2007-09-22 12:26:49 · 6 answers · asked by melon_rose 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
I'm forcing myself to go to this party where I don't know a soul... and dreading it! Any bit of advice will help. Thanks everyone.
2007-09-22 12:27:47 · update #1
The more you do the things that scare you the better you become. Learning proper social skills takes time and energy but the more you do the better you get. When I was younger I couldn't speak publicly without my voice quivering but the more I did it the more comfortable I got. Now I can speak anywhere. Learning how to converse in social settings is the same way. Ask people about themselves and try to find a mutual ground of interest. The more you do it the easier it will be.
2007-09-22 12:51:44 · answer #1 · answered by dawnb 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am confused as the why you are going to a party where you don't know a soul? Usually you would know at least one person. Who if they are polite would at least introduce you to a few other people if they didn't want to personally entertain you all evening. I suppose you should look for others in the gathering who also look like they might like to have a buddy to hang out with. Is this party formal/catered? What I do often at parties, if I am feeling very wallflowerish, is to offer to help. Doesn't work at restaurant obviously but in someone's home you could offer to pass around a serving tray of appetizers....or something like that, that would get you out and mingling.
I admire your bravery! Go and have a good time!
2007-09-26 19:16:52 · answer #2 · answered by PattiAtk 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sip a glass of wine, that will relax you, and just walk around the room. Eventually you will make eye contact with someone and just say hello. You must at least know the host or hostess unless you are crashing this party. Let the host/hostess introduce you to people.
2007-09-25 15:46:20 · answer #3 · answered by Susan M 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Start by getting the drinks and chat someone up while you are at it. Look confident and feel confident. Don't look or feel as if you are trying too hard. Tell yourself, if you do speak to someone, fine, if not, it's okay too. After the food, you may want to leave slightly early. Why stay all the way if you don't like being there.
2007-09-22 20:51:53 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow...you're brave! I would die if it did that, so good for you. If I put myself in that situation I would make a mental list of things ahead of time that I could make small talk about. I'd read today's newspaper to be abreast of local going-ons. I don't know! Good luck. Actually, I would probably have a drink or two before I arrived to relax.
2007-09-22 22:30:51 · answer #5 · answered by animal_mother 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
try to sit or stand next to someone who is alone as well. they might be thinking the same thing as you and don't want to be there. start a small conversation about the drinks, weather, people, or anything. you can become more comfortable when you speak to more and more people.
2007-09-22 20:41:32 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋