he sued my wife and i for full custody and it was awarded.
three months later he dropped her on our doorstep and said he couldn't handle it.
i have supported her ever since.
2007-09-22 05:25:30 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
at one point she thought the grass was greener on her father's side of the fence.
so we let her go so she could see just how bad it could get.
2007-09-24 02:22:04 · update #1
what started this was she called him for money for school clothes shopping and he said no.
as far as loving her, i consider myself the luckiest step parent in the world, to have such a smart,responsible,lovong and beautiful step child as my daughter, and i love her with all my heart.
2007-09-24 02:38:27 · update #2
As a step father you have no rights. Sorry to say. But your wife has the right to sue him for support. He really should be giving this in the first place! She may not get as much since she is remarried but the father does have a responsibility till the child is eighteen for support. Doesn't he even want to see her on week ends? Sounds to me that he sued just to get even and then when he really had the responsibility he didn't want it.
I have a friend that his wife got child support from him and remarried and was still getting it. Then when the girl got older she wanted to live with her dad. He took her to court and got child support from his X then. He thought it was only right. He did not get very much from her though but enjoyed getting it!
If I were you I would try to get my wife to do this. Why should this guy get away with not being a reponsible parent?
2007-09-22 05:41:49 · answer #1 · answered by craft painter 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
John you certainly do not have any rights to sue this man for child support but her mother most certainly does. You were aware when you came into the relationship that it was a package deal and so must have been willing to support this young girl at the time so why change your mind now. But if dad has the financial ability to pay for his responsibility of being this girls father than her mom should most certainly go after support.
2007-09-22 12:32:38 · answer #2 · answered by crazylegs 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would go to court and have him give up his rights as a father and legally adopt the child as yours. That way the child can have your last name and you can raise him/her as your own..Id worry about the sanity and safety of the child. That way, he cant come back n get her and cause mess in the childs life going back and forth. I bet his girlfriend wasnt up for it and he realized it was harder than he imagined. He is just a sorry Dad and you have been given the chance to be a good example and show him how its suppose to be done. The child needs you. I wouldnt worry about the child support. Its just an excuse to drag on his sorry self as a dad. He'd hurt more not being in the childs life.
2007-09-22 13:07:08 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you have no rights as a step parent, but the biological mother and the child can pursue support and custody, but it may be a long, expensive battle. why was he awarded custody to begin with?
2007-09-22 12:31:14 · answer #4 · answered by onceisenoughilearnedmylesson 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Poor kid. Unfortunately all you can do is take him back to court for custody or call the police and have him arrested for child abandonment.
2007-09-22 12:34:13 · answer #5 · answered by Suburban Mom 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you should, and if you do not, your wife should. and you should probably bring that up to someone in government so that can become possible (if it is not already)
but yes you should
2007-09-22 12:31:53 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
actually its the mother. no, wouldnt havent any claim.
2007-09-22 12:31:52 · answer #7 · answered by just hanging around 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋