my dad read my DIARY!?

Question

Yesterday i came home from school and my dad says to me:'sorry amy but i read your diary' so of course i am gonna be upset and to make things worse when i ask why he says it was just there and it should have been hidden (it was in my bedroom)but i think a bedroom is a private place so its okay to put things around ,right?

so then i find out my 17 yr old brother has read it too and is repeating all the private,rude and most personal things out so i have a right to be angry don't i?

well anyways my dad says to me:'amy,stop manipulating me with your moody ways' and i am like WHAT?

after all i didn't ask for anyone to read my diary !

by the way my bedroom is a box room and i have virtually no GOOD hiding places.

oh and its still not fair because under my brothers bed he has a loose floorboard were he hides things (but i can never get in the gap unfortunately)

Answer 1

That totally bites!. They shouln't hold anything against you that was written in private.Perhaps your dad read it ,thinking he was looking out for your welfare or something? But your brother too? That is sick! I feel so bad for you. I don't know what to do, you can't go back in time...
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Answer 2

My Dad Read My Diary

Answer 3

I know it is difficult for a parent to do the right thing all the time. Parents are only human. Your dad was wrong. We want to know our children, but there are ways to do that with your kids without destroying there trust, undermining privacy and condoning your brothers behavior.

It was wrong of your father and very wrong for your brother. Was your brother punished for the intrusion? It sounds as though you have been made to feel that your privacy does not matter at all.

NO! Under no circumstances should you break into your brothers stuff for retaliation. Two wrongs do not make a right, and you would then be considered a snoopy, nosy, no life so gotta read about yours kind of old lady gossip kind of person:}

I'm sorry I don't normally resort to name calling but gee whiz they must really not have much excitement in there own little worlds. I hope you don't decide to write any practical jokes or become a sensational writer and really give them something to excite there day! Can you imagine? I truly hope you can fight the urge not to write something that would tear your brother up and shake the very core of the snoopers world. Your dad would have a heart attack and then you could say next time ~ respect my privacy!

I come from a line of practical jokers and I was always turning someone a few shades of gray, .. anyway..


Unfortunately, that would not be right either. Sometimes doing the right thing is just plain no fun!

Answer 4

That may not be fair, but it is his house. Until you're out on your own, you are allowed use of a room in your parents' home. Neither he nor your brother should have read it. On the one hand, your 'moody ways' and pouting aren't going to get you anywhere. They owe you an apology, and if you happen to get one, forgive and forget. If you don't let it go. If your diary only contained private thoughts and ideas, it isn't right that they read it, but so what, it gives them a better insight into you. Keep it locked from now on. This isn't that big a thing to cause a family uproar over.

Answer 5

My opinion is that your brother should get in BIG trouble for reading your diary! He had absolutely no business reading it and then spreading stories about you, and you should ask your parents to THREATEN HIM or something!
But, as for your dad, well, I am a parent, too, so I can understand why he read it. He won't tell stories on you like your brother does. He CARES about you, and does not want to make your life miserable. Sometimes we parents do the wrong things, too, you know, and maybe it wasn't right of him, but, maybe he wanted to understand you better. I believe that if a parent suspects their child is doing drugs, having sex, depressed, or doing something that can harm them, a parent has the RIGHT to snoop. As long as a child lives with their parents, and the parent is paying the bills, then the child will just have to accept it that they do NOT have total privacy. Parents do these things because they want to understand their child, and keep them safe. It is done NOT to be snoopy, but out of LOVE. When your brother read your diary, it was NOT out of love---it was purely to snoop and get ammunition against you. Forgive your dad, and believe he had his reasons. But, tell Dad that the brother needs punished, and told to stop telling others what he read. That is just pure RUDE, and HATEFUL.
The best way to keep a secret is to NEVER write it down ANYWHERE, and never tell another. Perhaps you can find a place to hide your diary where NO ONE can ever find it.

Answer 6

I don't know how old you are, but I think dad was way out of line. He knew what he was doing was wrong, but did it anyway. Not a good example to set.

Brother, well they can be little piggies - he knew it was wrong too.

Try talking with your dad: "I felt really hurt when you said you read my diary, I feel that you might not respect or trust me"?

Nothing moody about trying some clear communication.

Get another diary - with a lock and key and hide the thing.

Answer 7

Your dad knows he is wrong thats whyhe out it right back on you when he said "stop manipulating me with your moody way." of course your going ot be moody, he went into your personal space and maybe he doesn't know the proper boundaries, maybe he was just trying to make sure you weren't on drugs or having sex or talkign abouth im in your diary. You will ask him to resoect your space and hide that diary were it can't be found, If he doesn't you may have to find other ways to write a diary so it won't get read, like I had to write my diary and email it to my personal email, one which no one has passwords to because mine kept disappearing off the computer, and I hid it in folders to.

Answer 8

Forgive them..Maybe your father wanted to know more about you, or did anything trouble you which you dare not to tell or ask. Your brother read your diary maybe is just a curious, his only 17. I think you should use those diary with locks if not DIY yourself. Or buy a safe box which have enough space to keep your diary. Don't get mad anymore this will age you.

Answer 9

Your dad and your brother were both bang out of order reading your diary and you're completely justified in being angry with them. As someone else said, your dad knows that what he did was wrong and that's why he's trying to turn it back on you (my mother does the same when she's done something wrong). As far as I'm concerned, any parent who breaks their children's trust like your father did immediately loses the right to know what's going on in those children's lives. From now on, tell your family nothing about what's happening with you and if they say anything, just tell them "Well then, you should've trusted me more and shouldn't have gone snooping".

Answer 10

Give your dad a message from me, a mom of 24yr old twin daughters, who also made that mistake even though my mother did it to me too.

Trust goes both ways and unless you had a darn good reason to violate your daughters trust of you (like drugs) then going into her room and reading her personal thoughts in a diary is so blatantly disrespectful it will take you years to undo what you did in a few seconds. You owe her an apology and you need to own what you did. Men protect the women in their lives, and you did just the opposite. You need to step in and talk to your son and give him the same message. You are both at fault for dishonoring your daughter, and should be ashamed of yourself.

Honey, as hard as it may be, at least in your heart forgive your dad and brother and in the future, don't put your heart out there for anyone else's eyes. Men can be really stupid sometimes and this is one of those times.

Answer 11

It was invasive and shows that the person has no integrity. You have the right to your personal privacy. This is unconscionable and shows they have no respect for anything but their own values. Keep your diary in a place where they have no access. Their behavior is deplorable, made all the worse because they not only told you but defend a position of inconceivable conduct. It makes me sick to think you are in such a vulnerable and horrific living situation.