Not to boast or anything, but I am pretty slim. And people tend to point it out a lot. They will always say things like, "Wow you are so lucky! You're so skinny!"
I have no idea what to say in return.
If I say..
"Thank you" then people think I'm vain or have an ego, etc.
If I don't say anything and just smile, people think I'm rude.
And of course I can't say anything like "No I'm not" because then they just think I'm a jerk.
Usually I will say, "So are you!" but then they always get mad for some reason too.
Help? Thank you. ♥
2007-09-22 13:28:23 · 9 answers · asked by ayy bay bay xo ™ 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
Just say "thank you" anyway. Thats it. Nothing wrong with that. I mean, if you say, "no, I'm not" or "so are you", or something like that, like you said, it will come off bad, just say thanks and maybe compliment something else about the person or talk about something else period. Just a quick thanks and move on to another topic is a good way of not coming off as being vain or anything. By the way, you are so lucky! (Just kiddin, but you are though! ; )
2007-09-22 22:09:45 · answer #1 · answered by zaytox0724 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm not *very* slim but I don't really have to watch my weight either.. it's just my metabolism. Usually when someone comments, especially if it's someone who is overweight and/or always has to diet, I'll simply say something to that effect.. that yes, I am lucky but that's just how my body works. I can't take credit for the genes I ended up with!
2007-09-22 23:23:32 · answer #2 · answered by Sheriam 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is a neat etiquette question, and one I think a lot of people would envy you to be asking!
In my eyes, there are two approaches to take. One is to embrace snarkiness and say something like, "Thanks! Anorexia and Jenny Craig really do the trick," and then to bat your eyes vixenishly and rejoice in the fact that you ARE Scarlett O'Hara. The other route is to be extremely gracious, smiling sincerely but arching your eyebrows ever so gently to imply that you are puzzled--what, your eyebrows seem to say, you mean I'm not morbidly obese?! Oh, how gracious of you."
The right response depends on your personality type--I think the only general rule is to change the subject quickly, since weight isn't light subject matter in any company.
Good luck.
2007-09-22 20:37:40 · answer #3 · answered by SPQRCLAUDIUS 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You are making general assumptions about what you think others are thinking when you give an answer. If people say you are lucky to be so slim, say thank you and be done with it. Why would you believe that people would consider you vain for being gracious for their compliment? Any other comment is silly and impolite. You must be quite young or this type of thing wouldn't be an issue.
2007-09-22 20:40:27 · answer #4 · answered by dawnb 7 · 1⤊ 2⤋
it's sort of rude for people to tell you this, because if you are slim it's your body type and you probably already know that you are slim :D
so, if someone tells you this just nod or say thanks(either way acknowledges what they say, and if you're afraid of seeming vain then you might want to nod) and get back onto conversations
2007-09-22 20:40:48 · answer #5 · answered by Me 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Just say something like "Yes, I'm blessed for now. Just hope I can keep a healthy weight when I'm older" or something to that effect. Surely that wouldn't make you seem egotistical or make anyone angry.
2007-09-22 20:35:18 · answer #6 · answered by EvilWoman0913 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
In slender and I hear that a few times a week. I always say "Thank you, I really have to work at it"
2007-09-24 00:01:54 · answer #7 · answered by Classy Granny 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
IT's stressful isn't it? I can imagine. Anyways say...."Thanks, maybe it's in the genes."
2007-09-22 20:44:25 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
You can say "umm... thanks?". That shows that you're not vain, but you're not a jerk either.
2007-09-22 21:50:22 · answer #9 · answered by xx. 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋