Hello! My friend has just asked if I could help cook for her daughters 1st birthday party. I'm fine with this apart from the fact that she wants me at her house at 9am in the morning!! Normally this wouldn't be a problem but it is my anniversary the day before and my hubby is treating me to a nice meal and a drink in the night. Obviousy I am not going to want to get up too early the next day so I have said no. Am I being selfish??
2007-09-22 10:57:13 · 29 answers · asked by kazwaz01 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
No you're not being selfish. Offer to do things in advance and tell her what time you can get to her house to help set things up.
If she is a good friend she will understand and will probably be embarrassed that she didn't think about your anniversary
Have a great evening and have a glass for me !!!
2007-09-23 06:27:29 · answer #1 · answered by littledaisychain 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, explain what's going on and say you will be there as soon as you can or help her prepare in advance... you obviously won't be wanting to do anything on you're actual anniversary but are there some things you can pick up and prepare the day before your anniversary... balloons, a cake etc.
Your friend will understand that it's your anniversary and it's not as though you don't want to help...
I don't know what time your friends daughters birthday is but I doubt it starts before lunch time... You're friend is probably being over cautious starting to get ready at 9am but there's lots you can help her with by the time you get there!
2007-09-22 18:02:24 · answer #2 · answered by Lauren 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm sure that you could cook some things the day before and keep them in the fridge overnight. If you offer to go when you are up then I don't see what the problem would be. How many kids are going? I can remember my eldest lad having a party and every child in his class at school came -all 28 of them!
I did all the baking, and made all the sarnies myself, no-one volunteered to help me, lol:-D
2007-09-22 18:09:54 · answer #3 · answered by dozyllama 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I'm sure your friend has plenty of other friends who can cook for the party.... you only have one husband and one anniversary a year.... Go, have fun with your hubby and enjoy your night together without a time limit. Congratulations on your anniversary by the way :)
2007-09-22 18:02:26 · answer #4 · answered by smr 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Would say you are being perfectly reasonable.
What is she expecting to serve, and for how many?
Most 1st birthday parties consist of sarnies, jelly and cake and served at say 4 o`clock, a matter of 2 or 3 hours work.
Maybe she is expecting you to bake and ice the cake on the day.
2007-09-22 18:12:49 · answer #5 · answered by firebobby 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Not in the slightest. Apart from it being your anniversary, how much food is necessary to require anyone to start cooking at 9:00 a.m.
2007-09-22 18:44:57 · answer #6 · answered by Pacifica 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
go on -pop back to her house and tell her you feel you may have been a bit hasty in saying 'no'. Tell her that you're going out on the evening before for your anniversary and that you'd be delighted to help her BUT also tell her that she can make an early start by herself and you'll be there later on the morning -it's not worth falling- out over
2007-09-22 18:12:48 · answer #7 · answered by nanny chris w 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
no! definately not, go enjoy your night out with hubby and tell your friend you will be around a.s.a.p in the morning. she will be ok with this im sure . There cant be that much cooking for a 1st birthday party.
2007-09-22 18:06:45 · answer #8 · answered by K R 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I don't think so... She asked u for a favor on her terms. She should have asked u when would b a good time for u. But remember that she is a friend, and is getting an extra hour or 2 of sleep really worth not helping out a friend?
2007-09-22 18:03:22 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
don't cook anything , enjoy your night with hubby and very nicely say I can be there at 11:00 instead of 9:00 I can help out then but I can't commit to any more then that sorry.
2007-09-22 18:23:49 · answer #10 · answered by island girl 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋