First off, please none of that, save yourself before marriage stuff, you clicked on this topic, you knew what it would be about, so if you're here to criticize and not help, move along.
My boyfriend and I have [or rather had] sex about 3-4 times a week once we decided to make that commitment to each other. Lately, he doesn't seem interested in doing anything with me physically, even the smallest things like making out. I decided to give him his space for a while, do what he wanted to do, i.e. cuddling and watching t.v., but after awhile I have needs too. I've talked to him about it and he says he's tired [even on a day that we did nothing but watched The Office]. I don't understand and I'm starting to become upset because I've never been good with words and I've always used actions to speak the loudest. I just don't understand and lately I've just felt like I'm not good enough, or pretty enough, or anything enough for him. I feel so rejected and I don't know what to do..
2007-09-22 02:40:53 · 14 answers · asked by Janet 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Nothing that will be said here will make you feel better about the situation. Believe it or not, men do not think about sex all the time as most women think. There was a time when my wife felt the same way you do now...I never seemed interested in sex or her for that matter. Eventually she brought it up to me and we talked it out. That's what you need to do with your bf. There might be something going on that you don't know anything about. Just don't go into it thinking that he no longer finds you attractive...set the right tone and he will open up to you. Good luck, wish you well.
2007-09-22 02:50:46 · answer #1 · answered by tygerland 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How sure are you that he's not cheating? Sorry, but if a guy is 19 years old, and he's suddenly stopped having sex with you, there is a reason for it. It's either medical, and he's too embarrassed to admit it, or he's having an affair, and he's hoping you won't catch on. If it's that much of an issue (and yes, sex is a big part of a relationship, and no sex is a big issue, especially it is just suddenly on the decline), then bring it up with him and get him to talk to you. Communication is the key here. One more thing - you don't need to have sex to prove that you love each other? What is that supposed to mean? I'd get to the bottom of that, as well.
2016-05-20 23:13:26 · answer #2 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Everyone and their mother will say that he's cheating on you. But if you know he isn't, then there are other things that may be going on here. Is he depressed? Smoking a lot of weed? On a high dose of anti- depressants? Under a lot of stress? Alcoholic? Any of these could also lead to a drop in sex drive. Unless you have any reason to think that he is going elsewhere, you should maybe look to see what's wrong with him because I don't think there is anything wrong with you. It's perfectly normal to feel rejected and unattractive because of the way he is feeling.
2007-09-22 02:54:26 · answer #3 · answered by misty h 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe the commitment killed his sex drive? Was the sex 3-4 times before the commitment or after it? If it was after it (as the sentence reads) then I don't know.
2007-09-22 02:46:07 · answer #4 · answered by flipperwipper 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
the best thing to do is to talk to him you must be honest with your husband tell him how you feel...you must do that or else you are not having a healthy relationship...maybe he is tired from work give him some space sooner or later he is going to go back to normal
2007-09-22 02:50:07 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
first reaction would be is he getting it somewhere else????
second reaction, are you putting enough effort into it, sounds like you are because you say you want it, it is unusual for a guy to be the one saying he is tired, check to make sure he is not going elsewhere
2007-09-22 02:49:46 · answer #6 · answered by please ask m 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
for me right now, stress has been hampering my sex life, however a guy friend of mine, for whatever reason, just doesn't have the sex drive after the newness of the relationship has wained off
2007-09-22 02:52:01 · answer #7 · answered by anon y 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first of all there is some problem with him. maybe u should try being the aggressor and see if that will work,if that doesn't work it may be time to move on.
2007-09-22 02:54:06 · answer #8 · answered by sarge 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Please , just ask. Men tell you whats on their mind. No games, No hinting, No interpreting body language. He's probably struggling with how to talk to you about it. I think you have a pretty good catch there.
2007-09-22 02:48:02 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, one of two things is going on: either he is sleeping with someone else- and is no longer "with" you-- or he is having trouble getting an erection...
talk to him!
2007-09-22 02:47:44 · answer #10 · answered by bronzebabekentucky 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋