my boyfriend( of 5 years) his son is getting married. well my b-friends ex is throwing them a wedding shower. we got the invitation with a note stating that we are all to purchase items from pampered chef for our gift to them,that means with the credits from the items we are all to order she will use the credits to get gifts for the bride & groom, yes that means the items that she orders will be from credit and they be free, not costing her a cent. ( i will be taking a outside gift). i feel this is very tacky.how do you all feel about this? ps... the future bride & groom have lived together for a year allready so they really dont need expensive pampered chef junk i mean who really needs a &25.00 ice cream scoop???
2007-09-19 15:36:01 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Food & Drink ➔ Entertaining
last year she gave her 15 year old a cell phone for a christmas gift,,,yes it was a free phone and he has to pay his oun bill every month, that is fine but there she goes with free gifts and she is making him pay for his own tux for the wedding,, he only works about 15 hours a week as a cart boy making 5.85 an hour.. she makes 1500.00 a month take home, gets close to 600.00 a month in child support( for 1 child) and chasrges her oldest daughter 200.00 a month rent so its not like she is hurting for money.
2007-09-19 15:59:46 · update #1
she is not paying too much to have the shower, its a pot luck.
2007-09-20 00:52:29 · update #2
This kind of sounds like a scam to me. Im sure that if the bride and groom have lived together already they are pretty down to earth, they dont want all that expensive stuff and chances are they already have it. I would not buy stuff for them from there, that women just wants stuff for free. I cant believe she's doing that. You should tell the B and G about it and see what they have to say. That's weak. Don't do it.
2007-09-19 15:46:41 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
What??? I thought that when someone got married that the people that were invited took a gift as a courtesy to the bride and groom. It isn't written in stone that you have to take a gift at all. It should be up to the gift-giver what he or she wants to give. Have they registered anywhere? If they have already been living together, you are right. They probably don't need any kitchen utensils and the like. I say give whatever you want to. Since they have been together awhile why not get them something they would appreciate for their wedding night, like a gift basket with champagne, champagne glasses, some cheese and crackers, a couple of candles, bath soaps, etc...? Just a thought. Good luck. =)
2007-09-19 15:49:57 · answer #2 · answered by mom4gr8kidz 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hello,
I think you are fine to take an outside gift. Registries are merely suggestions, and you simply choose not to follow that particular suggestion. I agree that the whole process seems a bit tacky and suspect. I would follow the advice of others here so far and speak with the bride and groom regarding the exact type of gift they would like to recieve. I also agree with wrapping it nicely making sure to inclulde a beautifully written note... My sister just got married in August and the cards meant the most to her, or at least those that are signed in a personal manner... How does your boyfriend feel about the situation?
2007-09-19 18:19:40 · answer #3 · answered by Paula L 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In my day Silver was popular as a gift and it was the norm to specify the brand and pattern,but it was up to you to select what you wished.
The idea was to have a matching set of cutlery and trays etc.
The other way was the bride would make a list with the help of her mother and you would decide if it was to be a pair of sheets or tableware.
That will not happen in you case, so get something you know is practice and will not be consigned to the back of the cupboard.
2007-09-19 16:40:42 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds a little tacky to me. I would take whatever I wanted and tell the b_ _ _ _ to find a way to fund her own gift. If you want to take somethng from pampered chef order it from somone else, that way she won't get the credit for it. I have to agree with you...they don't need all that stuff. I have pampered chef products that I never us, just bought them because i was at a party.
2007-09-19 18:48:27 · answer #5 · answered by Judy 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's time for you to be gracious.She is paying for the shower. Put you differences aside to make the young couple's day special for THEM. They will appreciate the non contentious day. Smile. Be happy he has found a woman he loves and wants to spend the rest of his life with her. All of you should put your differences aside for the day. Think of HIM, and no one else.
2007-09-19 21:13:15 · answer #6 · answered by Pat C 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
words are ever lasting try that.
2007-09-19 18:25:12 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋