Last night my bf left his email signed in and since I previously caught him having an explicit, graphic, sexual chat with an ex of his, I decided to look at his email w/out his knowledge. I found some pictures of a different ex of his, sitting on his bed, in poses I didn't care to see. There were like 6 of them, I only looked at 2, that was enough. She wasn't nude, but close enough. I don't believe they were recently taken, but they were sent to her recently. I deleted them. I can say she was not pretty at all, she has a better body than me, but I know I am prettier than her, tho I'm not Ms America. (LOL). My ? is, should I ask him about them? I hated being in bed last night knowing she had been there. I have heard from him and others how much of a slut she is.
2007-09-22 02:29:55 · 12 answers · asked by msbrat 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Where is your pride in all this? You know he e-cheated before (-freak-) now he has erotic pics? (again -freak-)
How many times must he demonstrate his personality until you see it? Do you need a picture...oh wait, you have that!! I'm reminded of a comment by the author of "He's just not that into you: The No-Excuses Truth To Understanding Guys" Greg Behrendt (you may want to read this by the way). Women seem to think men change later in the relationship, but the reality of it is, 9 times out of 10, they never changed, women just weren't willing to accept the facts he's demonstrated through our love-tinted lenses. He's a player. Don't wait for that to change. Have a little more pride in yourself and find something better- they are out there. And another thing: you sound very young, too young for a sexual relationship, get out of the bed before you walk away with more than pictures. If he's sneakin' he's probably carrying, too.
2007-09-22 02:51:14 · answer #1 · answered by who me? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You saw pictures you didn't care to see because you looked into someone's account without consent. You can confront him about this freely if you're at peace with the equally disturbing revelation coming to light that you are the type of partner who will violate privacy subject to your own whims. How you look in comparison to her is irrelevant.(There's no shortage of pretty women, and in every way that matters beauty is as beauty does.) A better question is, how does your character stack up against hers?
2007-09-22 09:42:24 · answer #2 · answered by Captain S 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's o.k. to have pictures of your exes but not nude ones. I have pictures of some of my exes, even the ones that did me wrong. My boyfriend knows I have these pictures but they're put up so he doesn't see them, I don't look at them either, but they were a part of my life, my memories. None are nude but, some were taken at the beach.
2007-09-22 09:54:15 · answer #3 · answered by Ma'am 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh wow...hmmm I would not recommend confronting him. He will only get angry that you invaded his privacy, but I would keep my eyes & ears open. Don't play second fiddle to anyone.
I can imagine that holding that in is driving you nuts. So if you MUST confront him, do it in a calm manner...don't attack him. (I would prolly yell & scream & cry & leave...but that is just me & I dont handle things like they should be handled! lol)
You know your bf...I dont, so foresee how he will act if you confront him....see if it's worth it. Be prepared for his reaction.....
good luck. =)
2007-09-22 09:39:40 · answer #4 · answered by acksherly 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i would say to concentrate more on the present relationship - not the past ones. it seems silly to worry about him cheating - if he is just sending emails to exs/friends. i would say to express your concerns to him and let him know how you feel - but then leave it. learn to trust him - until he gives you a definite reason not to.
2007-09-22 12:56:55 · answer #5 · answered by litlbigdg 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes you should ask him about them and tell him that it makes you very uncomfortable . and hopefully if he is any kind of good person he will understand . If not and he gets upset then dump him cause he still has feelings for his ex and you dont need that . good luck .
2007-09-22 09:35:55 · answer #6 · answered by Kate T. 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
if it annoys you that your bf is still exchanging emails/fotos with his ex, shouldn't you break off with him? how careless of him to let his email on? or could it be he wanted you all along to see the fotos? don't fret. move out and on.
2007-09-22 09:38:42 · answer #7 · answered by frerevivian 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
talk to him and find out b4 jumping to conclusions & making this worst =)
u will feel better
2007-09-22 09:40:20 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you found those pictures you should have the right to know why the hell he has them. ask.
2007-09-22 09:34:29 · answer #9 · answered by Kitteh :3 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell him. he might get mad, but he knows he shoudn't have them. then dump him if his answer isnt good enough.
2007-09-22 09:34:44 · answer #10 · answered by Jessica Smith 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋