Son is away at grad school and thinks that we should let his college dorm mate and friend stay at our house for two days even though he won't be there. His room is taken over by his brother and the couple would have to sleep on my living room sofa.I have met this person only three times. I am not keen on this and said no. Now my son is livid with me. Am I wrong?
2007-09-22 06:24:01 · 6 answers · asked by adirondack 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
no they're not your children and to be honest with you if you don't have a close relationship with your sons friends they're technically strangers and I dont let strangers stay the night.
2007-09-22 06:31:36 · answer #1 · answered by Rainey 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
If he's hyped up his family -- you -- as being understanding and helpful, willing to share and other good things, and already offered his friends a place to stay, he's probably embarrassed that you're not happy about it. My parents let any number of people crash at their house while their kids were in college, knowing that a hotel would be just too much out of the budget.
2007-09-22 14:37:28 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
It is your house-- it's your choice. However, being friendly to your kids' friends is a "nice thing to do" and may benefit your son at a later date as well (returning the favor). I would not consider this an out-of-the-ordinary request, esp. as they are college students (usually broke) and esp. if decent hotels in the area are expensive (SD, SF, NY, etc)
2007-09-22 13:34:44 · answer #3 · answered by a 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your son has probably already told them that it will be okay with you if they stay there, and he's "livid" because he's losing face with these friends. However, it is still your home, and your choice on who stays there.
2007-09-26 11:36:16 · answer #4 · answered by makeloans2 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's your house; you make the rules. When your son has his house he will make the rules. Explain this to him, if he's in grad school I'm sure he will understand.
2007-09-22 13:35:05 · answer #5 · answered by Mezmarelda 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You are free to accept or reject guests in your home if you wish. I'm sorry you're having this problem with your son.
2007-09-22 15:04:44 · answer #6 · answered by drshorty 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋