I love him but?????

Question

About a year ago, I met this guy and fell in love with him. I felt he was my soulmate. At tat time he had a galfriend. He was attracted to me but promised himself tat he will never have sex with me because he is already with someone else. He recently broke up with her because she cheated on him. I and he became officially seeing each other. Now the problem is he is married with 3 kids. His kids are teenagers. He doesnt love his wife anymore. He cannot divorce because of the children.
Im 32 and never married before. We agreed we will live together and i will have his child. Something is bothering me.
Am I doing the right thing?

Answer 1

Uh NO! you love him but he can't divorce his wife because of the kids? divorce is leagal were your at right?
alright think about this, your boyfriend took a vow before a woman, his God, and a host of their friends and family, to be united with a woman for the rest of their natural life, then changed his mind. I know I don't know the whole story but, if he couldn't keep up a moral, and lets not forget LEGAL, marital contract, what makes you think he can keep one with you?
consider this, his wife was married when they had their children, you want even get that. your just gonna live with him, have and raise his child, do all the things he could get from a wife except your not his wife. if he falls out of love with you, which happened with his wife, he can just turn around and leave you. all he would be obliged to pay would be child support, you wouldn't get anything. I hate to go here but what youd be left with is a single mom, which isn't exactly going to be something other guys are gonna find highly attractive.
but you "love him". listen respect yourself to demand that any guy be with you, be with only you. as long as he has an escape plan he might be willing to use it. look he started making eyes at you while he still had a wife and was dating a girl. he is not good relationship material.
now this may sound as though I'm being harsh, but you know what I'm saying is true. deep down your having doubts that this is the right call, after all why else would you be asking advice online? listen to that innerwoman is telling you, run from this guy. the part of you thats telling you this is a good idea is not you heart, its your hormones who just want to hook up with this guy and get some (yeah I said it)!
if your still having doubts ask yourself are you making this choice out of fear. are you thinking,"This could be may last chance to have a guy!" true love is never based on fear.