should i be mad at him for talking to the new girl?

Question

b4 u say anything. i would mostly want your advice rather then a stright forward answer.
me and my bf work in the same company, and about 3 days ago a new girl started working there. i work on one side of the room and he works on the other. where the new girl sits is right opersit him. ok so it all started when i heard him talking to her, you know friendly chat and stuff. i quickly turnd around to see where she was sitting while talking to him. she was sitting right next to him but facing me, she gave me this look of "yea look at me talking to your man" i turnd back to my work and just carryed on as if i didnt care, i could still hear them talking for atleast 20 mins, her laughing at w/e he was joking about and him laughing at her jokes or w/e. then i thought ok yea keep it cool its just chating and i supose coz shes new & no one else is really talkin to her its no harm. but then he asks her all personal questions, as if trying to actuly get to know her.
should i be angry at him?

i forgot to mention. he doesent have much friends so one half of me is thinking i dont mind him chatting to her, cos i have lots of friends that are guys and i talk to them all the time, so im sure he has his little doubts about me too.
but what im trying to ask you guys is should i even say anything or should i shrug it off, and if anything else happends then i should do somthing?

Answer 1

Unless it progresses to more than just chatting(a possibility), just play it cool.

Answer 2

he may have a little crush on her , but don't worry if he's a good boyfriend it's not like this will turn into anything. Everyone has crushes in their lifetime even if they are in a relationship. He may stictly like her looks or maybe thinks shes really nice and that's all. It's actually pretty suprising what runs through a guy's head when he's talking to a girl. He can act all nice to her, but truely feel shes not that attractive because she has some sort of lisp or somthing. Just start talking to her to as if your a really nice person. Try to innocently insult her infront of him. Like if shes not a natural blonde or somthing then say where'd you die your hair blonde? your stylist looks like she did a good job. Or comment on where she gets all those really good covering coverups. Be like yea i saw a comercial on them and their suppose to even cover a hudge scar ..
lol yea.
Find out somthing and get back at her while your bfs there so he can start noticing little secrets she has.
I'm just telling you to do this though cuz it'll probably make you feel better
I do this somtimes when i feel threatenedlol.

Answer 3

No I wouldnt be angry at him - he probably feels uncomfortable as it is - I doubt he'd want to offend her by ignoring her or not talking - hes not done anything wrong, probably just couldnt think of what else to ask her and just making polite conversation.
Just keep your eye on her - some girls are bitches that way - make sure she knows that you trust your man 100% and dont let her see anything is bothering you - talk to your man too - tell him how you feel from the off, might save hassles later on if she does get a bit full on.
Hope you are worrying about nothing xx

Answer 4

I don't think that you need to be angry at him. Work can be a very social place and there's nothing wrong with talking to a new employee. I also work with my boyfriend and you have to try really hard to keep work and home life separate. However, if you are feeling suspicious that something might be going on, or if this new work relationship is bugging you, and threatening YOUR relationship, then talk to him about it. Don't be demanding or angry, just explain very diplomatically that you are concerned.

Try to put yourself in his place. If a new guy started there, would you be friendly to him? Could that come across as being flirty? Would you mean it to be flirty? What about if he approached you about it.. what things could he say that would make you defensive.. stay away from saying those things to him.

And remember, its only been 3 days, and if you were new, you'd try to make friends too. (She may not even realise she stepping on your toes!) Don't jump to conclusions too quickly.

Good luck!

Answer 5

hmm...i think it would be good if you wern't together too much like together at wrk, then together at home. An equal balance is healthy. but as you are together at wrk...is there anyway you can swap desks so you cant see what he's up to. Only then, you will feel less paranoid or will itmake you look over your shoulder more often? hmm...cant you move to another office? i think he just trying to make friends as he has never been able to properly. Is this because he was worried about how you would feel if he had female friends? hmm...she obviously knows you're his grilfriend so loosen up a lil. He HAS told her so it is made clear to her. She was only making you jealous on purpose but if you let her know you are jealous, it will make her win the battle coz she got under your nerves. Don't let her get to you coz you might end up pulling her hair and your b/f will think OMG! what the hell...this is not the girl i fell in love with and you will loose him. Its her trick of getting him under her spell...so dont loose it! take it easy, just ignore them. He is yours, as long as he comes back home to you after work. Don't mistrust him. Its menat to be otherway round as you have alot of guy friends but he still trusts you so why cant you trust him. Try and if it still doesnt happen, try harder or you will lose him!

Answer 6

Dont jump the gun. He might just be trying to make her feel at home. She might be from somewhere else and has noone to talk to and is just looking for a friend. Why dont you join in on the conversation and see what happens. Also do you trust your b/f or has he done something to make you feel like he would hit on her. Thing is if your in the same room how much can actually happen without you knowing....

Answer 7

See, this is why relationships in the workplace are a bad idea. He's just flirting and if you didn't work with him you'd be none the wiser and everything would be ok. Just try to play it cool, there's nothing more unattractive than an over-possessive partner. Make like you just don't care and he'll soon get bored. PS isn't there anyone you can flirt with??

Answer 8

They are just talking and he knows you are there so don't be so jealous. She might not even be interested in him. I started in a new job last week and already feel like I've stepped on toes for the very same reason. A really friendly guy has been helping me out and same thing his girlfriend has taken the hump but he is just being helpful. Maybe if you befriended this girl and made her feel welcome you would not need to fret.

Answer 9

i don't get mad if adult men consult with different women; i'm getting mad if a guy i like talks to a girl I see as a threat. If i like him I needless to say do not want some chick ruining my possibilities with him.

Answer 10

I think if I were you I'd be a little upset and hurt if my mofriend was trying to get to know somebody else...especially since the girl gave you a weird look. But I think if you bring it up, your boyfriend might get angry and think you don't trust him. I think I wouldn't say anything for now unless it gets worse or really starts to hurt you.

Answer 11

No, i don't think you should be mad at him. He's at work doing normal work stuff. Its probably not such a hot idea to work with someone you date, but if its all you can do - try to give him room to have normal work relationships. He has a right to get to know her if he wants, and it doesn't have to be to hook up with her. It probably helps his day go by faster and gets rid of that wierd energy that a new employee can bring. Try not to read anything into it, its probably harmless chit chat.