My sister is outta control HELP!!!?

Question

Ok so my mom put my sister into private school and therefor my mom expects her to try her best and not have any missing assignments..
Well lately she has been rebelling alot and when she doesnt do her work and she lies to my mom she gets spanked.
Well lately if nothing goes well for her then she always asks if i can just kill her and i just tell her no!
My mom doesn't seem to notice and since im the older one she gets most of the attention..So no one really cares about what i have to say....
Well i was wondering what it was i should do to get her to stop thinking that....
Oh and she is 12 yrs old.

Also i have tried to talk to her and ask her what was wrong and she yells "I CANT HEAR YOU!! Shut up i hate you! Why dont yu just kill me!!!"

And i do help her with her school work but she calls me stupid and says i don't know what i am doing when im in the 11th grade and she's in the 7th grade..so im pretty sure i know her work.

Answer 1

This is hard to advise you. For one thing, your sister probably thinks you get all the attention and are favored, especially if you don't have the same standards to live up to.

If you think your sister is serious about wanting to die and is trying to provoke you or others into harming her, is there any way you could talk to one of her teachers or someone at her school? Is there anyone you can talk to at your school or in your family?

Spanking isn't really a good discipline for a 12 year old, but there is not a lot you can do about that. Unless 'spanking' is a euphemism for 'beating' and leaves marks; then you should report it to anyone with authority.

Your mother may be ignoring the behavior because it is somewhat typical 12 year old behavior. I can't hear or see her, so I can't judge if that's what this is or not. If you can, ask your mother if that's what she thinks is going on.

However, if you are seriously concerned that this is a serious problem, you need to talk to someone outside your immediate family. You aren't helping your sister if you do nothing and there is a problem

I hope you can get it worked out.

Answer 2

Hold on there, "she gets spanked". She's twelve, she's rebelling and spanking isn't working right. A couple swats on the rear at three or four may be okay, but way out of line for twelve. It's not unusual for this to happen at this age. Is mother expecting too much? Is your sister being way out there for some other reason. There needs to be a sit down no yelling talk with the two of them. Mom should tell her part of what she expects and then shut up and let the twelve year old have her say. Is your sister having trouble in the private school, she's used to public and it's a whole new ball game in private. Is your family on the same financial level as the other kids in the private school? If not she may be getting the gaff from the snobs? Does she dress like them? There may be way more going on than you and your mom knows. Stop and go at it a different way if the ways it's going now don't work. If that don't help just be glad she's already twelve and didn't start this at eight.

Answer 3

You should tell your Mom that she's talking about death. She may be depressed. She's at the age when hormones fluctuate so much it make her head spin! She may need counseling. I don't agree with spanking since it gets nothing into the brain. There must be consequences when she doesn't do her work. She needs to have privileges taken away until she earns them back with good grades. I hope this helps... Try to talk to your Mom, tell her you saw a show on TV talking about it or something, anything, just make her hear you. With your sister acting this way it takes away precious time she could be spending with you. It also makes for an ugly scene when it comesw to spending time together... Good Luck! =)

Answer 4

You first need to sit down and talk to your sister and find out what is bothering her. Maybe the workload at the private school is too hard for her, or she's having trouble adjusting to it and feels the weight of the world on her shoulders. Then try all of you talking to your mom, sometimes it's easier if there are more people involved. They may seem like they don't care about what you say, but when you propose things to them logically and like an adult, you'll be suprised how many people will listen!

Answer 5

That is horible, you need to sit down with your parents and tell them what your sister has told you, also it is typical for students in catholic school to feel extra pressure to do well, it is harder that a normal public school, believe me i went to a catholic school for 9 years. I am a freshman, and I went to St. Gabriels in Ct if you need proof, and right now i am going to one of the top catholic highschools in Ct. You parents were wrong in sending her to a cathcolic school, if she doen't try her hardest in public school, what is going to make her do better in private school.

Answer 6

Ask your mom to take you out for lunch alone. Tell her you really need to talk to her
if that doesn't work,
then ask an aunt or another trusted relative to take you to lunch. Tell them you really need to talk
if that doesn't work,
talk to a counselor or a clergyman

Answer 7

okay well im the younger one in my family and my sister is the one who gets all the attention in highschool she was so bad so when i got to highschool i figured it was up to me to beat her out and be the baddest out of the two of us so maybe ur sister is trying to get more attention

Answer 8

your sister is very depressed you need to talk to either your parents or counselor about it. go do things together with her, go out for ice cream, ice skating whatever keep her mind occupied and help her with school, you'll help her out and have memories to last a lifetime,you'll never regret it.

Answer 9

try and talk to her about why shes acting like this and if she is sad,mad, depressed, or what? And talk to your mom too to make sure she can try and understand the problem.

Answer 10

no wonder there is so much disfunction..12 is to old to spank!..your sassy sister should have personal items taken away..such as phone,stereo,tv etc..and in her room restriction..that would be more effective