Ok, so i really am trying to become the best muslim i can be, especially during Ramadan. So i fasted today, and wanted to go Tarawih after Iftari. And my mom was reluctant to go, i mean the only reason she goes to Iftari is so she doesn't have to cook. So I had to ask her so many times, and i also wanted to attend Sunday School, but because of sum stupid reason, she won't let me go.
Im going to try my hardest to pray 5 times a day, but being a muslim, it is good to have attend the masjid regularly, and that is exactly what my parents are stopping me to do. I get so sad, because i don't have any friends, and i really want to build a strong relationship with my masjid. i don't know what to do. I do dua at night that Allah (swt) will put my parents on the straight path.. but it never seems to happen
My parents are in the way of me becoming a good muslim.. what shud i do?
2007-09-21 13:56:44 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
Thanks for your help guys This was a major obsticale for me in becoming a good muslim, since everyone i know was well associated with the masjid...
But your advice has helped me alot.
May Allah (swt) put you all on the right path inshalla leading up to heaven & may he keep you happy healthy, and religios.
I know, i suck at spelling =[
2007-09-22 03:56:51 · update #1
All things happen as the will of God. And god is merciful, and understanding. God knows all things in the hearts of men (and women). If your faith is strong, and you do all that you can to show your devotion - then you are a good Muslim.
Enjoy your Ramadan!
2007-09-21 14:11:48 · answer #1 · answered by Kicking Bear 5 · 3⤊ 1⤋
Bismillah.
Be patient. Remember that whatever happens, there is a reason behind it. Being a good Muslim doesn't necessarily mean praying in the masjid or attending dinners. It is to have the right aqeedah and strong iman.
Sometimes, the smaller things we do (smiling is a charity, praying at home is good, reading Quran in your free time) are more important. As for Sunday school, it isn't all that; definitely it helps alot (this is a Sunday school teacher talking!), but at the same times, you can get just as much knowledge reading articles, Islamic books, and listening to lectures.
Remember, patience is a virtue in every religion. Sometimes, Allah (God) doesn't answer our prayers because He has better things planned for us. And other times, He is testing us.
And Allah knows best.
2007-09-21 21:16:55 · answer #2 · answered by Asidd 1 · 3⤊ 1⤋
Don't pay any attention to the stupid or rude comments people make in answer to your question.
My opinion is that you should obey your parents while you are a minor. They are supporting you and have responsibility for you. (Naturally, if they tell you to do something bad, you have the moral right to disobey.) But during that time you can try to be as good a Muslim as you can. Your prayer life can become as deep as you want it to be. You can show charity and love to everyone. You can learn the Koran even more than you do now. After you're an adult you'll be able to follow your faith any way you like.
Good luck to you.
2007-09-21 21:25:06 · answer #3 · answered by Andrei Bolkonsky 2 · 3⤊ 1⤋
In the Quran, Allah(SWT) says that u must obey any order ur parents says unless they r telling u to stay away from Islam which is the only time u r allowed to disobey ur parents because being a good muslim should be the number one goal in ur life...... and i hope Allah(SWT) gives u patience and perserverance
2007-09-22 19:02:21 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
Hi sister great question! well allah had said that if you do good or try to do good u are in the right path and Allah comes first u know? so if u want to do something u have to figure out how u want to do it atleast u asked right? i kinda have the same problem too but my problem was my mom&aunts wouldn't let me saum but even though they said NO i still saumed and they didn't mind because i proved to them that i can do it so i think u should try ur best and always remember that Allah comes first i hoped i helped!
2007-09-21 22:27:48 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
Dear Saraa, you can try talking to your parents but in the end you should respect their wishes. Being a good muslim, means obeying and respecting your parents since they're the ones that take care of you and provide for you. Treating your parents with kindness is actually a kind of worship for God. God will reward you for that more than going to the masjid. Unless your parents are asking you to do things that are "haram" and that go against the teachings of Islam. It doesn't seem to be the case here. Even then, knowing that you should obey God before anyone else, you should still be respectful and kind to them. Going to the masjid is not obligatory. Keep your faith in God and continue to pray at home. Here is a quote on what it means to be a good muslim. God bless you...
"Muslim identity goes much deeper than headscarves and beards, or lack of them. Being a good Muslim is about exuding good character. It’s about being a good parent, a good neighbour, a good citizen. It’s about good business ethics, honesty, and trustworthiness; it’s about having a sense of integrity in our dealings with one another; paying our taxes and we’re driving a car, being considerate to other drivers. It’s about consistency in our public and private affairs. Being a good Muslim is about being a good human being. It’s about quietly going through your life in a way that people of other faiths can admire and want to emulate. The greatest compliment anyone can pay you is when they embrace Islam, because of the excellent personal example that you have set for them."
- Arshad Gamiet
2007-09-21 21:54:54 · answer #6 · answered by Randomistaken 2 · 7⤊ 1⤋
they're ur parents and u must respect them, as long as they don't ask u to forget Islam. u can do ur daily prayers at home, ur' a girl. for muslim women and girls, it's not mandatory to go to the mosque, cose their house is their mosque which is different for men who should attend prayers in God's house.
read Koran and everything will be alright, in cha Allah. slowly but surely, ur parents will understand.
keep the faith.
2007-09-21 21:12:30 · answer #7 · answered by Leon the african 6 · 3⤊ 1⤋
Well, if you want to be a good Moslem, you will have too practice some things you are probably not to familiar with. Here are videos to help you with that:
http://www.apostatesofislam.com/media/handcutting.htm
http://www.apostatesofislam.com/media/stoning.htm
Maybe you should talk to your parents a bit more about this....
2007-09-29 00:17:43 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sister, i can understand your sentiments. You are not the only one. You see this is part of the Jihad. You cannot control your parents but you can try and convince them politely and see if it works. I have a good website you can go throught since you are at home. I wish you all the Best and my love and respect to you!
http://www.themodernreligion.com/prophet/prophet_Sayings.htm#Jihad
2007-09-21 21:11:04 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 5⤊ 1⤋
u dont have to go to the masjid to pray, u can pray at home
2007-09-21 22:23:37 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋