Have you ever felt like this...?

Question

...totally emotionally numb? No emotion toward anyone or anything or any motivation?
My fiance and I had a few days away this week and it was awesome. We came home and I felt great because we'd had such great time, then all of a sudden this sense of absolute numbness came over me.
I couldn't feel anything, no love, no hate, no happiness, no sadness, as if someone had ripped it all right out of me. It only lasted about an hour and then it vanished & I was fine. Now its back. I can't feel the usual emotions I feel toward my fiance. The only way I can express is 'numbness'.
My friend said a lot of negative things the other day and it depressed me and I can't shake it off. I'm not normally like this and I don't know what's going on with me.
Have you ever felt like this and how did you shake it off?

The only thing I feel is overwhelming fear because I can't feel anything else.


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Answer 1

yes, i have, tash...i go thru periods of depression from time to time. been that way for as long as i can remember-i've learned not to let it control how i live my life-some folks turn to therapy, others to medicine-i'm not one to tell others their approach is wrong, but what works for me is prayer, solitude, and sleep-hugs seem to help quite a bit-

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Answer 2

Depression.

Perhaps you had such a great time away that coming home felt like a loss of what you'd been enjoying? We grieve anytime we feel a loss, not just when there is a death of a loved one, break-up a relationship, etc.

Sometimes, we even grieve over happy changes, if we are leaving behind another situation in order to enjoy the new. For example, when we leave an old job for a better one. So, even if you were happy to be home, there could be a sense of loss as the good time you had with your boyfriend gets relegated to a memory.

Answer 3

Yes, I have had this happen to me. In my case, I had just had a HORRIBLE fight with my spouse; it was really emotionally traumatic. When all was said and done, I was totally numb.

I called a friend who was a psychologist. He told me that this was a normal reaction to severe emotional stress; my body was trying to balance itself, bring itself back to "normal" after all of the emotional upheaval, and that it was TEMPORARY. After a while, I would return to "normal" feelings again.

Here's an analogy: you have just run a long race, and just finished. What happens to your body after all that exertion? You collapse in exhaustion for a while; you're TIRED. After a little rest, though, you can get back up and go back to normal moving about.

Your emotions can mirror that reaction. A really BIG "UP" time, like the trip with your fiance', can wear you out, even as you enjoy it. A bad fight with your best friend can exhaust you, because that kind of stress is wearing.

You need to REST and recoup. That will help some. You also need to examine your close relationships, and see if there are changes that need to be made, either in yourself or in your relationships.

Feelings change in relationships. That is NORMAL.

If, however, your depression continues for more than 2 weeks, or if you suddenly start thinking about harming yourself or others, see your physician ASAP.

Answer 4

I was numb for months but my issues were very different than what yours seem to be.

It is probably a combination of having to come back from the mini-vacation and the negative comments.

Like UP said, Talk with someone but not the negative friend. It will help but make sure it is someone supportive and nonjudgemental.

Answer 5

My guess is that you are numbing because of the awful things that person said to you... it is a natural way the mind works when someone or something freaks us out... talk about what they said to you with a friend (not the one who said them), and you'll feel much better. Try it, it really works!

Answer 6

YES especially since I take all types of drugs for my chronic back problem on top of being a recovering "Work-a-holic" no job it becomes so bad that I have to get myself involved w/volunteering

Answer 7

There could be any one of a number of different reasons for why you occasionally feel this way. Approaching marriage can be stressful, and we have certain defense mechanisms for dealing with stress, one of which is withdrawal.

Answer 8

Congratulations! You are now a Buddha!

Seriously though, it's probably due to some chemical imbalance in the brain. If it persists see your GP.

Answer 9

Lithium

Answer 10

Sure have. The only thing that works for me is to force myself to go on with the regular day-to-day tasks and minutae and it eventually passes. I hope you feel better soon :)

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