How far is too far??

Question

Check this out, you dont have to read this if you dont want, but I just broke up with this girl who was basically the love of my life, we were going to move out start a life etc... blah blah blah. Well when I fell in love with her she was the best person in the world, but a year and some months later this chic changed BAD. She disrespected me, my family my friends and everything else. She would call me the cruelest sh*t and tell me the cruelest sh*t, she would even smack the fu*k out of me, but for some reason I always saw the old her and not the person she became. No doubt though I loved her so damn much and gave her every damn bit part of me, she still told me she loved me but it was weird letting her go last night. So was she really overboard or should I give her yet another chance? Women how do you act with your men, what is the furthest you will go?

Answer 1

I know what abuse is no matter if it is verbal or physical it hurts you, all of you!! Not just your pride, self esteem, but your body mind and heart and soul! Any time someone does something like this to anyone it is best for you to let them go. You do not want to live the rest of your life with someone who is already abusing you in many different ways. Try to look from the outside in! This is always very hard for anyone to do, but if you try you can and will do it. Once you’re on the other side looking in at how things are ask yourself some simple questions. Is this the same person you met and fell in love with? How do other people see your relationship? Is this how you want to spend the rest of your life? If you ever have kids how is this person going to treat them? Does this person behave the same way around others as when you’re behind closed doors, or does this person put on another show? How does your family and friends feel about you and this person? Sometimes others see things that we are not able to see, the old saying love is blind does apply. Then when your done, ask yourself one more thing is this going to work and both of us be happy, and in love for the rest of our lives???

I would never abuse my man in any way or form!! I love him with all my heart and soul=D=D!! My man is my everything in life; he makes me smile and laugh now, where once before I could not!! I was being abused each day and I paid the price for that abuse, and so did our kids!! My ex beat me so bad when I was pregnant with our twins they died from the beating, I took!! Never put yourself in that place:(:( It is always best to leave someone than to live your life in fear, and the pain that comes with that is not worth it never!!!

I wish you the best of luck in life:):)

Rags37:):)

Answer 2

Doesn't matter buddy, you felt right. See hope is incredibly powerful, hope is the thing that would help a person who is GOING to die, survive till he does, if he was lost in the desert. You get what I mean? Hope is what keeps so many people glued to relgion even if it isn't the truth. Hope is want makes abused spouses stay with abusive spouses. Hope can be dangerous or it can be the most helpful force imagiable. That aside here it doesn't matter, with love its never the love that mattered, its HOW you are loved. She apparently doesn't know how to, so people think its a simply romantic notion, but when reality comes and they see how you have to fight for it to be perfect, or even for it to grow, they give up. You could still be her friend just because she isn't commented to you, doesn't mean you can't still love her unconditionally, but its hard and beyond most of us to do that. Its the way it was met to be thou, but not the way it is. Just remember that love is never enough, its HOW you use it that counts, good luck with your future endavours with the heart..... but if you could keep it unconditional you could save this lady from hell on earth, but thats really is beyond the purpose most of us have..... lets just say love doesn't make sense to most people because they really just don't understand it.