Suicidal people, why do you keep talking about it?

Question

Have seen a fair few questions from people who say that they are going to definately end it all, and I wonder why these people keep talking about it, are you trying to prove to yourself one last time that everyone and the whole world is screwed up so it'll give you more to push you over the edge?
Or is it because deep down inside, you still have a little bit of hope or reservation about committing suicide?
I'm not asking this to offend anyone, it's genuine curiousity.
And yes, I go through the same thing too with severe depression and suicidal thoughts, but if I was seriously going to end it all, I wouldn't be sitting on a computer and talking about it.
No, I'm not trying to piss people off, this is a legit question.

Kitty, I know the question would've ticked someone off, so for the record, yes I have attempted suicide before, but the thing is, is when I'm serious about ending it all, I don't reach out anymore for help.
I've been a sufferer of moderate/severe depression for more than 10 years and at the worst, I was hearing voices/screams and felt very out of touch with reality, felt like I was actually going insane. So it pisses me off to hear of someone who says that until I have been there, how could I possibly know what it's like?
My question is a genuine one and it actually disturbs me to hear of so many suicidal people on this forum, I wish I could reach out to them, because I bloody know damn well what it's like.

Edit again- No, I am dead serious. It is not my intention of trying to have a go at people who were suicidal and posting here. But the truth is that I try and try to reach out to people who do post here and are going to commit suicide, and I can't honestly understand why they do post. It's nothing nasty intended for these people, I actually feel terrible for them and helpless.

Finally, for those people who do compare their depression to others, that's just wrong.
It just smacks of 'Well, I suffer more than you, so don't say anything'.

Answer 1

People sitting at a computer talking about suicide means these people are very depressed and want someone to connect to. They feel very alone with their feelings.
As long as we keep answering their suicidal questions, they are connecting to others. I only wish these people that are truly suffering would reach out to real people for the help that they need. Maybe we are helping them to do this. Lets hope so.

Answer 2

Apologies but I have to agree with Kitty.

As someone who has been sectioned twice(involuntarily detained) for my own safety for being so ill I know what I'm talking about. The Samaritans receive calls for people who wish to be talking to someone while they die - are these not serious as well?

I have made numerous attempts on my life and some one who suffers severe and I mean severe depression to the point that I can't physical move to kill myself, I am qualified to tell you you are way off beam. A cry for help is a person in severe despair. So whether you take tablets and let yourself be found - as you appear to have - or call someone it's irrelevant. Kitty described it at the pits of hell - I'd say that about sums it up. By the way in case you think but you were found also - pure fluke. I live alone. No family any where near. No one was due to call. I was hanging from a rope for eleven minutes until dead. Hanging being seen as the methods of the seriously wanting to die suicidal. Because of it I am catogorised as a more at risk patient that if I'd tried pills. I mean it so I know what I'm talking about. And I can tell you if YOU had been serious you would have gone to the woods where there was no one and done it. As I said no one was ever meant to find me for weeks. Now make a comment about serious or not and I also talked about it and still do. I think you'll find talking about is called preoccupied, a classic sign of the suicidal!

Answer 3

Interesting how you know something that has not yet happened! You know that you would not be sat a computer if you were going to end it all! Perhaps your psychic and not depressed! When you've actually been suicidal - thinking about it ain't the same thing - then re post. And here is some FACTS from people who know not speculate on suicide and those that talk about it. Perhaps can you learn something and stop spouting.

Source Health Places.com - suicide.

Take it seriously.

Myth: 'The people who talk about it don't do it.' Studies have found that 75% of all completed suicides did things in the weeks or months prior to their deaths to indicate to others that they were in deep despair. Anyone expressing suicidal feelings needs immediate attention.'

You've said you've thought about it. Think is not necesarally suicidal - I know. I have nearly dies as a result of suicide attempts. I was once revived after been found 'dead' and in intensive care for nearly two weeks. I talk about it and I can tell you it has NOTHING to do with insincerity - nothing. It has to do with it being horrific. When you get to that point you'll now what I mean. Until then you have not truely been to the pit of hell.

This is from, National Mental Health Information Centre.

Suicide Warning Signs.

Threatening to hurt or kill oneself or talking about wanting to hurt or kill oneself.

Looking for ways to kill oneself by seeking access to firearms, pills, or other means.

Talking or writting about death, dying, or suicide when these actions are out of the ordinary for the person.

Etc. You get the picture!

2nd Edit.

Interesting that you were found then! Seeing as if people want to realy do it they ensure that they will success and if you REALLY WANTED TO END IT ALL you would not be trying to be stopped. You see, if you realy had wanted to end it all you would have - this is your logic! This is not a genuine question it's a dig at people and you can thumbs down all you like and comment till the cows come home. You set out to spout. There is no compassion in your question just trivialisation. And if you understand the suicidal mind - like your claiming - then why are you asking questions like this about it on here? Me - I'm glad people sit in front of a computer and post questions instead of ending it all. Only someone who had the attitude that you do - if your going do it you would- would even dare to post such an obviously having a dig ill informed question. Try spending your time and putting your 'concern' into answering some of those that post when feeling like ending it all. But I suggest that before doing so you get knowledge on the subject and read the extract that I posted about people who TALK about really do do it. And then do extensive reasearch to esure there safety from your lack of knowledge that could tip someone over the edge.

Answer 4

If you have had suicidal thoughts, and suffer depression, then i'm sure you know how hopeless and desparate people feel. People talk about it because they are trying to reach out and hopefully find someone to care, or perhaps they need to talk about it...

It's not a bad thing to talk about our feelings, even if they are negative... and it's even better when a person reaches out for help.

You can check out the website below for a really good view and some more insight on the subject.

Answer 5

I recall having suicidal thoughts at 13....I would be in trouble for something and wanted to end it more for the purpose of making my parents miserable and those friends that I didn't think liked me. Thing is....life goes on and those friends will be growing up and having fun while your 6ft. under. I have heard that those that attempted suicide and survived it, also recall feeling deep remorse and regret the moment they leaped or swallowed pills. I just hope whoever does ever contemplate it will get help. Life is a gift.

Answer 6

from the heart of someone who is truly suicidal. depending on the person, they could be talking about it because they are looking for a reason to live. i have done this although not on a computer. however some simply do it to see if anyone truly does care enough about them to want to save their life, even if they do not know each other. even though most people dont realy care if some random guy offs himself. it only matters that the person offing himself thinks that whoever it is does care.

Answer 7

I never told anyone when I planned my two suicide attempts. I think letting people know about your plans might be a call for help, but it is to be taken seriously in each and every case, because you just don't know.

Did you know that twice as many woman attempt suicide? Did you know that men are twice as likely to succeed?

I think, in most cases, they are just crying out for someone to talk to.

Answer 8

I cant say ive ever wanted to end it, but I would assume these people still have a small amount of hope they are clinging on to. Its human nature to try and survive. And im sure some of the dumb sh&t people say on here doesnt help things.

Answer 9

often people are talking about it because they want some one to talk them out of it.

Answer 10

When people talk about it so much it is generally a cry for help or attention. very sad.