he says it is over forever and he has moved on to 16 year old girls (eww) and that is fine (well not really but do i have a choice?) but how can i get over this horrible heartache and stop loving him when i can't break contact with him bcuz we have a child now? the only way i can get over it is to stop seeing him and stop talking to him but i cant do that when i am pregnant by him!
2007-09-22 10:17:50 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
he says it is over forever and he has moved on to 16 year old girls (eww) and that is fine (well not really but do i have a choice?) but how can i get over this horrible heartache and stop loving him when i can't break contact with him bcuz we have a child now? the only way i can get over it is to stop seeing him and stop talking to him but i cant do that when i am pregnant by him! to answer some of your questions he is 21 and i am 19, i try to think about all the horrible things he has said and done, but we were togethre for 6 years and everytime i think i can move one he calls and is the man i fell in love with again it sounds really stupid but i cant stop thinking about the good times we did have and i cant help but hope we can get passed this and we can raise our baby together
2007-09-23 14:07:30 · update #1
First answerer has a good point...but how old is he ? And how old are you ?
2007-09-22 10:28:40 · answer #1 · answered by ? 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
How old is he? No one can comment on his liking 16yo's without knowing how old he is. If he's 18 or 19 or even 20, this is not shocking!
You made a choice to have unprotected sex with this guy, taking the chance of becoming pregnant. The male also made this choice. The difference is who suffers the most consequences, you or him? The answer is you, of course. He can walk away and only be ordered to pay you some money once a month. He can go on with his life. You, on the other hand, have a child to raise. Your life, as you know it, has stopped.
I have no other advice for you other than make better choices in the future. Raise this child by giving it everything you have to give as a person and raise a good person who won't repeat the cycle that is way too prevalent today.
2007-09-22 11:05:03 · answer #2 · answered by gma 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow. Im pg with the guy I loves baby and he said the samething. Only I think shes 17 and turning 18 in like a month. To answer your question Im sure some could but I cant. I also found out neither can he. He is sleeping with a lot of girls and admitted to his friend that its because he knows he screwed up and I will never forgive him and hes trying to forget me. That when he has sex with them he pretends its me. Pretty screwed up huh. He has no idea I know he said that stuff. Who knows maybe yours feels the same. People will tell you to forget him and that if yall get back together it will just happen again. And it could. But do what YOUR heart tells you ok. You got one life so you might as well take some chances and be happy.
2007-09-22 11:19:50 · answer #3 · answered by southerngirl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You know when someone loves you when you are their first priority. I am sorry to say that his mind is set to make himself happy. Don't worry about the Dad, because he wasn't in the bed when this child was conceived. Don't worry about getting a job, He wanted sex, didn't do anything to make sure he wasn't going to become a father, so he can support you and his child. Tell him to grow up and become a man. I hope he does join up, because then he will have to send money home to you and his child. If he is married the army will take the money out of his check. Congratulations you are going to be a Mom, one of the most important jobs a person can have.
2016-05-21 01:13:11 · answer #4 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Love teeters on how you are treated. When someone treats you poorly enough, you do have the ability to stop loving them. He's looking at 20+ years in child support, so he and his little 16 year olds will have that financial burden to mosh their dates and fun. Don't call him, don't give him updates, just prepare to raise this child on your own. He's a loser. Teach this baby to be a better person than its father and hopefully there will be a better dad in its little life.
2007-09-22 10:27:16 · answer #5 · answered by Kyle 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I get the feeling that since you're pregnant and will soon have a child to raise, he won't come around. How can you CONTINUE to love someone who is so disrespectful to you ?? Don't think about the guy you wish he was. Think about the jerk he is! That should help you get over him!!
2007-09-22 10:35:10 · answer #6 · answered by missingora 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I know it will be hard for you, even when you are having his baby, But you see how he is. It sound like he is with you for fun and sex. He never wont a baby. That is what wrong with people know. You still love him after he did that and leave you with a baby coming. That is bad.
2007-09-22 10:43:56 · answer #7 · answered by hueco cuervo 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You need to think about your child and whiether or not you want him to be an influance over your child. I left my first husband cuz not only did he cheat on me but he was into things that I didn't want my daughter to grow up around.
2007-09-22 10:33:23 · answer #8 · answered by emotionalyhurtmom 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If the guy is interested in 16 year old girls...that would cause me to get over the pervert real quick! No matter if I was carrying his child...SICK!!
2007-09-22 10:24:42 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
yes u can !!! think of only ur child an yourself always, that baby counts on you an only you spend your time loving him/her, be a better example than the father....
2007-09-22 10:31:58 · answer #10 · answered by mrvntmr 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋