My husband and I both eat vegan. Is it rude to request a vegan meal on the rsvp card, or is it better to wait until the day of the wedding and ask the staf to make modifications if needed???
2007-09-19 13:25:25 · 16 answers · asked by Tricia H 1 in Food & Drink ➔ Vegetarian & Vegan
I would note your preference on the card, but I also have heard of people calling the place ahead of time to explain their dietary needs. Waiting until the day of is far too late as food for the event will already be planned and purchased. It will only cause, at best, an awkward situation for you, the hosts, and the restaurant. If you consult ahead, you are giving them a heads up and they can plan accordingly.
2007-09-19 13:36:28 · answer #1 · answered by Jeanie 2 · 2⤊ 3⤋
Ask NOW. Many foods at such events are made days ahead. Give them a chance to deal with your needs. I also sugesst you bring a meal bar just in case the only thing you get to eat is the salad & green beans(if you are that lucky)
Realize the cake will not be Vegan. Unless the Bride & Groom are, commonly the cake would not be.
Enjoy sharing their day..it really is not about the food. Skipping a meal will not harm you, but making a fuss there will hurt everyone.
Last wedding I went to I was able to eat the strawberries EVERYTHING else I was allergic to or is was animal.
2007-09-20 01:00:04 · answer #2 · answered by Celtic Tejas 6 · 4⤊ 1⤋
You should definately ask upfront. Weddings stretch even the biggest kitchens - hence the pre-order, so waiting until the day will only add to the complexity and confusion.
Show the chef some respect, ask politely for a vegan meal way in advance.
If you know its not going to be suitable for you, why hold back on that information ?
2007-09-20 07:16:02 · answer #3 · answered by Michael H 7 · 2⤊ 2⤋
I think it's a judgment call, based at least in part on how well you know the couple. Is it possible that they were thinking of you when they included a vegetarian option? If it was someone I knew well, I'd talk to them about it. I had a wedding once and, while it was "my" day, I really wanted to make sure my guests had a great time.
2007-09-19 20:43:28 · answer #4 · answered by mockingbird 7 · 3⤊ 1⤋
It is acceptable to request vegan. If you are very close with the people you may even call and talk to them about it. Don't expect an extravagant meal because many people are not very experience in vegan food but it is appropriate.
2007-09-19 22:49:21 · answer #5 · answered by al l 6 · 5⤊ 1⤋
Any time a caterer, airline or whatever else gives a vegetarian option, it should ALWAYS be vegan unless there is a vegan and a vegetarian option. If not, it's their problem, they should have put more thought into it and it definitely shouldn't be on you.
If you're afraid of seeming rude to the bride and groom, eat a plate of fruit.
2007-09-19 21:11:13 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 3⤋
I would call them and ask if it would be possible to get a vegan meal. It may be more difficult to do that on the day of the wedding.
Kim at: http://www.peaceful-organic-planet.com/healthy-food.html
2007-09-19 22:25:29 · answer #7 · answered by kpaschke 4 · 5⤊ 1⤋
i would call or respond on that rsvp card. who cares about being rude? if requesting a vegan meal is considered rude, then you need better friends
2007-09-19 21:28:42 · answer #8 · answered by salmonella_jr 3 · 5⤊ 2⤋
I agree with westville sal. If you're not going to eat what they offer then don't chose any and eat before hand. At my brothers wedding they had one person who was picky and said she wouldn't eat anything except chicken, so my brother had to pay an extra $100 to add chicken to the menu and let me tell you they were very upset. If you request something different than the choices provided, they won't be happy and they will probably complain to everyone about you.
2007-09-19 20:48:56 · answer #9 · answered by Mel 5 · 1⤊ 3⤋
I would request it before time. On the day of the wedding it would be harder for them to accomadate specific diets. If told beforehand, they would have an opportunity to adjust the shopping list.
2007-09-19 20:38:26 · answer #10 · answered by Cysteine 6 · 5⤊ 1⤋