my pastors talked about how you shouldnt date someone who isnt the same religion as you. My pastor said break up with him. I told my best friend, who was there that i dont want to stop dating him.The other thing he is a weak wiccan. like he doesnt really follow his religion at all.. hes just there. he used to be a hardcore christian growing up and then the church offended him and i dont know why so he went to wiccan, which he really doesnt follow it. he is also a marine and hes in iraq right now. when i talk to him its only once a month for 5 minutes. so to break up with him while hes in iraq is harsh and mean. which i would never do. i want to talk to him about it when he gets home, not break up but talk. whereas my best friend wants me to do break up with him now because she says its sinning until he gets home because were "unequaly yoked."i love this man and i refuse to leave him. it doesnt bother me that hes not a christian but it does my best friend. should i leave my boyfriend?
2007-09-22 08:35:32 · 18 answers · asked by britt4life718 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
You should leave your church.
2007-09-22 08:43:40 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hi there.. I just wanted to tell you that I have been through that before. It is very hard not to have the same basic beliefs, and it can ruin people's lives. That being said, I think you should talk with him about why he left his particular church, then maybe you can find a church where he is more comfortable.
At this point, you two are not "yoked". I would not marry this young man until the two of you can come to an agreement on matters of faith, simply because it can be heartbreaking when something comes up in later years.
Perhaps you will want your children to go to weekly service with you, or even receive communion, and he says that he is against it. The two of you can have great difficulties over that issue, and it can hurt very very much.
If I were you, I would keep it on a more casual level until this agreement can be reached. Be an example to him, and he may become more interested in your faith. And one piece of advice to you specifically: just because a man behind a pulpit says something, doesn't make it so. you need to investigate it on your own.
I used to go to a church and the pastor was a little.. odd... but i moved after a few years. I found out a few months ago that everyone in the church except he and his wife have decided that he was not teachign correctly and are holding their own services. it happens, and we need to be aware of that. If Jesus is so important to you and your life, then you need to have him in your life all the time! Ask him for help, and always, always pray for your boyfriend.
Hope I helped. ~Jane
2007-09-22 09:21:59 · answer #2 · answered by Treasa 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Girl -- you said "I love him and refuse to leave him" and in the next sentence "should I leave him?"
Start by figuring out what YOU really want, first. Tell your pastor and your best friend to take a hike.
2007-09-22 08:45:49 · answer #3 · answered by Lee S 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
became this an argument in the previous you acquire married? i'm guessing that your mum and dad and his mum and dad have been against your marriage, proper? there's a answer, even nonetheless, I recommend which you the two pick to grow to be Bible believing followers of Christ and bring up your baby in this difficulty so as that your baby would be sanctified by ability of your faith till such time that he/she makes their own selection approximately no count if to settle for or reject Christ. little doubt that this determination won't take a seat nicely with your mum and dad or his. you ought to ask your self the question, as a parent, do i could desire to do what's excellent for my baby, or do what you think of could desire to delight somebody else?
2016-10-09 16:03:36 · answer #4 · answered by genthner 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i don't think u should leave ur boyfriend
if u break up with him based on religion - that's a form of discrimination. it's no different than breaking up with someone because of their race, skin colour, or caste..
ur boyfriend is risking his life in Iraq for ur pastors and ur best friend - and they think he's not good enough? sickening..
2007-09-22 08:47:39 · answer #5 · answered by Luken 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's your life, not your pastors or your friends. Maybe you should consider doing what is right for you, not them. You don't always have to bow to the will of others, you know! If you love him, does it matter what religion he is? If you're willing to end something over such a silly issue, then you don't actually love him at all. Stop being a sheep!
2007-09-22 08:41:16 · answer #6 · answered by Jennifer G 2 · 4⤊ 1⤋
Your boyfriend is a brave young man risking his life for his country and its freedom. Regardless of his religion, I can think of no better kind of person. It would be wrong to break up with him when he is in Iraq and wrong to break up with him over religious differences.
2007-09-22 08:51:46 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Forget what your pastor says. He is not an unbiased opinion. If your boyfriend is mildly following Wicca, then don't sweat it. The relationship ultimately won't go very far though because of the difference in your beliefs. If either one of you develops a deeper faith you will be at odd with the other. Until that time, explore you relationship.
2007-09-22 08:42:09 · answer #8 · answered by James H 3 · 1⤊ 2⤋
It's not a sin to date someone who's not the same religion as you. What you do is also not your pastor's business .
2007-09-22 08:41:28 · answer #9 · answered by tanzer360 5 · 5⤊ 1⤋
Follow your own heart not somone elses. At the end of this life you will face god alone.
2007-09-22 09:07:20 · answer #10 · answered by happy_kko 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
"Mixed marriages and disparity of cult", from the Catechism Of The Catholic Church:
CCC 1633 - In many countries the situation of a mixed marriage (marriage between a Catholic and a baptized non-Catholic) often arises. It requires particular attention on the part of couples and their pastors. A case of marriage with disparity of cult (between a Catholic and a non-baptized person) requires even greater circumspection.
CCC 1634 - Difference of confession between the spouses does not constitute an insurmountable obstacle for marriage, when they succeed in placing in common what they have received from their respective communities, and learn from each other the way in which each lives in fidelity to Christ. But the difficulties of mixed marriages must not be underestimated. They arise from the fact that the separation of Christians has not yet been overcome. The spouses risk experiencing the tragedy of Christian disunity even in the heart of their own home. Disparity of cult can further aggravate these difficulties. Differences about faith and the very notion of marriage, but also different religious mentalities, can become sources of tension in marriage, especially as regards the education of children. The temptation to religious indifference can then arise.
2007-09-22 08:39:35 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 6⤋