How did you find a veg partner?

Question

Just went out on yet another date last night with yet another non-veg. The topic of "why are you veg" came up, and I can't help but suspect my responses were less than ideal for her. Oh well, I do it to myself. Anyway...veggiedate turns up one hetero female in the area, and her religion is a deal-breaker.

My college doesn't have a veg or AR club. Maybe I should start one? Maybe I should get some veg t-shirts to advertise myself? I've been told that I should cut my hair to make myself more appealing... http://i218.photobucket.com/albums/cc188/safetyhats/selfpic.jpg I'm hitting a spot of self-loathing atm, finding myself unattractive and weaker than I thought I was. For a long time I've been a strong enough individual to be alone, but I miss intimacy and I want to find someone with similar ideals. :(

To those of you who met an already-veg partner, how/where did you do it? Remember, we make up only 4% of the population.

To each their own, indeed. I'm not discriminating against non-vegs, since everyone can be improved--myself included. I simply feel that my stance makes me unattractive to them.

Having an intimate relationship can be difficult if the other person represents something about yourself that you regret.

I'm always hesitant to give out my location over the net, but I'll say this: I live in the midwest, and I attend the largest school in my state. Oddly enough, yeah, only 1 hetero female is on veggiedate within 30 miles, lol. I suppose most of my schoolmates are more concerned with facebook and myspace.

Thanks for the t-shirt advice. I have a couple of preachy t-shirts in a shopping cart, so I guess I'll take those out.

Answer 1

I guess that my advice isn't exactly ideal.
(My boyfriend is a meat-eater)

But just to make you feel a little better... I think that there are more vegetarian women than men (maybe I'm buying into some stereotype here) but it's probably easier for you to find a vegetarian partner than it would be for a woman to find a male veggie partner.
I don't know how that would help you... but... it's not as hopeless as you think.
On the plus you look fine. Personally I've been trying to get my boyfriend to grow his hair back out...
But whatever you do with the hair, I'm sure you'll look fine.

The t-shirt idea is a great... it may clue some veggie girls into the fact that you have something in common.

Also you could go eat out at veggie restaurants... you're sure to meet some vegetarians there.

Good luck :]

Answer 2

Definitely don't give up hope. You are a very good-looking guy! The hair suites you. I'm not even into hippy types and Ithink it looks really good on you.

Every single day I am so grateful that my husband went strict vegetarian (and now raw!) with me or I cannot even imagine how much more difficult it owuld be for me to live this lifestyle (and it is a lifestyle, not just a diet, which is why it's so much harder to date non-veg people than, say, just someone who didn't like spinach when you love it).

Whoever recommended meetup.com is right on target. You may have to drive a half hour once a month or whatever to meet up with people, but you'll start networking and if it's something like a vegan potluck it'll be a place where you don't only get to meet possible partners, but FRIENDS who share your same sorts of views. I highly recommend that. Just put in your zip code and "vegan" or "vegetarian" or whatever you want and click to find TONS of people who want to meet others just like you do.

Good luck!

Answer 3

I love the hair, actually :p

While I understand where you're coming from with wanting to share your ideas, when it comes to a relationship, all you really need is a supportive partner. I was a vegitarian for a long time (I've had to stop due to health reasons for a while), and my boyfriend was rather fond of meat. None the less, he'd offer to cook me veg meals, and was/is always very sensitive about how I feel when it comes to being a veg-head (although he does playfully tease me sometimes). To find a veg-parterner? I suggest checking out Yahoo Groups and seeing if they have something. If not, start a group and email me, I'd join in a hot second. And remember, it's not about how someone else feels when it comes to your preferences for food, it's about how you feel. Good luck!

Answer 4

I just want to give you some encouragement and tell you that, despite popular opinion, you can find a non-veg and convert them. I met my wife in high school when she was vegetarian and I was not. We became good friends and, in very gentle and non-judgmental way, she answered every question I had and provided me with more information upon request. I eventually turned vegetarian and we started dating. Four years later, we turned vegan together and haven't looked back since.

I say this not to tell you to try to convert people, but more to say that you never really know how or when love will find you. If she had had the same feelings about not getting involved with omnis, we would never have gotten together. I think when the time is right, the right person will find you. Good luck!

Answer 5

Er, no offense, it's a serious question, but where in the world do you live that veggiedate only turned up one hetero female in your area? The t-shirt idea sounds great, especially one that comes off as being funny, cute, or informative rather than preachy, mean, or passive-aggressive. (Unless you're looking for a girlfriend like our infamous Ashley.)

Good example:
http://www.cafepress.com/esangha.13872553
Bad example:
http://www.cafepress.com/esangha.14058731

As for the picture, again, I don't know where in the world you are living, because the girls in this area would go crazy for a guy who looks like you.

I've had vegetarian partners before, and they really just seem to come out of the woodwork. And some of them became vegetarian after dating me. I don't purposefully go for vegetarians, but the kind of people I like to hang out with are just more likely to be vegetarian than average. (Though I have a handful of friends who could win BBQ eating contests, too.) But I am in college, so it's much easier to find dating partners in general. Are you in college?

Answer 6

You can continuously speak to me approximately it- I've been a vegetarian my entire existence, however I'd be blissful to aid you if I can. Good success and good performed on making the transfer! It's now not handy however I suppose it is very beneficial. If you ship me a message I'll supply you my e mail...simply in case of weirdos...

Answer 7

It sounds like you put a lot of restrictions on any relationship before it even has a chance to get going. Here are my thoughts on your 'problem':

Try not to rule people out because of their dietary habits, religion, now well you *think* they fit in with your *ideal*. My husband and I started our life together as omnivores. Three years ago I decided to stop eating meat altogether. It was a rough transition for him, but my point is that people change.

What you start with is not what you are going to end up with. Look for someone that makes you laugh, is affectionate and cares about YOU. Those are the similar ideals that really matter (IMNSHO).

I'm a Democrat married to a Republican, but I've watched my parents change from lifelong Republicans to Democrats over that past dozen years. Nothing stays the same - choose someone you really like, and if they eat meat, make them brush their teeth before kissing you!

My husband and I are opposites in LOTS of ways, but I couldn't be happier with him as my mate.

And you are very cute as you are.
Good luck.

Answer 8

My 10y/o vegan daughter wants me to tell you that if you freeze yourself and wait for her to be 18 she will date you in a heartbeat.

Oh and she would prefer you don't cut your hair.

Edit * Oh and by the way thanks for mentioning Earthlings in a previous answer. I looked it up in you tube and even as a 3 year old veggie who has fed herself with all the possible info on animal welfare out there, I found this documentary to be the most powerful message out there. I will be using it as a link quite often.

Answer 9

There is an excellent site you can go to, to start your own get together. I have joined one on Raw Vegan in my area but they have plenty of Veg*n meetups.

www.meetups.com

You are very good looking with your hair long, don't cut it. I am too old for you though!

Answer 10

think about where you shop, places you might eat out that is veg friendly...anywhere to attract the same like minded types of people. check out veg message boards, like www.veganfreaks.com (you do have to be vegan to be accepted there, no vegetarians). surround yourself with people with the same ideals, and you should attract someone to you. like someone else said, love happens when you're not looking for it. set your life up and do the things you love, and you'll find it.