im 23 really shy,skinny with some muscle,stutter,still live at home ,dont have many friends bit of loner,everytime i try to ask a girl out i get tougtied and get really nervous about them laughing at me for stuttering. i havent really had a real good gf or one at all since im was 18. still a virgin and really never kissed a girl.i know im not ugly just no one ever told me i was cute.what do u think?
2007-09-22 08:29:45 · 28 answers · asked by truedragon1984 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
How about working on your stuttering by getting the book "Self Therapy for the Stutterer" and joining Toastmasters? That will get your confidence in yourself up and you'll be ready when God sends the right girl for you.
2007-09-22 14:06:37 · answer #1 · answered by Bud B 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
have a little more self confidence! there is nothing wrong with a stutter, if a girl is laughing at you because of that, then she's way too immature. (a lot of girls think a stutter is "cute", and if they don't think its cute, they certainly arent mature enough to even be considered.) and don't worry too much about getting turned down. theres no reason to be nervous. just relax. (we may be intimidating, but we're just as nervous as you.) being a virgin is a GREAT quality. too many guys have had too much sex. it's rare and exciting to find a virgin. (STAY THAT WAY!!!) most women don't want a guy who's been around the block or had more experience than they have. just keep your head up. and be more aggressive. not as many girls will say no as you think. good luck
2007-09-22 08:52:08 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, the first strike against you is the "bit of loner" comment. It is going to be hard to get a gf if you don't socialize a bit. So the first thing to do is to stop obsessing about getting a gf and start making friends. Think about some of the things you enjoy in life, then start looking for a way to hang out with other people who share an interest.
You have to start conversations, and, once started, you have to continue your side of the activity.
Also, learn to talk about others, asking about what they like. Even if you know a lot about the topic, don't try to out do them. Don't try and act like an expert - but don't hide that you know about things. Instead, ask both factual and opinion questions. Don't insult (even in jest) others opinion. If you disagree, it is okay to express your opinion, but if you argue very much, you'll scare someone away. Instead, show respect for the other person's opinions, or at least respect for the other person.
Don't ridicule them for their opinions.
As you develop this skill, you will find that you are not so tongue-tied. Learn to not be self-concious about stuttering. You can make friends who care about the you that you know you are inside.
Set aside the urges you have to make every relationship about becoming bf/gf, sex, and maybe even marriage. Instead, make each relationship about learning to respect and care about the other person, and allowing them to get to know you.
The best long term relationships are built upon the two people knowing and caring about each other. Then you will find someone whom you care about so much you want to spend the rest of your life caring for, and who feels the same way about you. Marriage and the physical intimacy builds from that point, and the relationship grows even deeper.
None of this can be successful until you know yourself well enough to care about yourself. People have a tougher time caring about you if you don't care about yourself and about them.
2007-09-22 08:44:07 · answer #3 · answered by Larry V 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stuttering is adorable. However, if you want to have gfs, time to make some $ and get out on your own. Get a degree or trade if you do not have one, work really hard, make a career for yourself, get some hobbies and work on things that interest you, ALL of these things will make you more attractive to the opposite sex. Cash helps too, means you are good at being a caveman, can provide and protect. If you do these things, you will have LOTS of gals coming your way sweetheart!
2007-09-22 08:38:09 · answer #4 · answered by Shelby 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Depends if you deside to get out of the house. You just need to throw yourself into life. Sure you will get hurt and you will be nervous but you will get so much needed life experiences. Keep asking girls out until you are no longer nervous about getting rejected. Look at every situation as a learning opportunity. And yes I think eventually you will get a girlfriend.
2007-09-22 08:33:59 · answer #5 · answered by twid392™ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the best thing you could do is work out and get into shape. That will build your self confidence up greatly. Who cares if you have an average or even ugly face. None of that matters if you have an amazing body and feel good about yourself. Think about it like this your face is like 10 percent of your body meaning that a girl will probably notice more of your body than your face. Don't be desperate and it'll come to you if you get in the playing field. However it sounds like you don't put in the effort to even show up to the playing field. You gotta get out to clubs and bars. If you do one or the other and you got a good body, girls will def. come up to you and you could def. go up to them. Working out is hard work but it pays off big.
2007-09-22 08:44:36 · answer #6 · answered by ReelTru 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is someone out there fr you. Where I don't know. Don't ask a girl to be your gf. You first ask them to go places with you and have fun. Then later on you will ask them to be your gf. You need to hang out with more people so ou can find someone. How about some of your cousins. That is the only way to meet girls.
2007-09-22 08:35:21 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, first of all I know how you feel dude... im 17 almost 18 and I've never had a boyfreind... and i've never had any guy my age tell me im cute. Also, like you I'm very shy, but realy I can't help it, especially when i think a guy is cute, or when one approches me (still, when one approches me he's usually too old... or married!) I dont consider myself disgustingly ugly, but i dont think im beautiful either.....
ok....
the whole point of this is to tell you that thier's people out there that are going throught the same feelings you are... it sucks....i know... but im going to try to be more social... and more confident... and i think you should try too....
okie-dokie!!!.... good luck :)
2007-09-22 08:40:00 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are 23 and you describe yourself as a complete loser! 1st...STOP!. Then sit down and write a list of all your good points...you have a good sense of humor...you cook great mexican food etc. Everything you can think of. Then fold it up and put it in your pocket. Read it once a day or anytime you start getting down on yourself. Focus on self-improvement and become the best person you can and make yourself worthy of that special person who is getting ready for you. Good Luck!
2007-09-22 08:44:45 · answer #9 · answered by Gypsymoss 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
welll i am pretty sure u can get a gf. u really have to relax and just take a deep breath. right now dont worry about getting a girlfriend just focus on getting friends who are girls. u want to have that foundation first. let them see your fun side. show offf ur personality. relax it will happen when the time is right. it took me 3 years to ask my bf if he even liked me. when had been friends for like 5 years and i liked him all that time. so it will happen just take it slow
2007-09-22 08:37:25 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋