generally speaking (so special cases are excluded)do you treat your friend's/brother's (inlaws included)/son's etc's... girlfriend equal to as if she was his legal wife?...I mean I'd call the wife on her birthday/newborns/new house to congratulate, I'd visit her and try to build a good relationshipwith her if she's willing to as well, I'd send her presents on necessary occasions whereas I dont see it necessary to do these for a girlfriend as I dont take her as seriously as a wife, are you the same?
2007-09-08 20:19:36 · 19 answers · asked by Ginie 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
dont take me wrong, I dont concern why the couple isnt married, its their own business and not mine. my question is do I have same responsibilty to her as if she was a wife?like as SIL, MIL whatever I should put time to welcome my DIL or SIL. I should call her and build a friendship with her she wants to...do I have the same responsibility to someone who is temporary and may change anyday?
2007-09-08 20:39:59 · update #1
Before marriage - Life is fun
After Marriage - Life is Real & Committed.
Wife is like yourself. Gf is like entertainer that stays with you. It applies for Husband and bf too.
2007-09-08 20:30:32 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I don't tell her to dress conservatively. The best that I could do was to say that the outfit does not match or hey haven't you worn that sweater with the sheep a little too much? As for the men who control what the woman wears, that is due to the guys insecurity and the desire to keep his wife/GF from being attractive to other men. If their girl was appealing to others, then someone else might want her and take her away. See it is about his insecurity. It may also be about breaking her down to think that the guy is the only one who will ever love them. That is a way to control her for a while. I personally want a hot girlfriend/wife. The trophy girlfriend/wife is the way to go. I would want to show her off. But I would not force her to be conservative. I want her to remain the same as the day that I met her.
2016-05-20 01:43:04 · answer #2 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would think so. I mean its one thing to be cordial and stuff to a gf. But a wife is a more permanent part of the family. A girlfriend he could change at any time. And he could probably even be mentioning there being doubts about staying with her long enough for it not to matter if I think of her bday or not. Still fair enough to be nice while she is around.
2007-09-08 20:29:28 · answer #3 · answered by Cursed_Romantic 6 · 3⤊ 1⤋
Of course once married a wife becomes part of your family, while you may still want to build a relationship with a gf if it seems she may be around for a while though. It really depends on the person she is.
2007-09-08 20:28:16 · answer #4 · answered by grouch2111 6 · 3⤊ 1⤋
of course there's a difference, wife is a steady, respectable member of the family and noway can be compared to a girlfriend.I have a girlfriend and I dont treat her the same way as I'd treat her if she was my wife, nor do I expect my siblings to buy her presents or to try to be nice to her as she's just my temporary mate.
2007-09-08 20:53:59 · answer #5 · answered by vahoo vahoo 1 · 2⤊ 1⤋
It just depends on the relationship. If it's long term, then probably. If she's only come around a few times, then no. But definitely when she becomes a wife, she becomes family.
2007-09-08 20:43:43 · answer #6 · answered by Magaroni 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I don't think a girlfriend is equal to a wife. A girlfriend of more than a year does get more recognition than a girlfriend who is new to the family; birthdays and such. A fiance definitely gets more recognition than a girlfriend.
2007-09-08 20:29:53 · answer #7 · answered by Lov'n IT! 7 · 3⤊ 1⤋
I see no distinction between wife and girlfriend. If a person I know is living with his significant other, I have no interest in whether they are married or not. If they have been dating for a while and have clearly represented themselves as a couple, again that's fine with me.
The attitude that they need to be 'legal' and married to be taken seriously as a couple is at least 50 years out of date in my book.
2007-09-08 20:28:43 · answer #8 · answered by ZCT 7 · 2⤊ 4⤋
Well my brother is not married and has had a baby recently. I talk with his girlfriend the same as if they were legally married. It's not my buisiness how they choose to live their life. They are also in another state so that may change things.
2007-09-08 20:29:31 · answer #9 · answered by marie s 4 · 0⤊ 3⤋
Depends on how long they've been dating if I would take them seriously. You never know if it will work out so what's the harm in trying to make the bf/gf feel welcome in the family? As long as I see them as a genuine good person that is.
2007-09-08 20:31:19 · answer #10 · answered by Holly K 2 · 3⤊ 1⤋