Its gettin kinda hard for me to be the salt in this world..............?

Question

Ive been told that christians are supposed to shine out in the mist of all the darkness in the world, but im gettin dragged into it. More so when school started. THERE IS NOONE THERE WHO IS NOT IN THE WORLD. They are all just,..........TERRIBLE. they curse, fight, they are ignorant, rude, and im starting to be this way. HELP!! i dont know what to do......i pray ALL the time. But it just seems like, i have no other way to turn, the reason im doing this stuff is becuz i just wanna fit in. I mean who doesnt you know?? Im having a hard time being the person that i have to change into when i get to school in order to be accepted. HELP ME PLEAZE??

(atheist PLEASE dont answer)

Answer 1

Lighten up.

First of all,... pray to a rock, pray to "god",... you will get the same result.
Second,... you, me, them... yeah, we are all in the world. What of it?
Third,... quit your bitchin' and be your own person.

Answer 2

So, basically, you're doin' stuff you don't want to do because you want to fit in with everyone else, right? Well, guess what? So are they! The problem is that you see everyone else as somehow different than you, as if they're your enemies who are trying to drag you down, when in reality, they're in the same boat as you--tryin' to fit in so they don't feel lonely and left out and stupid and dorky. I bet most of them come from Christian homes, too, but they're still jerks sometimes because belief in Jesus doesn't mean a hill of beans.

Also, I find it hard to believe that EVERYONE in your school is that bad. There must be some kids who are decent and nice that you could hang with. Sure, you won't be with the popular crowd, but who cares? If being popular means you feel guilty for behaving in ways you know are wrong, then it isn't worth it. You DO have alternatives. You can't control what others do, but you can control what YOU think--and what you think determines how you behave. If you keep thinking, "It's too hard, I'm helpless, I have no choice!" then your actions will reflect that. Your brain doesn't care what information you feed it--it absorbs everything you tell it and you behave accordingly. So from now on, start thinking positive thoughts such as, "It's easy! I can be whatever person I want to be! I am true to my values and people respect me for that." I guarantee you that eventually, it will pay off.

Answer 3

Any chance of transferring to a Christian school? For now, just try to be the "quiet one". Watch your words very carefully. Smile and be kind to everyone. Look for a ministry such as a lonely girl you can befriend. If you do find yourself cursing, being rude, etc. confess it to God immediately and ask Him to help you stop and be a good testimony. Get over the idea of fitting in . This is not going to happen. But there is life after high school. Concentrate on your schoolwork. I hope you are in a good church. If not, try to find one with a good youth group. I'll pray for you.

Answer 4

You have raised an issue,that is very important;
God knows Your Heart and the things that You are going thru,Sometimes You will think that You are alone---Elijah thought He was all alone,When Jezebel put a Wanted poster out on Him;What happened ?God gave Him food and Rest, then said there is a King to Anoint and other duties;
I believe God has a Purpose for You,right where You are,You may not see it ,but Promotion is coming;Remember God and You are a Majority ;Stand alone if You must;too many people are baling out;

Answer 5

Sounds like you are maybe hanging out with the wrong people and also sounds like you are not making any Christians friends and having Christian fellowship. If you are not going to a church that you feel really supports you then find one. If you are talking about a college campus check to see if there isn't a chapter of Campus Crusade for Christ. They can help you. If your campus doesn't have one, check at other local campuses. Even your school may have information on Christian groups in the area. You should also be talking to your parents about this, and what about members from your congregation at home?

Answer 6

I am so sorry you are having a tough time in school. It can be a shocking and hurtful feeling to be on the "outside" of campus in crowd. Just remember that salt doesn't need to try to be salty. It just is. If you are joyful, encouraging, honest and kind, people will be seasoned by your presence. (remember that too much salt ruins the dish) You may have friends that are all the things you say, but if you take care of the things you do and don't try to change the other kids The Lord will bless you. The kids will notice that you are fun to be around because you don't make them feel bad. If they challenge you, just say you have to be true to yourself. I will pray for you.

Answer 7

I hear you . . . it's really tough. Can you talk to your parents or your youth group leader or some older Christian that you trust about the struggles you're having? Maybe there would be some other options, like homeschool or Christian school to help. Or maybe you can develop a support and accountability system to help you. It's hard, but you've got to stick to what you know is right. When you start 'compromising' to fit in, it's really hard to stop, and you'll end up doing things that you'll regret for the rest of your life.

Answer 8

Do you know what it means to be the salt of the earth?
Think about God's word as your spiritual food, when it
is eaten without salt/spiritual interpretation, it doesn't
taste good. The spirit is what gives the good-taste to
the good-news/gospel of grace.

It sounds like you are a "babe in Christ" and that is a
good thing to be. Just as we must grow thru the various
stages of natural life, inorder to become grownup, we must
grow spiritually, too.

No one but Jesus was ever perfect. As you live and deal
with this evil world, just be yourself. Don't try to please any
one for show. People who act like this are not really looked-up-to. You can be a good person and still be liked by your
peers. Be honest with people, but never be judgmental.
That is God's job, not ours. Let your sincere love for people
shine in your life. Show genuine interest in the things that
interests them and always be friendly, even to the least of
those you pass and repass with. When anyone wants you
to act in a way contrary to your faith, just excuse yourself.

You are growing up in the hardest time ever. God bless
you to grow into an adult in Christ.

Answer 9

I agree with Shneb. One must refill their soul once in a while a christian left without the support of others may get week. How ever you have been given a great blessing in disguise if you ask me. You have been given a great oppertunity to increase your treasures in heaven. To stand steadfast in your faith and showing it in the midst of those who would ridicule you for it is one of the ultimate tests of your pride in your god. To not feel ashamed. You have also been given the chance to show those who don't believe or maybe think christians are judgemental a good example. You may be surprised someone may come to you asking how you do it you may bring someone to God by your actions alone. Pray ask him to use you.

Good Luck.

Answer 10

First of all, ask the Lord to help you see others through His eyes. He looked out and saw people that were distressed, like sheep without a shepherd. To be the salt means that we are to lead people to a thirst for more of Jesus Christ. To do this, we must be loving, kind, compassionate, all those things that attract people to godliness and righteousness.

Allow the Lord to give you the things you need to be a light to others. Don't get so wrapped up in what they do or say. Keep your eyes on Him, not the things of the world. And remember, we are a peculiar people; we are to be separate from the world. Since it is not our home, we will not fit in here.

Answer 11

I want to thank you for having the faith and sharing it.

Jesus said the world hated him and so if we follow after him the world will hate us to.

There have been a lot of good suggestions about resting, God knows we need that and fellowship.

Peace and love be with you.