ehhh help
2007-09-22 12:31:07 · 21 answers · asked by Pucca 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I also have a boyfriend and my boy friend tells him to back off but he keeps following me in the morning at school
2007-09-22 13:01:49 · update #1
Stalking is such a loaded word that sends everybody thinking of a maniac out to commit mayhem.Hence I want to make sure you are using it correctly. You indicated that you go to the same school; therefore, it is not stalking to see him almost anywhere on school property.However, if you see him anywhere you go----stores, movies, around your house,---then he may in fact be guilty of stalking. In that case, I advise you have a family member ( father, brother, uncle, male friend etc)have a serious man-to-man talk with him. If he still does not listen, you may have to report him to the police. I started with the stalking matter because it is potentially more serious.When a guy who likes you can't take no for an answer, it is a sign of a person with some deep-seated emotional issue such as very low self esteem.Assuming he is not stalking you, just tell him that while you are flattered by his interest, you can not return it because you are currently involved , or don't want to date now, or just broke up with your boyfriend and you are trying to get over it.Either way, don't fall for any emotional blackmail stuff like you are the only one for me, I can't live without you, I can wait until you grow to love me etc.All the best.
2007-09-22 12:57:53 · answer #1 · answered by abbeycoolit 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try and let him down easy. For example: 'Um, sorry (whatever his name is) I'm not interested, but I'm sure there's a girl out there for you.' Be sure to smile sweetly.
Get pepper spray or something to let him know you mean business (if you think he's dangerous). Whatever you do, don't let him touch you.
Make sure to be honest with him if you still want him as a friend. You don't want to get a reputation as a mean person.
Ignore him until he leaves you alone (if he's exetremely persitant and not getting the message across), only use as a last resort
Don't shower and act really masculine and don't look attractive for him. Start doing boyish things like burping and farting! (ehh, maybe not this one! D:)
This could lead to severe heartbreak for either him or you, being stalked or being subject to angry outbursts.
Some guys tend to be very persistent. If he continues to harass you, tell a trusted adult. If you are an adult, then consider a court restraining order if the situation gets out of hand.
2007-09-22 19:35:23 · answer #2 · answered by *Natalie.* :P 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Stalking? Schools are not huge. There is nothing you can do about it at school. He has every right to be anywhere on campus that you do. However, if he's following you home or is hanging around your house, I would just talk to him and say you are not interested in dating anyone right now gently. If he doesn't take the hint, I would tell your parents. If he continues, I would get a restraining order.
2007-09-22 19:36:10 · answer #3 · answered by Marissa M 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
just say very respectful and polite. look am flattered that you like me and i like you also but i am choosing not to have a boyfriend at the present. but thank you for your interest. you dont have to be mean causing than it will turn ugly and you dont want that. always be a lady and you will get respect. GodBless
2007-09-22 19:39:14 · answer #4 · answered by Crystal G 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Learn Karate.
2007-09-22 19:36:12 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Make yourself look unattractive or recruit the help of a guy friend. If he sees you spend alot of time with one specific guy, he'll get the message. If not, he's an idiot.
2007-09-22 19:36:02 · answer #6 · answered by kagnomi 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stalking is a strong word
He just likes you.
Be polite & firm & tell him how you feel
2007-09-22 19:34:57 · answer #7 · answered by Ask_Elvis 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Just ask him to stop, you don't like him, and if that doesnt work, tell him one more time that you dont like it, and it bothers you, and girls dont like guys that stalk them, and again if that doesnt work tell someone. I hope i helped :)
2007-09-22 19:36:50 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
kick him in the nuts!! naw,just tell him to leave u alone or else.if he asks what else,tell him ull call the cops or somethin,and if that doent works,take the advise listed about ;)hope it all works out :)
2007-09-22 19:36:09 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've had the exact same problem.
first, tell him it annoys the crap out of you
If that does work, go for the nuclear option, be mean, act like you don't care, and if ur desprite, pick ur nose and flick it at him.
2007-09-22 19:39:35 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋