My grandfather who is 84 years old came to visit us from out of state. He went to bed last night at 9 pm and didn't get up until after 2pm today. We kept checking to see if he was breathing and tried to give him breakfast and lunch. He talked nonsense. When he got up he was very disoriented and my husband saw that he was drinking hard alcohol like whiskey or brandy straight from a bottle that was in his suitcase the night before. When he woke up we went out to eat as he demanded it. He almost fell over a few times in the restaurant and we came straight back home after eating and now he is crashed out on the bed. Should we be concerned to call and notify my dad (he deals with him a lot and knows how to handle his drinking habits)? I don't want to take him to a detox center if he isn't that bad, maybe he is just really tired? But I am scared that if we call dad is may start a big fuss but also am torn bcz I dont want to see him seriously ill or die! Please advise me ASAP! I m confused.
2007-09-22 11:39:32 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
I know that old people sleep a lot but I worry that it is more than just being tired from a flight. I think it may be best to leave him alone and if he does anything crazy then we will call my dad and then decide? He's been in and out of detox for years and goes on binges a lot. That is why we're worried because we aren't sure how much he has had to drink as he has it hidden.
2007-09-22 11:42:50 · update #1
okay, well how bout this, you say your dad handles his drinking problems right? well call your dad, ask him about your grandfather. ask about his history with drinking. so you'll have an idea on how to handle it. because maybe he is in some kind of problem and or addiction and is taking advantage of the fact your dad isnt here to tell him to stop. so just talk to ur dad and ask for suggestions. okay? good luck.
2007-09-22 11:54:54 · answer #1 · answered by Kr@zie♥Be@utiful 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You need to call your father, a man at that age is probably on medications and if he is and is drinking on top of it he's putting himself in real danger. If he has been in and out of detox and he is still at it I doubt he'll ever stop, but you need to take precautions. Is he a smoker? If so someone needs to keep a eye on him. Drinkers fall asleep and the next thing you have a fire. Maybe your father will raise a fuss, but you need his advise. Start your conversation with him by saying you need his advise, that you know he knows how to handle you grandfather and you would like his help. Good luck.
2007-09-22 12:55:44 · answer #2 · answered by WACVET75 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have made the mistake..2 times to marry a drunk..(i can change him)..not!
He is a alcholic,not just elderly..you cannot take a way the booze cold turkey..because of his age and addiction..his withdral without medical assistance can be life threatening.
Please seek help for him.Dont worry about repircussions..they can only be worse with no help..trust me
2007-09-22 13:32:30 · answer #3 · answered by memommalisabored 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The best you can do under the circumstances is to call your dad.
2007-09-22 13:12:21 · answer #4 · answered by Belen 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you're concerned, call your dad. you can't "not" call him just b/c you're afraid of a rif. if you have proof he's drinking, you've every right to ask him to leave your home.
2007-09-22 11:50:32 · answer #5 · answered by racer 51 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋