And how do I stop my boyfriend from doing this?
2007-09-22 08:25:19 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Tickling is definately a form of torture but the most horrible part about it is that it makes you laugh so no amount of yelling "I don't like it!" works. As my hubby tells me "If you don't like it, what are you laughing for?" I'm lucky though because he's only joking when he says that. I hate the aftershocks of being tickled. I laugh that much that it makes me cry but I still laugh when I'm crying, then I get bellyache which makes me laugh even more! It's a vicious cycle!! As for your boyfriend, try and figure out the warning signs of when he's going to pounce on you and get him before he gets you. Maybe he won't find it so funny if you give him a taste of it. Maybe he's one of the "laugh til he pees himself" ones which is the reason he does it to you. You could always use emotional blackmail on him or refuse you-know-what if he does it, or tries to do it, again. Desperate times call for desperate measures! xx
2007-09-22 11:10:49 · answer #1 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am all in favor of playful tickle torture when it is CONSENSUAL between both parties. I am against tickling when the only pleasure is for the tickler and not the ticklee.
I think that you need to have a serious talk with your boyfriend to explain your feelings about tickling.
Let him know that you really dislike being tickled and the fact that you cannot control your laughter does not make it consensual, enjoyable or fun for you and, if he truly want to keep you happy, he will respect that you hate to be tickled and he will stop. He needs to understand that you see it as disrespectful when he tickles you and it is not good for your relationship if he gains pleasure doing things that he knows will upset or bother you.
Good luck and I wish you all the best!
2007-09-22 21:23:01 · answer #2 · answered by mgctouch 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tickling is definitely a form of torture for me, and I always end up in tears because I hate it so much. Your b/f has to respect it when you say 'no'. If that doesn't work, stamp on his foot, preferably when you're wearing stilettos.
2007-09-22 15:51:48 · answer #3 · answered by porkchop 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I know exactly what you mean and I agree. Tickling is not fun when it is against your will. To continue with it is bullying.
I am not advocating this as a course of action but many many years ago in my late teens I had exactly the same problem. I had tried to talk to him about it several times but he didn't listen. One of his tickling attacks became so unbearable that I punched him in the mouth.
It was the end of the problem and the end of the relationship.
2007-09-22 15:39:53 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i def agree, i hate it! its worse than torture i feel like im going to have a fit or something when im being tickled its awfull.
As for how to stop him, a good kik in the balls always works for me
2007-09-22 15:32:32 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hell no!!
I am extremely ticklish and my partner thinks it fun when I tell him no to use it against me to get his way.
I hate it and there are weaknesses of his that I have discovered which I use against him...
We now have an understanding that tickles are for playtime only!!
2007-09-22 15:39:28 · answer #6 · answered by Sugar S 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It is torture, but cos you laugh they carry on!! Tell him you don't like it, if he carries on are you able to get him tied up and do the same back!!
2007-09-22 15:36:55 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
its so a form of torture, break his fingers lol!
2007-09-22 15:33:41 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
not torture... FUN!!!
and your boyfriend just needs to do it to secure him masculinity... :D
2007-09-22 15:34:27 · answer #9 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes
always wear shoes
2007-09-22 15:34:31 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋