I went to see my hairdresser today, I love her to death she's the sweetest person. Afterwards we were standing around and catching up when her very angry husband came in and demanded that we leave. I wasn't sure what to do so I went and sat in my truck. During that time I saw him drag her out of the salon, slam her into a wall, slap her, and hit her a few times. i wanted to say something to stop this but i was unsure of what would happen. I'm 5'6" and this guy is 6'2" HUGE guy. We were also in a known "lower class" neighborhood. I was getting looks just being at the salon....... I feel so bad. I wish I had done something, but other than getting my face bashed in, what could I have done? What would you do (realistically).
2007-09-22 13:24:37 · 12 answers · asked by Third_Eye_Dude 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
I didn't call the police for several reasons. the main reason being that they left so quickly. It all happened, then they got in there separate cars and left. Two, cops tend to not listen to be because I have been arrested in the past for a violent offense (which i didn't commit) but what is on paper is what they tend to believe. I also didn't call the police because I had just finished telling her about ow when me and my wife argue that sometimes she pushes me a bit. I felt like a hypocrite.
2007-09-23 05:00:10 · update #1
Honestly I have been in that situation that your friend is in. and I had a couple of people come up to me after that had happened and asked if I was OK, and of course being embarrassed and of course physically hurt, I didn't say anything and just walked away. They did nothing, I'm assuming that they just went home. I so wished that they called the cops because he saw them talking to me and got even madder thinking that they did call the cops. and I wish they did, however everybody just looked the other way. I would definitely either call the police on her behalf, and/or speak to her in private and let her know discreetly that you know whats going on and that your there to help her if she needs ANYTHING or for you to call ANYONE, and then maybe you'll get an idea if she really wants to cops involved. good luck hope everything works out.
2007-09-22 13:34:50 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would have called the police. It's not too late to go in and make a report on what you have seen, that is assault and shouldn't be tolerated by anyone. It's a very sticky situation when you see a friend or aquaitaince being a victim of domestic abuse, and old habits of not wanting to get involved, and confused feelings can kick in. Don't feel bad that you didn't jump in immediately, you yourself could have been hurt, or he could have hurt you both even worse then what you saw.
Talk to your hairdresser, tell her that you saw something happen the night her husband yelled at you both and that you are here for her if she needs support, and tell her that you have filed the police report just as a precaution, and you felt bad that you didn't step in. Hopefully it doesn't stress your relationship out, and don't feel like you've done the wrong thing if she gets angry at you for doing it, it was the right thing to do.
2007-09-22 20:39:22 · answer #2 · answered by Zyggy 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This is the time for a difficult decision. It is the time to choose between what is right and what is easy. Realistically - call 911. Don't try to intervene on your own. It is too dangerous. What you saw was assault and battery - a crime - that's what the police are here for. Your hairdresser needs lots of help - both from her friends and family and qualified professionals. Since it is in the past - now. You might find the name and number of a women's shelter in the area and just leave that information at her station. they may also have some suggetions for you. It's better to be a little embarassed than read her name in the obits. Good luck and I'm sorry you had to witness this.
2007-09-22 20:35:19 · answer #3 · answered by aputerlady 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is only ONE thing for you to do: Call the cops. They'll come, talk to her, she'll lie and say she walked into a door and then it's over.
Don't EVER get involved unless you think he's going to murder her. Because this happens all the time: man beats girlfriend, good samaritan fights woman-beater, woman-beater's girls sees her man getting whomped and jumps the good samaritan. My best friend didn't know that rule, he was whomping on the woman beater, then the girl jumped him from behind, put him in a chokehold and then he had to fight for his life against 2 people.
The next time you see her, give her a piece of paper with the number for "women in need"organization. But that's all you got. Too often, battered women defend their men to their literal deaths. To get involved is to risk your death as well.
2007-09-22 21:06:03 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should talkt o your hairdresser and tell her she has choices and doesnt have to be in an abusive relationship if she doesnt want to after saying that i think you should have called the cops becasue no one desserves to be treated like that no matter what, Get your friend some info on shelters for bettered women and tell her how worried you are about her try to do something becasue if he kills her one day and he very well can youd hate to think to yourself you didnt atleast trya dng et her some way out of it
2007-09-22 20:30:59 · answer #5 · answered by country angel 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
called the police
2007-09-22 20:30:26 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
First you should have called the police. After he was gone you should have gone back and made sure she was alright.
2007-09-22 20:33:12 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Call the police and let them handle it.
2007-09-22 20:36:19 · answer #8 · answered by westfield47130 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Call the police. You witnessed an assault.
2007-09-22 20:35:09 · answer #9 · answered by KD 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is a crime......call the police.
2007-09-22 20:30:35 · answer #10 · answered by tlbrown42000 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋