I am a mum of 2 - ages nearly 3 and 1 and half.
I am doing an access course and hope to go to uni to study radiography. I cant help feeling guilty and wondering if my kids will resent me for this and if i will regret it myself. As a single mum I am trying to do the best for my children and want them to have a good future but feeling really guilty about it also. Any one is the same situation and what are others thoughts on the issue, all answers welcome
2007-09-22 05:14:10 · 21 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
I agree with Jenni, plus...
GUILT? Why feel guilt, when you are investing in yourself for the future of your family, feel no guilt!
You and your children will actually benefit from time apart, they will be socialising with others and gaining confidence while you are not around. After all they will need to do this when they start school in a few years.
This is an investment in your future, which includes your children too! You must take all opportunity that comes your way! How can feeling guilty shouldn't come into this, as long as they are adequately cared for then there is no issue at all.
I am sure the children will approve that you are not skint anymore! When you get the job of a lifetime.
Go for it, if you have got a babysitter and ambition. Good luck.
2007-09-22 05:22:19 · answer #1 · answered by My name's MUD 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I've just finished uni, my daughter is now 6 and I did a full-time foundation course and a degree during that time. It is possible, but I think you need planning, organisation and take as much help as you can - do your family live nearby? (Mine live miles away and for the most part were frickin' useless anyway, hahaha.) Also, be prepared for giving up sleep!
You CAN do it, loads of single mums are at uni and manage! If the workload gets too much, see if it's possible to repeat a year, or to drop back to part-time. Lecturers can be very accommodating!
Good luck, I'm very proud of you, fellow single sista! *does fancy handshake/high 5 combo*
2007-09-22 05:25:28 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
of course u can be a good mum and go to uni, if u are fulfilled in your career ambitions then u will be happy and u r also working to make a better life for your children. my daughter has a one year old who arrived in her 2nd year at uni, she took a year off and is going back this year 2 days a week, she also works 2 days a week so hes having to go to nursery, i would still consider her a great mum and she is working very hard so that her son has a good future.
2007-09-23 11:45:25 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am a single mom of two kids (ages 6 and 9) and I currently work at a school and am going to college full time as well. The key is quality of time spent with your kids rather than quantity. In the grand scheme of things, you will have your degree in a few years and be able to better provide for your little ones and they won't remember the time you had to spend in school but rather the fun things you have done together in your quality time together!
2007-09-22 05:25:09 · answer #4 · answered by Jenni 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Good for you. In years to come your kids will look back with great pride at their Mum.
I am a single mum too and about to start Uni again - it is a hard choice but in the long term I know it will benefit us all much more if I get this qualification.
2007-09-22 08:16:28 · answer #5 · answered by Noodle 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Of course you can still be a bloody good mother to your children and study full time. A few years of study while they are young will do them no harm. Plus they will grow up knowing how hard you have worked to provide for them and it will also set a good study or work ethic.
Granted, you will have to work hard and juggle abit, but well worth it once you reach your goal.
Well done to you for taking control of your future. Your children will (when they are a little older) be very proud of their mum for everything you will have achieved.
2007-09-22 05:27:13 · answer #6 · answered by jue 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm in the same boat right now! I have 3 yr old twins and am going back to get my degree. It will be hard but they won't really remember the few times that we'll be leaving them to make their lives better! You can always make it up to them by spending quality time when you're not at school but remember, you're going back to make a better life for all of you and that's a good thing! Good luck!
2007-09-22 05:27:32 · answer #7 · answered by Rox 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Of course you can be a good mum and still get an education. I did and was able to earn more to take care of my children. If you are in a job you love and you have enough to be comfortable you will be a happier person and a better mum.
2007-09-22 05:24:02 · answer #8 · answered by Diane M 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You've proved yourself a good mum by worrying about the consequences, you will regret it if you don't do it. Never feel guilty about trying to make a better life for you and your kids.
2007-09-22 05:26:34 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think it's brilliant that you want to further yourself to provide even more for your children, and you are also being a very good role model for them - you will show them that you can accomplish anything if you put your mind to it and the importance of aiming high.
I bet it's going to be hard work but when your studying is complete and you are in the job you want it will all be worth it!!
2007-09-22 05:25:35 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋