i have been seeing this girl for 3 years and i love her, i'm not sure exactly how she feels, besides knowing that she has feelings for me, but her education and children are keeping her from committing, we've never had serious talk, but i love her, and her children love me, i want to ask her to marry me, is that to presumptious for me to ask, but i want to know whether i'm just wasting my time or if she is committed. we do have a cool relationship, she calls me everyday, and we've been intimate a lot of times, but because of her previuse marriage, she is hesitant on a relationship, but i really would like to find out if she wants something to me, i know once i ask it will either break us appart or bring us closer, i dont know maybe i should wait, but then, maybe i'm waiting for nothing and wasting my time, this girl is so confusing, any advice by anyone?
2007-09-08 21:18:48 · 5 answers · asked by jack a 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
go ahead and ask her. It's the only way you will know for sure, and three years sounds like a good amount of time to ask. If she says yes, then congrats and if she says no, then at least you will know and can begin to change plans.
I wish you luck!
2007-09-08 21:26:06 · answer #1 · answered by Lynn 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would pop the question in a very casual way. No getting down on one knee in front of all your friends and family. Do it quietly, one evening when it's just the two of you. Tell her how you feel about her and (this is very important if she's a mom!!!) tell her that you love her children as well. Ask as casually as you can (I know it will be hard) and wait for her response.
Doing it in this casual manner may allow for her to open up a little more with you about the topic. She won't feel rushed to give a yes/no answer right away and you can even give her some time to think about it. Also, it doesn't have to be the end of the relationship. I'm a firm believer that anything can be worked out if you just sit down and talk about it like adults.
2007-09-09 04:29:21 · answer #2 · answered by Been here before 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
best thing to do is to ask her directly...if she loves you and sees you as a part of her future she would surely say yes...i mean the important thing for her now is to find a man who loves her and who would love her children as well...and you did say you love her kids and accept them as a part of her...if she feels hesitant because of her previous marriage...reassure her that you're different from the other guy and that you plan on staying with her for the rest of your life...
if she still turns you down...at least you know...its better to know than to keep on wondering all the time...
2007-09-09 04:28:45 · answer #3 · answered by geisha 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
pop the question worst comes to worst....she says no then u can move on and stop wasting time
2007-09-09 04:23:03 · answer #4 · answered by coookies 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
asking her would validate how she really feels toward you..from then..whether the aswer is positive or not..you can move on or keep your friendship
2007-09-09 04:26:00 · answer #5 · answered by maconsolviaa 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋