last night we had a bible study at my youth pastors house about how you shouldnt date someone who is the same religion as you. My pastor said break up with him. I told my best friend, she was there.. well i told her i dont want to stop dating him because i feel like i can lead him to Christ and she". The other thing he is he is a weak wiccan. like he doesnt really follow his religion at all.. hes just there. he used to be a hardcore christian growing up and then the church offended him and i dont know why so he went to wiccan, which he really doesnt follow it. he is also a marine and hes in iraq right now. when i talk to him its only once a month for 5 minutes. so to break up with him while hes in iraq is harsh and mean. which i would never do. whereas my best friend wants me to do because she says its sinning until he gets home because were "unequaly yoked."i love this man and i refuse to leave him. it bothers me a little that hes not a christian and then it doesnt.should i leave him?
2007-09-22 04:01:03 · 19 answers · asked by britt4life718 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
You are unequally yoked.However, I wouldn't break up with him while he is in Iraq. You can tell him that you do not want to discuss Religious beliefs in your letters, but do wait until he is home and out of harm's way for a discussion on what the two of you want to do about your differing religious beliefs. Don't worry about things right now, just pray that he comes home safe. I'll keep him in my prayers as well as I pray for our safe return home of our troops every day. God Bless!
2007-09-22 04:10:30 · answer #1 · answered by Pamela V 7 · 4⤊ 2⤋
If you LOVE HIM, you should be willing to let him go.
Love wants the BEST for another person.
If you are truly a strong christian, then you would realize that you are not only being rebellious toward the God you say you serve (by being involved with a non christian which is clearly stated in the Bible NOT to be Gods will for YOU) but you are presenting to those around you the wrong picture of what a "strong christian" looks like.
A strong christian doesn't become involved with someone who is into the "occult", let alone someone who is not a believer themselves.
There is no such thing as "missionary dating"...if you really trust and know God , then break up with him and allow God to reach him.
You seem the weak christian, young lady, and while I dont want to seem harsh with you, you have some growing up to do. You obviously have NO idea how playing with fire such as you are can cause serious damage to both you and to this young man. You are being strong willed and selfish. Put your own wants aside and do what is best for this young man.
Break up with him, dear one.
2007-09-22 04:20:12 · answer #2 · answered by goinupru 6 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Personally, I think you two should break up not because he's Wiccan and you're not, but because you don't really have any respect for his beliefs. Lots of women (and a fair, but lesser amount of men) seem to hold onto the fruitless belief that they can somehow "change" their significant other. This almost always fails miserably, so when one finds oneself in that situation, it's best to just end the relationship on a civil note, before people get angry or pregnant or married.
It's true that there is a passage in the Christian Bible that people of different religions or "tribes" shouldn't intermarry, and that pretty much holds true today. While interfaith relationships *can be* healthy and long-lasting, it takes very strong individuals to make it work -- you may be strong in some aspects, but the fact that you want to change your boyfriend's religion shows me, as well as others that you're not strong enough to make this relationship work long-term. Furthermore, if you two had children together, who would raise them in which faith? Or would you just raise them to choose their own religion as long as they remain good people? Have you even thought this far ahead?
Personally, it seems like your relationship with this gentleman was fun while it lasted, but doesn't have any long-term potential and never really did. My advice is to wish him the best, but move on. If you want to remain friends with him, that's good, but just as when he was your boyfriend, don't try to change him, or it will only end in anger and bitter feelings.
2007-09-22 04:25:50 · answer #3 · answered by Ruadhán J McElroy 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
OK, Hun, calm down.
The only people in the entire world who have any kind of right to tell you what to do here would be your parents, unless you are over eighteen.
Your pastor and your best friend may have the right to advise you, but that's as far as it goes. You must make your own decisions.
I agree with you, breaking up with him while he is off fighting in Iraq would be very harsh. Do you think you could live with yourself if you did that, and then he was killed in the fighting? I know that's extreme, but it could happen...
Alot of people seem to leave Christ because some church offends them. I know, it's silly...but evidently these folks get the idea that if one church offends them, it must be something wrong with Christianity, or maybe with Christ, Himself.
My own opinion is that they never really got to know Christ. From what you tell us, you may be right...this guy needs a strong Christian woman to lead him home.
No offense, but your friend sounds a bit...ummm...full of herself. Maybe you should just tell her to mind her own ______ business...
(You seem like a nice person. Maybe you ought to consider whether hanging around with these holier than thou types is another sort of "unequal yoke"?? Just a thought...)
2007-09-22 04:30:09 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
The BEST thing about Christ was and is that he is Tolerant and LOVING...Sounds like your pastor does not have ALL the Answers nor should anyone...
YES to break up with your boyfriend while he is in Iraq would indeed be Harsh and hardly a tolerant nor Loving attitude.
People Change and this is the Essence of Growth and Creation. If you Love this man and he Loves you--ride it out...
I have known atheists who became Catholic Priests and vice verse--nothing is immutably cast or written in stone.
Sounds to me like the both of you are young and with much Time to learn and to grow and to LOVE !!!
2007-09-22 07:25:48 · answer #5 · answered by Angel Heart 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
This weas my original response...
"I want the 3 minutes of my life back that it took to read to this ridiculous post................"
So which one of you whiny b*tches reported it?? have the balls to step up and say so, if it was you...and judging by the other responses which were worse, I'd guess it was... britt your a bigger b*tch for that than listening to your "youth pastor". If that response made you report it your gonna love this one......
piss off you whiny t*at, your bf is better off in Iraq than putting up with your neurosis here stateside, have a nice day you vapid, clueless, mongoloid.
2007-09-22 06:17:49 · answer #6 · answered by Thrudvang 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
well, if he is so weak (?), it shouldn't be a problem for such a strong christian. and to date someone b/c you want to convert them is just wrong. is that some new cultic practice? can you date more than one? i can make myself available and you can try to covert me. sounds silly huh? love means accepting someone the way he is not how you think he can be or may turn out to be. if you are dating him b/c you want to convert him, do him a favor and break up. and if you are staying with him b/c he's in iraq and you don't want to look bad, break up. think about him. believe me he'd rather not be with you thinking the way you are thinking. if you don't believe me , ask him.
2007-09-22 04:21:07 · answer #7 · answered by The Duke 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
If you love him stay but don't try to lead him any ware ether he'll follow or not. If you only like him and the relationship is not that serious then leave it will be better for both of you in the long run.A pagan and an unbeliever are not the best match for a marriage
2007-09-22 04:09:28 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 2⤋
Evangelistic dating is what Christians do when they can't find a mate in their religion. It seldom works, and is against God's Word that says to not be unequally yoked.
Your friend might fend religion just to get you hooked, and your life will be miserable as you each try and convince the other that their position is correct. You need a common ground to walk.
Satan is very real, and you those who don't know his power are his greatest victims. See http://abiblecode.tipod.com
RESIST THE DEVIL AND HE WILL FLEE FROM YOU.
Shalom, peace in Jesus, Ben Yeshua
2007-09-22 04:21:51 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 2⤋
well the bible does say don't be unequally yoked and that is for a reason...its to help you. to encourage you to have a partner that is going to help you on your journey with christ.
and its generally not a good idea to missionary date...which is dating someone in hopes to lead them to christ.
however, you need to pray about this and ask God to lead you to make the right decision at the right time...
and if that is a sincere prayer, He will do it.
2007-09-22 04:10:58 · answer #10 · answered by saraJ 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋