my boyfriend is 21 years old, he doesnt have a job, he doesnt go to college, he just hang out with friends and drinks and smoke and all that. i broke up with him and told him he needs to get a job and stop frinking and smoking in order for us to get back together,. he said he promise me he'll do all that cuz he doesnt want to lose me. but he said he wants me to be with him while he changes, should i tell him no when you change i'll get back with you or get back with him now?
2007-09-22 04:59:36 · 22 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
If he doesn't change now, what makes you think he will change when in a relationship with you?
2007-09-22 05:02:35 · answer #1 · answered by xiaozelda 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Get back together with him when he stops drinking all the time, stops smoking, and gets a job, maybe you could even help him with all of this, but just as friends for now. Hope this helps.
2007-09-22 12:05:36 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
In order to get him changed stay away from him.Tell him that you can have me only if you stop smoking, drinking and get a job. Tell him you will come to him next time only when he does what you said to him to do. Also tell him tht what you are telling him to do is for his own good. He is the one who will benefit from it. Go back to him only when he is changed.
Good Luck, I hope he changes because i can notice you love him and worried about him thts why u asked us this question.
2007-09-22 12:04:40 · answer #3 · answered by ][)ee\/\/ana 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I personally think that you should be there for him, but that doesn't always mean you have to have a relationship at this point. Sometimes people just need a friend to help them along the way of getting on a right path, you might be that friend. If you are able to help him change himself, then who knows maybe there will be a great chance of getting back together. :) goooood luck.
2007-09-22 12:04:37 · answer #4 · answered by soccerkickchic23 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i'd say "listen i lov u,but ur lucky i even gave u a second chance,now if u really do want to b with me ull understand y i want 2 wait so just 4 a little while ,while ur going trough that change let's just be friends. "cause u dont want 2 get involved in something that ur not sure about.
2007-09-22 12:13:40 · answer #5 · answered by BeKy* 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You could get back with him now and give him a time limit like one month and if he doesen't have a job by the end of the month leave him and don't look back..
2007-09-22 12:05:37 · answer #6 · answered by Confused 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Rule #1: Never try to change a guy.
Rule #2: Guys never change.
Rule # 3: If you feel that you have experienced Rule# 2, take another look at Rule #1 and move on with your life.
2007-09-22 12:04:26 · answer #7 · answered by Yulik MahBaht 4 · 0⤊ 2⤋
sweet heart.. he is never going to change for YOU... he has to want to change for himself. Tell him he needs time to figure out what exactly he wants. Tell him that his behavior has no place in your life and if HE really cares about you.. he would want better for you, would want you to be with someone who it not a loser, a moocher and some who has goal and ambitions in life. if you get back with him now... He will NEVER change!
2007-09-22 12:04:44 · answer #8 · answered by Sunshine_Diva 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wait until you see the actual changes
2007-09-22 12:02:50 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Wait. If you get back with him before he changes, then what reason would he even have to change if he already has you back?
2007-09-22 12:04:32 · answer #10 · answered by cindos_69 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋