My dad calls me a fudgepacker?

Question

Because I dont play sports and I am in the band, so he makes fun of me. He says stuff in front of others like " theres my little homooo or there is the little fudgepacker etc...." its getting old, sometimes he calls me Sally. I told him to back off, he just does it more and everyone thinks its funny

Answer 1

You do not have to put up with this it is verbal abuse.I would tell someone ( your mom a counselor)My dad was also verbally abusive,I know what your going through.You should confront him about how this is making you feel.If he says things in front of others you say something back.I dont know how old you are but I would see if this doesnt stop, you may need to find out if you could live with someone who will help build you up not treat you this way.He sounds like he has his own issues and is taking it out on you.Tell him that one,just dont go to his level.Wish you lots of luck-keep focusing on your education!

Answer 2

Call him on it in front of his boss or older relatives... say he thinks its ok to call you down and then if it still continues with 'fudegepacker' say 'you taught me well ' or ' grow up, its your own fear so you deal with it' don't answer him when he calls you Sally at all don't acknowlwdge it and he'll grow up on his own if he calls you a homo, call him one back and point out his ignorance in front of everyone. or, just ignore him comepletely and tell him he's ignorant to the fact and yell and freak on him and say just because I'm not your little jock you think there's something wrong with that add do you know that dad stands for dumb and dumber? or just call him "father-figure" and don't call him dad seeing as he's not being much of one to you right now this is going to end up in a fight and i think that's unavoidable. Collect as much info and insults toward him before it happens so you're ready....

Answer 3

Dont worry, the tables turn when hes wearing a diaper at 70 years old.
Tell him stories about his future living situation if he doesnt cut it out and grow up.
I hope he likes bed soars and waiting for a piece of toast for hours.

Sounds like your dad is younger than you. Sorry you have to live in that kind of situation.

Answer 4

Well, I too was like you as a kid and went on to have a 32 year career as a musician before I retired from it. There is nothing wrong with being artistic instead of some kind of macho jock. No offense, but your dad is acting like a jerk and needs to be told so.

By the way, I am straight.

I never encourage a kid to mouth off to their parents, but maybe come up with some kind of clever comebacks to put him in his place. Don't be crude, be clever. If he is willing to "dish it out" then he better be willing to "take it" as well.

A thought: Say " I am not gay dad, but the sheep herd is keeping me satisfied".

Answer 5

Your father is being verbally abusive and its probably about his own fears and ignorance. Where is your mother in all this? Or do you have a grandfather or uncle that you can talk to? A minister? I don't know how to keep your father from baiting you, but you could simply ignore it. Or simply call him on it in front of his friends. "and there's my dad, who thinks its ok to call his kid, names."

Answer 6

Sounds like your dad has a complete lack of tact. Where is your mother when this is going on? He sounds homophobic. have you tried telling him privately how this makes you feel? If you have and he still does it, maybe you should approach your mother. His behaviour is juvenile and insulting.

Answer 7

Your dad is stupid. Sorry.

Tell him - in front of whoever he says this to -
"Actually, I was never gay, but since dad started calling me that, I think he might turn me gay. Well done dad, I'm really enjoying it now."

And tell him the apple doesn't fall far from the tree!

Answer 8

get over it

Answer 9

maybe u deserve it ? nancy boy,

Answer 10

Abuse is abuse, even if it's verbal. Grow up a few more years and smack the hell out of him.