my ex bf recently told me a secret that made my stomache drop. He was jumped into a gang, the crypt as its most formally know.....he says the only way to leave the gang is in a coffin. i kno the people who forced him into the gang, one of them attacked once by a rival gang n now has scars all over his face n neck. Im afraid for my ex bf's sake and for my own, being im the one contemplating tellin someone about it . He made me swear not to tell anyone, but things may get dangerous. Wat du u think? Should i tell someone about it? Or should i stand by and watch him fight his own battles and have no part in it?
Opinions please.....im kinda in a pickle
2007-09-22 14:28:53 · 29 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I think you should get far far away from this man. He made a dangerous choice and he is a criminal. Stay away. He is not your problem anymore. Don't watch, don't try to save him, don't try to help him....Just stay away.
I wouldn't involve myself in gang business, it is too dangerous for you. But you must cut off all contact with him
2007-09-22 14:32:25 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 5⤊ 0⤋
It's his own decision weather he wants help. You are his ex, you are not together anymore... stay away.
I dont know all the details on being "jumped" into a gang... but if he told you because he wants out... and not to get out in a coffin, then he needs to move far far away.
I'd let him fight his own battles. If he's old enough to make the decision to join a gang, knowing the only out of it... then that was his decision.
Gang's are so stupid. Fighting is never the answer. Tell you ex that.
They could do something to YOU to get back at the ex (because he told you). So you just need to keep your mouth shut for now, and act like you know nothing. Gang members do not care about anything but themselves, and other gang members.
2007-09-22 21:35:06 · answer #2 · answered by Skyleigh's Mom :)™ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first off be careful of how you ask for help if you ask the wrong person for help it will make things worse..... the sad part of this is he is right about the only way out!! if i were you i would do nothing only because it will endanger you. NOW by that i mean don't take things into your own hands. he is the one that must fix his mistake. NOW what you can do is take to him and be a person he can confide in that will help him alot. another thing you can do is to give him clear headed advise as he confides in you.never judge him but always stand firm no your view of gangs and the life that comes with it are wrong. don't give in not even once! never take a story as being cool! one thing you can try is convincing him to move away from that area. that way hes not leaving the gang but is no longer around it if he can stay away and not tell the gang that hes leaving he may slip through the cracks
2007-09-22 21:53:21 · answer #3 · answered by wall 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Being in a gang, forced into or not, is not as much of a secret as you would like to think. I am sure that the police are well aware of your ex and the "crypt."
He has made bad choices, and you either have to get far, far away from this guy, and never go near him again; or you need to go to the police for protection in case you are targeted.
His bad choices are totally his problem, but do not let yourself be hurt or worse, because of it.
Good luck.
2007-09-22 21:44:19 · answer #4 · answered by Sue F 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think there is a very good ending to this story either. Gangs are very violent and once you are in, you're in. For good. I think you can pray for him, but try not to interfere too much, because you may entice his gang members to hurt you too. If I were you, I would keep my distance, knowing that this was his choice and he will have to handle it on his own because there is basically nothing you can do. In my own experience, the further you are away from a gang, the better! As hard as this is, I think you need to be careful around him and whatever you do, don't get romantically involved again. Good luck!
2007-09-22 21:36:33 · answer #5 · answered by Mindy, the hair fixer-upper 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You could explain to him how serious you feel his situation is and tell him that if he went to the police they could offer him some sort of help, if he left the state then they may be able to track him down, so running away is probably not a good idea. If he doesn't want your help or doesn't want to leave the gang then it is his business and you should move on, if you get involved and then they get angry with him for some reason, then they may try to harm you. I don't think you should risk that.
2007-09-22 21:36:00 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow...ur in pretty big trouble.
The Criptz and the bloods are rival gangs...i think you should stay clear of him...dont call the police or anything..or ur boyfriend might get hurt..
The best thing to do right now i guess is just wait it out. Talk to him and if things dont go so well i think you should break up cause your playing with ur life right now.
2007-09-22 21:33:36 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
It certainly seems that your ex-boyfriend is not capable of handling his own problems or making wise decisions, otherwise he wouldn't be associating with gangs. To drag you into it is another bad mark against him. If you are concerned, talk with an adult you trust. As for the ex-boyfriend, tell him that until he accepts responsibility for his own actions that you will be unable to be involved with him in any manner. If he is over 18, he's considered an adult and entirely liable for his actions. Wise words from my mom, "You are the company you keep".
2007-09-22 21:41:53 · answer #8 · answered by Darke Angel 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm glad he's your X boyfriend! Get as far away from him as possible, and continue living your life!! I really hope he's lying about this, because a coffin is the only exit!! Don't have any further contact w/him, you're endangering your whole family(&yourself), get away now. And if hes stupid enough to lie about something this intence, then you don't need him!!!
2007-09-22 21:41:50 · answer #9 · answered by happywjc 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
one its your ex's fault that he was 'dragged' into the gang. if you broke up with him. then he might be doing this whole gang thing just to make you feel bad. but if he broke up with you then maybe he doesn't like you as much as you thought he did. its almost like a baby trying to learn how to smoke. impossible right? but still. your ex is the one in a pickle and you should not be trying to fight his battles for him. tell him to try not to hang out with those gang people as much. like if he is invited to a party. you should go with him and lead him away and be like we are going to make out now. but yeah. play it cool. if you feel more comfortable telling someone then you should. this sounds like something that should be handled by the police. or even his parents. but don't freak out. he will probably fall out of the gang sooner or later, just give it a little bit of time. and hopfully things with be a little bit more relaxing. but if there is more tention then tell someone...it couldn't hurt to save a life right?
2007-09-22 21:36:12 · answer #10 · answered by skhowie12 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋