Im in college now and im 17 soon to be 18. I like this girl in one of my courses but I never seen her on campus and the only time Its possible to talk to her is after class but she leaves real fast. And I dont know how to strike up a conversation with out being too weird, I really would like to get to know her better.
Even though I never spoke with her, I just feel this connection and I just want to hug her and never let go. Where should I start plz help, I never felt like this.
2007-09-22 13:49:40 · 7 answers · asked by Chat 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
be visible and confident
2007-09-22 13:53:39 · answer #1 · answered by JOHN 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This might seema bit stalkerish, but it's not REALLY stalking unless you actually follow her home and do this obsessivley. What I'm talking about is casual "research" so that you might get to knowher. It's really tricky whehn you don't actually know someone to have random conversation, and the semerster only lasts for so long before you loose regular contact.
1. See if she has a Myspace/Facebook/Friendster.
2. See if she lists any clubs or associations she's a part of. If she is, and it's something you feel you could join too or know a friend who might and can help you bluff, then get him to join. Tell him you will owe him one and the next time he needs help with a girl you will help. Don't balk when he needs it because he won't help you like this again. You also just take him along so you can feel comfortable when you talk to her. Oh, and when you join the club, attend the meetings and since you are in a common interest club, people routinely get to knwo each other and hang out outside of the club, so use the informal atmosphere to get to know her.
3. If she doesn't have any clubs, you can see if you have and mutual friends/ aquantices and then see if you can get them to introduce you to her and then maybe hang out as a group. If you DON'T have any, move on to step 4
4. This one will sound weird, but don't take it TOO far (as in don't let her know and don't do it every day. You just want to find her at some place she goes reguarly so you can plan a chance encounter) . On a day when you have nothing to do, see where she goes after class. Then if you have time, possibly after that. Get to know where she hangs out and see if they are at any place where you can have a chance meet in a casual way. Much easier to sit at the table next to someone at a cafe and start a convo about the book she is reading then as she rushes to her next class way on the other side of campus. Also you can ask all your trusted pals who won't blab if they ever see her anywhere reguarly.
5. Become aquantices with someone she knows and eventually you will see them together- walk over and start chatting with aqaintnce and then she will join in too. If you get to know her enough, she might start to like you, too.
And about the hugging and never letting her go, remember you don't know her too well so you could be just falling in love with the idea of just feeling this way about a girl. Just take it casualy and let it flow. Don't get too tangled up in her because she might not like you back. Just see how it goes and if she declines, take it easy and find another girl. Just think of it statistically- not every girl will like you back, and that's just odds- but ask out ENOUGH girls and at least ONE will say yes.
2007-09-22 21:10:54 · answer #2 · answered by sgregory1522 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would look for signals. You've probably already tried to make eye contact with her. Do you ever catch her looking at you? Do you get the feeling she digs you? If you've got no such signals it is difficult. If she's not making eye contact she's probably not interested. If she is, just find any old thing to talk to her about. If she digs you she'll help the conversation along. Just skip a day of class and then ask her for the homework assignment or something like that.
2007-09-22 20:57:15 · answer #3 · answered by LG 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well i think that you need to get enough courage and talk to her wait for her after class and tell her you have a question to ask her........just to get her attention....then tell her that you have seen her around and you liked what you saw so you were just wondering if she would allow you to get to know her a little better..........you just really have to take that chance. good luck to you
2007-09-22 20:55:07 · answer #4 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
as for the problem of HOW to being to talk to her...compliment something about her. anything from an answer she gave in class, her clothing, anything. pay attention to her, you'd be amazed at how much you can learn before you ever even talk to her. be casual and relax...if it's meant to happen, it will happen.
2007-09-22 21:00:14 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hello is always a start. introduce yourself. maybe when your not in class buf after class. say hey my name is so & so and your in my _____________ class. so what do you think about our proffesor lectures? I find them quite hard or easy and so on.
2007-09-22 20:59:46 · answer #6 · answered by bunnygrl43 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you contact me some how and tell me what u know about her so far and then i can help you from there.
2007-09-22 20:59:30 · answer #7 · answered by just me 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋