Sorry i cant find your question in yahoo, i saw the video and think the girlfriend is an a-- how can you take care of him during his hospital stay and then when he is discharged leave him??? What kind of person does that? Whats the matter? Did she finally realize that her sex life was no longer happening and then decided to leave him because of his paralization? If i could meet with her i have a few things to say to her, as for the guy he was in an accident and didnt ask to become paralized. If i was not married i would gladly take care of him if you really love someone you stand by them no matter what the situation. If my hubby was god forbid paralized i would take care of him till the day i die! This b---- should find a guy now and deserves to be mistreated by him or maybe she should become paralized and see what its like when no one wants to take care of her!! A pretty face but a no brainer is what she is!
2007-09-22 02:41:42 · 18 answers · asked by robin r 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I absolutely agree with you. If she really loved him, she would not leave him. Poor guy.
2007-09-22 03:00:48 · answer #1 · answered by Cowgirl26 4 · 1⤊ 2⤋
I saw it on 20/20 last night. I am probably older than the rest of you answering this questions but everyone may not feel the same as you. Yes, they had been together for a couple of years. Yes, he did become paralyzed. Yes, she did take care of him for a while. But you have to think about how many relationships break up even when there is not injury involved. If she had stayed with him it would have been because she felt sorry for him and not because she loved him. Things change in every relationship. You can sit there an say you would do this or you would do that but to tell the truth, you don't actually know what you would do in the long term if you were in that situation. I truly don't think he would have wanted her to stay if he knew it wasn't right for her. He seems to be doing OK from what I saw last night on TV. He has a gorgeous new girlfriend who may end up being the love of his life. You don't need to be so judgmental. You really don't know anymore than what you saw on the program. Things may have happened that you are not aware of. The whole story is never told on those programs. Everyone is entitled to their own opinion and you probably think mine in cruel but I'm sure a lot of people think the same as me. You shouldn't wish the same kind of injury occurs to her to see what happens to her. I don't think sex was her reason for ending the relationship. Paralyzed people can still have sex but in different ways. Give the girl a break, she deserves to be just as happy as he is right now....
2007-09-22 10:09:54 · answer #2 · answered by Fran 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I saw the video too. Keep in mind that she was only a GIRLFRIEND. She was NOT his wife, and she therefore had no obligation to commit to him for the rest of his life. That conclusion should not change just because the man had an unfortunate accident. People who stay in a relationship to avoid hurting the other person's feelings are simply living a lie, and it does not make things easier. Everyone: if you want to demand commitment, GET A RING.
The fact that she stepped up to the plate and went above and beyond what could reasonably be expected of her does not mean she was obligated to do it indefinitely.
Notice that she waited for him to come HOME. Presumably, he had a family to take care of him, and you can bet she was well aware of that.
I would not have left the day of his homecoming, however, and it sounds like perhaps she did. That day should have been a day for celebration and not clouded by something painful. Even so, the fact that she did does not mean she was a bad person. Maybe she felt that this was the best time to tell him she was moving on because taking care of him at home under these new circumstances could have raised false expectations. To the extent she had already done so, she probably just did not want to dig herself in deeper.
2007-09-22 10:02:36 · answer #3 · answered by curiousme 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I think she loved him very much. The matter of children probably was on her mind. There would be a way for them to handle having children, the children would never have a dad they could play ball, swim, go to school activites or respond to their needs, physical or mental. She would also have to risk how her boyfriend would end up mentally. Being as young as he is, he would go through alot of depression, anger, feeling sorry for himself. If they had children, I don't think she could balance that with raising the children, changing his diapers, giving him baths and feeding him. I really think she loves him deeply, and if children were never involved, she would probably take care of him the rest of their lives. I bet her main concern was having children that would have a full time dad. When this young man did all these stunt rides, he knew there would be a great possibility he could get seriously hurt. If he loved HER enough, he might have considered not doing such dangerous stunts and leaving her without a normal life. There are always two sides to every story.
2007-09-22 10:09:55 · answer #4 · answered by The pink panther 5 · 1⤊ 2⤋
I'm amazed at how people are so quick to judge and condemn others calling this girl a b---- or a s--t.
A marriage is forever, a courtship is not.
How do you compare leaving your husband to this girl leaving her boyfriend? Hello!
He himself would probably tell you that he does not want to be with someone that is no longer in love with him.
Would you want someone to be next to you out of pity? She did the right thing.
Let he (or she) who's without sin, cast the first stone (or insult).
2007-09-23 20:45:58 · answer #5 · answered by igueln 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Since none of us were there to see what kind of relationship they had we really can't form a opinion. If they had a great relationship and she left because she could not handle taking care of him than it was for the best she left when she did instead of marrying him and neither one of them able to be happy. I am really sorry that the guy had to go through every thing he did but I am sure he has a good head on his shoulders and will be able to get through it with out her. I wish both of them the best everyone deserves to be happy and it ain't our place to tell them how to do it.
2007-09-22 09:57:54 · answer #6 · answered by ~~Just me~~ 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
This may be the same girl that had a magazine article as well.
If it is, that girl realized (completely unrelated to the paralyzation) that her and the guy werent compatible. But since the guy had just gone through "this tragedy" everyone expected them to be together forever.
She felt terrible, b/c on one hand... the guy she loved (even if now only as a friend) just went through something terrible and now she was going to leave him. But she also knew that she couldnt just stay with someone forever b/c she was expected to and b/c he went through something terrible.
I can totally imagine the pressure this girl must be under. Yes, if she left him b/c he was paralyzed.. she is a complete jerk. But you have to understand... we dont know the whole story. It must be so hard to have everyone (like you!) think your such a jerk when in reality you just dont want to stay in a relationship thats not working.
Cant you be more open midned?
2007-09-22 09:46:10 · answer #7 · answered by la428282 6 · 1⤊ 2⤋
No I don't agree with you. She did a heck of a lot for him while he was recovering and she only left him when he was able to carry on without her.
Would it be better if she stayed with him out of guilt and pity? Does a person in a wheelchair not deserve someone who truly loves him and wants to be there with him? Or does everyone believe that a person in a wheelchair is pathetic and should be grateful for anyone who stays with them out of sorrow and sadness? I don't.
2007-09-22 09:48:22 · answer #8 · answered by danashelchan 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You don't really know her side though. What if she didn't love him anymore before the accident? You shouldn't stay with someone just because they are hurt or anything like that, you have to be happy too or no one around you is going to be happy. I think if her reasons were more than the lack of sex, she did the right thing.
2007-09-22 09:49:42 · answer #9 · answered by Janet 2 · 1⤊ 3⤋
well ..she was young and scare and beside you can't be with someone forever just b.c it's the right thing to do or you feel sorry for them ,
she cared for him when he needed her the most everyday doing everything for him(alot of you won't even do that )
and when he was well enough she left him . it was a tough choice
2007-09-22 09:51:47 · answer #10 · answered by Sam 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
remember you are married .....she is single she tried for 10 months and realized how hard it will be looking after him.....for the rest of her life.. some people are just not cut out to do this....... better than marrying him and then leaving him....
2007-09-22 09:48:19 · answer #11 · answered by tinkerbell 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋