He said, he won't married a woman who doesn't have a religion.
My parent are muslims. He is a muslim too, they think that I should Muslim too.
I personally don't believe in religion because I feel that it a way to control people.
I respect him and his belief, but he has problem accepting what I believe.
It's just hard because I accept him for who he is, do and believe but he has problem with mine.
He said we can be boyfriend and girlfriend but nothing more unless I practice Islam because my parent are Muslim.
What do you think?
Should I be in the relationship anyways?
I am just confuse now, he is good, kind and everything I am looking for. It's just that it's my life too and I want to be happy too and don't want to force myself into anything.
I don't mind praticing it. It's just that I feel that God will love me and hear me no matter what I believe.
2007-09-22 13:26:59 · 33 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
I think this guy will make you miserable. Nothing against Muslims, but having your partner force you into converting to his religion is not a great way to start off a marriage.
2007-09-22 13:30:54 · answer #1 · answered by Keyring 7 · 6⤊ 0⤋
Religion can be an insurmountable obstacle in relationships. Unless you have absolutely no qualms about converting to Islam, I would counsel you to not pursue this relationship further. Your boyfriend has effectively given you an ultimatum, so you it seems to me as if you have to choose between a freedom to select your own religious beliefs and him. I know which choice I would make. Even if you were to decide to practice Islam, I think that would be establishing a bad precedent for what may follow.
2007-09-22 13:36:49 · answer #2 · answered by Stormguarde 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You are not a muslim by beliefs, so this marriage will by void Islamically. Either try to study Islam and accept it by heart if you feel it to be correct or avoid marrying him. you are going to be in major problems later. Just to say that religion is all about contrlling people is a too generalise statement. This also, gives an indication that, you do not want be controlled in any way, even by religions, this also is an indication that your marriage is going to be in major issues later.
2007-09-22 13:39:15 · answer #3 · answered by Happily Happy 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Please try to see it this way: it's not only an issue of religion. I would call it issue of tolerance. Very different people can live together - people of different nations, beliefs and traditions. But only (and only) if they are able for tolerance and understanding. Replace the word "religion" with any other word, and try to imagine what would happen. Starting from everyday issues like food, dressing, your friends etc. to the very serious issue of children. From what you say, he seems to be quite an untolerant person, and his attitudes would probably affect all areas and levels of your life. I am religious myself, but I'd never tried to persuade anyone to change his/her opinion, and I even don't want to "brainwash" my own children, for it's their choice, will they be religious or not. If you two can't find a compromise... well, you know the answer yourself. Good luck whatever you decide. :)
2007-09-22 13:47:58 · answer #4 · answered by nini 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Our Christian Bible says that a man and a woman should not be unequally yoked together. In Christianity, that means, if one or the other is a Christian and the other is not, they should not get married. Of course , God gave us a free will to decide, but I know from experience that what I just said is true. I wouldn't get into that relationship, because you will have to spend the rest of your life subservient to your husband, with you not able to make any decisions about anything. In Islam, the man rules, period. So, you decide. Is he worth that ?
2007-09-22 13:38:33 · answer #5 · answered by The Count 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Hun, to start off if this man is trying to force you this early in your relationship, then it will spill over into many more things. And that spells control and abuse. You are in a good position right now because you are asking for advice. God does say not to be unequally yoked. This only spells divorce, I hate to see you get trapped. If he really loved you he wouldn't try and control you and give you ultimatums
2007-09-22 13:40:27 · answer #6 · answered by Rev.Michelle 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
salam
I'm a Muslim.I agree with you that religion is a way to keep people in the track.But that's what God wants us to be.He loves us but he also wants us to be on the track.I say you study Islam without thinking of your boyfriend and see what it really is.I'm sure God will help you.However in Islamic point of view nobody should force someone else in believing in Islam.Your boyfriend is trying to help you,but he is using the wrong way.that's why being on the track is important.
inshaallah you get to Islam and marry him and live a happy life
MKA
2007-09-22 13:53:39 · answer #7 · answered by MKA 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
If he was really that good and kind then he would have no problem accepting you for who you are and not want to change you. I recommend looking around a bit, there is a lot of fish in the sea.
2007-09-22 13:32:19 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 5⤊ 0⤋
Why don't you marry a man of your own free choice? Marry a man who accepts you for what you are. You must choose your own religion. You do not have to accept Islam or any other religion you don't feel like accepting.
2007-09-22 13:32:02 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 6⤊ 0⤋
Don't marry someone who doesn't feel the same way about religion as you do. I don't mean you have the same religion, although it might make things difficult, but if you don't have the same level of importance about religion, there will be many more conflicts.
2007-09-22 13:31:53 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 0⤋