me and my boyfriend are two different religions! help please!!?

Question

my pastors talked about how you shouldnt date someone who isnt the same religion as you. My pastor said break up with him. I told my best friend, who was there that i dont want to stop dating him because i feel like i can lead him to Christ.The other thing he is a weak wiccan. like he doesnt really follow his religion at all.. hes just there. he used to be a hardcore christian growing up and then the church offended him and i dont know why so he went to wiccan, which he really doesnt follow it. he is also a marine and hes in iraq right now. when i talk to him its only once a month for 5 minutes. so to break up with him while hes in iraq is harsh and mean. which i would never do. i want to talk to him about it when he gets home. whereas my best friend wants me to do now because she says its sinning until he gets home because were "unequaly yoked."i love this man and i refuse to leave him. it bothers me a little that hes not a christian and then it doesnt. should i leave my boyfriend?

Answer 1

First, it is not sinning to talk to a guy in Iraq for 5 minutes a month and tell him that you love him.

Second, when the bible talked about people who were unequally yoked, they were thinking about people who grew up in completely different religions and had different value systems. A guy who got angry at church and prays now to a tree to piss of his mom isn't the same as dating a Buddhist who has no idea what christmas is or what you believe in.

There may be other things in your relationship to examine, whether he will respect your religion, and whether you can raise a family united together, but these things will be decided after he returns.

I have heard the unequally yoked argument many times, and I've seen friends kill friendships over the idea of it, and I have never, ever seen it work out where the person was glad that they did it. Never! They have always regretted leaving because of that, they would have split up anyway, but it's like they blame it all on Jesus, and that reasoning always fails.

Stay will him, support him. You're both americans with the same belief system, even if he's rejecting right now. Let him come back and then date and see if this is what you want and whether this is a good future for you or not.

Answer 2

Where being in a reltionship with someone of a different religion can be difficult, it is very possible.

First off, let me say, I am Wiccan. My father is a United Methodist Minister, my mother is an ex-Catholic Nun, yet we all survived in the same house, even though we all had very different views of religion.

The key is respecting each other. If he respects and supports you in your faith and you respect and support him in his faith, then you are going to do well. This dosen't mean you have to agree or follow the faith, but simply understand what it is he believes and why, and he does the same thing for you. Giving each other the time and space to practice you own faiths as well.

You are not doing anything sinful, and if you love him you and he will be able to work through it all. Don't go into any relationship feeling you can change someone's views, however. If you do love him, then you will accept him for who he is, and that includes his faith, just as he would accept you for you.

One thing my dad told me when I explained to him that I found my path as a Wiccan, he said, "No matter who you pray to, God, Jesus, Jehova, The Goddess, Buddah, or Fred, as lnog as you have faith, and that faith makes you feel good about who you are and others around you, then you are doing the right thing. In the end, all religions are very much the same, it is just understanding that different people simply use different terminology."

If you ever want to learn more about working with eachother, feel free to contact me.

Answer 3

Choosing a partner with common religious beliefs is by far much easier and leads to more harmony in a relationship which is why the Bible says to not be unequally yoked.....if one person's beliefs pull them in one direction and the other person's beliefs pull them in another direction, it will put a strain on the relationship that may eventually destroy it and any children from it will also suffer. You shouldn't have to lie or give up your beliefs to please someone else when in the end, it's all for naught and the relationship ends anyway....you should be able to feel confident and secure in your partner. Some people give up their faith just for that reason. Better to close it now and go your separate ways than to find out in 10 or 15 years that it never was to last and go through all the more misery and grief then. God knows what's best for his children and there is much wisdom to learn from reading and following the Bible.
You can urge him to come back to the church but only if he's willing and honest about it.

Answer 4

You will have to decide what to do. Do you love him more than your desire to follow the advice of your best friend, pastor and bible?

Does your love overrule your religion?

Answer 5

Your going to listen to your pastor??? What happened to you have a mind of your own listen to yourself?

Answer 6

Yes you should.And besides if you question it then you already know it's wrong.And besides why would you want to date anyone who doesn't believe in God?

Answer 7

I would wait untill he is home.However if his religion is not a true one then please dont let him take you the wrong way.However you did not say what yours or his is.So i dont know if either one of your religions are right.Some are false

Answer 8

your pastor is an idiot. i guess two people of different races shouldn't date either. how "christ-like" of him.

what an F ing joke.