I just found out one of my best friends has been dating my ex (who I still love) she has never told me and when we do go shopping and stuff she's just her happy self and has nver even told me and they have been dating fo 2 weeks. What should I do?
2007-09-22 03:58:55 · 10 answers · asked by Shells 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
stop talking to her. obviously she doesnt concider yourself a ''friend''. If she hasn't tell you its because she is probably scare of what would you think of her. i would recomend you to break her firnedship with her and start new friendships with someone that will always talk to you about whats happening to her/his life, and never date one of your ex guys. good luck.
2007-09-22 04:03:52 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Why would you want to do anything? You may still love your ex-, but clearly he doesn't still love you. It's over... that's why he's your ex- and not your current lol. You never did have any "ownership papers" on him anyway, so he is perfectly free to date whomever he chooses, and your friend is in no fault for going with him because he is no longer with you.
I can well understand why she didn't make a special point of telling you she had started dating the guy. She felt that it might make you feel awkward, and she was sensitive enough of your emotions to not want to do that. It was probably taking her some time to figure out exactly how she could tell you about it eventually IF the relationship looked like it might be going to last. Two weeks is not very long. For all she knows her relationship with the guy could just fizzle.
In the meantime, in your place I wouldn't say anything at all. But if you do decide to raise it with her, and let her know that you've found out, make light of it, and reassure her that it's no biggie. Obviously if this person is your ex- it means that at least for one of you, the relationship wasn't working. He's probably not the right one for you, and perhaps he is the right one for your friend. If she's happy at the moment, be happy for her, and don't be a "dog-in-a-manger" about it.
As for your Header question, Is it hard to be a good friend?" Being a good friend should never BE hard as long as you guard against your own little bit of jealosy slipping in there. We all have to be diligent about that, because it's something that can sneak up on you and do harm where there is no need for it.
2007-09-22 04:24:02 · answer #2 · answered by sharmel 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She probably didn't want to tell you because she knows your feelings about him. You are not together, and they were both single. Maybe she has always had some sort of feelings for him and never told you. It is a touchy subject for a friend to date an ex's of another friend. It is a new thing for them and it is possible she didn't want to say anything about it since she just started the relationship.
You can sit down with her and let her know you found out and you are upset she didn't tell you. Best friends usually share a lot. It was inevitable for you to find out, it would have been better finding out from her. I hope your friendship doesn't end. It will probably be awkward, especially since this was a recent break up??
Sit down with her and discuss your feelings. At least you will be able to communicate and get it off your chest. You can decide about your friendship between each other then. I wouldn't let a man come in the way of a best friendship. You may find someone out there who is better suited to for you. Best wishes to you. My prayers are with you.
2007-09-22 04:07:00 · answer #3 · answered by Stephanie F 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
even though u still have feelings for him, u should try to be happy for ur bffl. I know its hard, but u have to support her even if u really dont want to. It will make u a good friend and a good person.
The only reason why she didnt tell u was because she was afraid u would get upset. U cant let her know ur upset b/c then she will feel guilty and break up with him.
And if u really really have strong feelings for him, try to hint her that so maybe she wont make any "awkward" moments. (kissing, hugging, ect)
2007-09-22 04:09:06 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask as calmly as possible. Don't blow up at her. Just ask her.
It's possible that they just fell in love and your friend felt really bad though, and so didn't tell you.
Even though that's not good friend behaivior, nobody's perfect. Give her a second chance.
Or maybe you ex is doing that to make you jealous cause he still likes you.
Hope this helps!
Kymee
2007-09-22 04:05:10 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Find yourself a different best friend. If she were a true friend she would have more respect toward you're feelings.
2007-09-22 04:03:17 · answer #6 · answered by Angel Unaware 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I think thats pretty mean of yoru friend... Talk to her about it... Ask her why she is doing it, and why she is acting like nothing is wrong, she really shouldnt.. =S
Good luck =]
2007-09-22 04:02:15 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Confront Her.
2007-09-22 04:02:02 · answer #8 · answered by juliet88 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
nothing because that guy is your ex and he dose not love you so let her be!
2007-09-22 04:03:09 · answer #9 · answered by jason 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
no.
2007-09-22 04:01:05 · answer #10 · answered by crush 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋