you asked so she could provide council. Either way, this is your day and I do hope this question isn't an indication that family nonsense is making it difficult.

I am grinning....What if you said...The parents of ......

Answer 4

If I am not mistaken the Mans name is always listed first.

Just like when using the saying Mr. and Mrs. Jack Smith.

Answer 5

Actually, it's a largely-held misconception (and one I myself held for a number of years), that the man's name should come first. When I first ordered flowers for a funeral, I asked them to put my husband's name first on the card, but they advised me that this is not proper etiquette. If both first names are to be listed, the woman's first name should be listed first, followed by the man's. The explanation I was provided for this is that the man's first name should never be separated from the last name, as it is "his" last name that she has taken as her own.

Answer 6

The proper way is to put the father first because, the woman takes the mans last name at marrige. and they are called mr. and mrs.( what ever the mans full name is.)

Answer 7

Your father in this way - Mr and Mrs (his name) last name/ It is common etiquette, but there is a growing trend in saying, Mr (name ) and Mrs ( name) and then last name.

Answer 8

Traditionally you would list your fathers name first.

Answer 9

Historically, the husbands name is listed first. If your family is very liberal in the feministic sense, consider placing your mother first. But tradition says father goes first.

Answer 10

Dad.