In many ancient cultures men were allowed to have many wifes. When you read some accounts of ancient history the simple act of having sex with a woman made her your wife. Has the one woman with one man become a standard for todays society or simply a religious value pushed on society? Are there any of you that are married and do not care if your husband or wife sleep around? Just curious to know...thanks.
2007-09-22 04:45:55 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
Even if religion isn't a part of it, adultery always hurts SOMEONE. That, in and of itself makes it wrong.
2007-09-22 04:55:14 · answer #1 · answered by Devoted1 7 · 7⤊ 1⤋
The main reason for life is to produce an offspring to carry on the family gene. Us human has put restriction on how this is done unlike the rest of the animal kingdom, where there's no restriction. Depending on where you live or in some case what you do in life it is legal and illegal to commit adultery.
Religion has always banned adultery and many people have been convicted because of this. US Law states that it is illegal to have more than one partner in marriage at any given time. It does not state that adultery is illegal, just should not be practiced. If you were in the military then adultery is illegal and punishment of such is confinement and/or loss of pay, discharge, and etc.
Religion is another form of membership where we have the option to join. In doing so if we join then we must abide by the laws stated forth. Any breakage of the law, punishment must be imposed.
In general religion has some factor, but it's the human society on what is right and what is wrong. In ancient times it was okay to have more than one wives. It was okay to married at the age of 12. It was okay to put someone who committed a crime in front of the public to be stoned. All these practices are now considered illegal and immoral. As the human society evolve later on in life, it may come to a point where drinking alcohol is illegal again. It will be illegal to be married until the age of 25.
So no one is right or wrong. What should matter is it right in your view of adultery.
2007-09-22 05:13:02 · answer #2 · answered by redhotchillidawg 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
That's why in Islam a man is allowed up to 4 wives. Marrying another woman you happen to fall in love with while still being married with one wife means that this second woman would have all the rights accorded to her new status as a wife.
Thus the man will have to treat her as entailed in the marriage institution, just as he has treated the first wife-- this basically means providing for them financially and sexually.
The man is also responsible for all the children from these marriages.
In this, we see that God created men with the natural desire and capability to love and provide for more than one. If the marriage institution limit is just one-man one-wife, in the name of modernity and feminism whatever you might call it, this natural desire can take place in the form of adultery or extra-marital affair. Eventually, the one who has the potential to lose out is not just the woman who's having the affair, but also the man, his wife eventually the society.
Hence polygamy is not a dirty name in Islam. Women who might otherwise be in the streets, some other men's mistress, or spinsters who can never get married, have the chance of having their own family and children who will take care of the previous generations.
We already see the heavy economic costs governments and societies have to pay with an ever shrinking birth rate and increasing ageing population in the so called advanced world.
Modernity? More like an absurdity.
2007-09-22 05:16:38 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
I think this is a commandment because adultery produces jealous rages which could cause someone to be killed.
There are many countries that allow a husband to have more than one wife, as are there countries who allow women to have more than one husband.
In these countries, there is still adultery.
In Biblical times, men still committed adultery even though they had several wives. Sleeping with this other woman whom he was not married was still considered wrong.
2007-09-22 05:04:12 · answer #4 · answered by Me 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Both.
Adam & Eve are the model of what God created. notice it is not Adam & Eve & Mary & Jane & ........
yes i am sure many will pipe in how the Patriarchs and others had many wives. This is because of men, not God.
The human heart can serve but one master. when your heart is divided you will love one and hate the other. Just look at all those bad examples of the Patriarchs & others having multiple wives. not a good thing.
We are created to Love wholly & demand to be wholly loved. when ever another violates the law of priority our relationship suffers. strife & offense are just the begining.
if a person is so unable to control thier sexual impulses and violates the trust of their spouse what else are they unable to control? what other virtues will they violate?
Loyalty & Respect are foundation stones of a civilized people.
2007-09-22 05:18:36 · answer #5 · answered by lewbiv 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
God never 100% approved of the many wives type thing, and it caused many problems e.g. Solomon was turned away from God because of his many wives. I think you should be able to have 1 man and 1 woman, who love each other, but, above all, love God. If you have a husband or wife who loves someone else, you can't say it won't cause trouble?? And you're not going to trust him/her are you?? You want to have someone to love, that loves you. Of course God fills that, but sometimes its nice to have a husband AND God.
2007-09-24 05:46:36 · answer #6 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's wrong because God says it is, and it's dangerous because the person engaging in this form of misconduct puts himself AND his wife at risk for sexually transmitted diseases, some of which can be fatal.
If harms the marriage bond, it damages the children emotionally, it damages the mates ability to trust that person again....all future relationships will be judged by this one, if the marriage is dissolved.
It's hurtful, and it's ugly and selfish to put someone through this kind of torture.
2007-09-22 05:50:42 · answer #7 · answered by sugarbee 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Adultery is bad both ways. It goes against most religions. Even without religion, committing adultery is still bad. Imagine if your husband slept with another woman, wouldn't you be heart broken?
2007-09-22 05:00:33 · answer #8 · answered by Hope 5 · 2⤊ 1⤋
It’s a sin because God says so. Why he says so we don’t really know, but my guess is because sexual intercourse leads to children, and it’s not right to risk having a child with someone you don’t intend to marry, meaning the child will not be raised by its mother and father.
It’s objectively sinful. That means it's a sin for everyone, regardless of what religion they are. Some people may not believe it's a sin, but reality is not determined by what people believe.
You better believe I care whether my wife sleeps around. Anyone who doesn’t care, obviously doesn’t care about his marriage.
2007-09-22 04:52:58 · answer #9 · answered by Agellius CM 3 · 4⤊ 2⤋
When God makes laws they are for good reason, and for our benefit. Illicit sexual practices are contrary to what beneficial love ultimately requires and produces, and are proven to be deleterious to both individual and society, esp. in the long term, physically and otherwise.
Regarding the physical aspects, see the related sections at
http://peacebyjesus.witnesstoday.org/RevealingStatistics.html
But there is room at the cross for those who who want Jesus over sin, and truly turn to Him in repentance and faith. Praise God who offers so great salvation, at His great expense and righteousness!.
2007-09-22 05:02:14 · answer #10 · answered by www.peacebyjesus 5 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Monogamy is a function of culture, just as polygamy has been and still is in some cultures. It's ultimately pointless to argue over who has it "right." If you're happy and satisfied in a monogamous relationship, good for you. If others are happy and satisfied with polygamy, good for them. Nothing should be forced on anybody, and that goes both ways.
Of course, traditionally, polygamy has revolved around the idea that women are chattel, the property of their husbands, and just as he might enjoy owning several cars, he might likewise enjoy having a selection of indentured women. But there's nothing in the abstract to condemn polygamy as inherently "immoral."
2007-09-22 04:54:09 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 3⤋