I currently have a boyfriend, whom I love very much. We started dating a month ago, But we have been best friends for about 4 years. We have always had feelings for each other, but when one was going to ask the other out, one of us always had another gf/bf.
Well about a year ago I broke up with my ex boyfriend Charlie, after dating for about 2 years. He cheated on me and got another girl prego. We are still friends, but we rarely ever talk. He is always telling me that he still loves me and everything, but I don't love him the way I did before he cheated on me. I only love him as a friend and he knows that. I thought I was completely over him, but here recently I have found myself crying over him, every time a song comes on that he has dedicated to me, or when i see one of his old pictures. I have talked to my current boyfriend about it, and he understands, but also he thinks that me and Charlie was meant for each other. I don't believe we was though. I feel unfaithful to Garrett.
2007-09-08 21:00:42 · 9 answers · asked by rebel_chick425 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I don't know why I'm starting to think of Charlie again. I mean, I'm with someone I love already, But, It is actually kind of hard to get over someone who is always in your life. I asked Charlie to stop telling me that he loves me. that it's not helping me get over him and everything. So he stopped calling me. He hasn't called me in about 3 months. But some how I manage to think about him, and start crying. I really want to stop all of this. But sometimes it's really hard to. It always happens when I'm left alone.
What are some things that I could do?
2007-09-08 21:04:15 · update #1
Charlie and his gf Jenny was thinking about giving it up for adoption.He is suppose to be getting married to her as well,But then he tells me that they don't love each other. My opinion is that if he really loved me they way he said he did then he wouldn't of cheated and got her prego. The only way I found out about her being prego was by my friend nina. He tells her everything, because he didn't think she would tell me, because they are such good friends. He told her not to tell me because he was planning on getting back together with me, Because after I found out he was cheating I broke up with him. So I didn't know she was prego until after we broke up. . And a few months ago, I was on the phone with garrett, when Charlie called, And i told charlie that I was on the other line that I would call him back. He told me that if I hung up on him not to worry about calling back. So we haven't spoke since. (same night I told him not to tell me he loves me)
2007-09-08 21:29:41 · update #2
You must be in a really tight situation... What I would recommend is for you to talk to Garrett and tell him to help you cope with your feelings for Charlie. I'm sure Charlie is an extraordinary guy, that's why you can't get over him quickly. But I believe that Garrett is one as well, considering that he didn't explode when you told him how you felt. Just try to work and concentrate on your current relationship... Keep yourself busy and perhaps you will forget Charlie...
I live in the same nightmare you are on, and it haunted me for a good 8 months... But I have learned to cope with it by accepting the fact that my ex-GF doesn't want me back... Acceptance is the first step into every venture you take in your life... Once you learn to accept the facts, you will find it easier to lead peaceful life...
Oh, and for the record, I don't think you are unfaithful... It's just that Charlie made an impact on you that noone, not even Garrett can replace... Just find a little more space in your heart for Garrett to settle, and keep Charlie in mind, just as a friend when you need one...
Ohtar, out!
2007-09-08 21:11:01 · answer #1 · answered by talant_ohtar 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are still grieving and hurt over the way he treated you. It only takes 5 minutes to get someone pregnant, but what happens after that is important. Did he stick by the girl and support her after that? Or did she have an abortion? Whatever happened about the pregnancy would have affected you too. So you not only had a breakup, you had unfaithfulness and the pregnancy of the other girl. Three things all at once. That is a lot to cope with when you are young and in love. No wonder you are still suffering now. It is only natural. It is good that he is not ringing you any more, because you will get over him sooner. Time heals all. He may love you, like he says, and the other girl might have just been a silly impulsive mistake, but you don't want someone like that in your life to bring you down. Turn off those songs when they come on, and try to get some stuff happening in your life so you don't look to Garrett as a one-man-show to be your only form of happiness.
2007-09-09 04:16:23 · answer #2 · answered by wemblania 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Think of helping Charlie pay Child Support.
That's right, because you could have been.
He doesn't love you,
and your new boyfriend might cheat on you
because your heart isn't with him.
Don't back track.
2007-09-09 04:21:18 · answer #3 · answered by elliebear 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I guess he was your first boyfriend. if yes, it is always like that but since you now have a new boyfriend, I will advise that you should avoid being alone and also do away with the things that will always remind you of him. By so doing you'll gradually forget about the past memories of you and him.
2007-09-09 05:12:06 · answer #4 · answered by freeall_freeme 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey, talk to Garrett about it as much as you can. You have his support. Time will fade the flow you are feeling for "your" Charlie.
Charlie has chosen himself to go around. Perhaps that is the way he is, even though he might still feel for you, but you desserve Garrett.
2007-09-09 04:09:20 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
songs always bring back memories some good the times you had with that person that was great and some bring back the bad. maybe your finaly facing full force the end of that relationship. its time to move on and keep it in the past face the feelings and the past then move on with your life.
2007-09-09 04:07:18 · answer #6 · answered by spayhappy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I want to tell you to get over him and move on because girl your gonna miss out on something you probably already have."a good man". your ex need to be dismissed completely. Do you know many men are out there? well there is too many and you are considering to settle for someone who screwed another woman not to mention without protection while he was with you. not-a girl don't do. did he think he was irreplaceable, everyone is replaceable. so tell him to get out your life so you can get on with yours. don't settle for less. if he did it once he will do it twice, he that type of man. there are still good men out there, believe me!
2007-09-09 04:26:33 · answer #7 · answered by val b 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hum, try not to talk to him too much, try not to hang out with the group when he's there, put away your old pix, don't listen to the song, change it, i know it's tough but you have a bf now to keep you busy, you shouldn't tell your bf about this, eventually he'll get tired of you, get over!
2007-09-09 04:09:05 · answer #8 · answered by misty 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When you start to think about him ,, say to yourself,, oops.. not going to do that .. and think about other things,, its hard to do I know but .it may take a while took me a few years to get over one women I look back now and wonder why. glad im done..!!! Feels good to be free!!!
2007-09-09 04:08:17 · answer #9 · answered by Red F 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋