I am 15 yrs girl and I have an issue with my brother. We are sharing the same room even though he is given a separate room. He has developed the habit of sleeping in the same bed with me. One way I did the mistake of pampering him too much. Now I feel I am grown big I need to be away from him. He could not understand why I need my privacy. He is still a kid and fights with me to sleep in the same bed and share every thing like before. I do not want to involve my parents in it, because they might shout at him. I like him very much and want to teach him why I need privacy. How can I do this?
2007-09-08 19:56:13 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
He is too sweet to resist. He loves me a lot the way I love him. He has his own bed in the same room. I tried moving to his bed when he is already slept in my bed. But in one hour he will be sleeping next to me.
2007-09-08 20:04:26 · update #1
hmmmm... i think you have to let him slowly adjust.
get him a sleeping bag, and you can put it on the floor and tell him it's like camping... he'll have fun that way. then he can eventually move to his own bed.
he probably is sleeping in your bed because he feels like he needs comfort and he can't get it on his own. since he's still pretty little, you could get him a stuffed animal or something too.
2007-09-08 20:01:47 · answer #1 · answered by stella_xx 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Tell him a girl of 15 is in puberty and soon to be an adult so she needs more time alone than kids.......WHy doesnt he get in bed with mum and dad if he still needs pampering....tell him if he needs these kinda kid-things you are NOT his mummy,in puberty you will just try to seperate more from your family and find your own place....with a brother still clinging as a little monkey you cant do it and you dont wanna end up recenting your brother for it so be direct but caring ofcourse and otherwise your parents have to talk with him WITHOUT yelling.....
2007-09-08 20:06:41 · answer #2 · answered by ajal 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You're 15! You should really tell your parents about this. It's not your job to raise him. He obviously is very attached to you and loves you. It's going to take the parents to get him to stop. He looks up to you. It's not your job to discipline him and that's the only thing that's going to make him stop :)
Trust that your parents will do the right thing. Don't worry! Whatever you do, do not interfere with their discipline. Like if they tell your brother to not sleep in the same bed with you and he starts to cry, don't feel bad and give in to him. You need to be supportive of your parents' actions as well. He needs consistency. I'm sure that he'll end up growing out of it as well... though I wouldn't wait for that to happen (at your expense).
2007-09-08 20:02:57 · answer #3 · answered by Cochy 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
um 15 and 10 and you two are sleeping together someone call the cops only bad things will come from this tell your parents its time for him to get his own room and before bed lock the door so he can't come in
2007-09-08 20:02:01 · answer #4 · answered by topgunpilot22 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Ask your parents if you can have a lock on your door for privacy. You'll just have to also sit your brother down and explain to him that when grils grow up they need to have their privacy. But you will still spend time with him outside your room.
2007-09-08 20:02:58 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
This is NOT a good situation. Very inappropriate.
You really need to get a lock on your bedroom door.
When it is bedtime, you walk your brother to his own bed, and stay with him, maybe rub his back a little and get him to relax and drop off.
Then go lock yourself in your own bedroom for the night.
If he puts up a fight, you really need to recruit your parents' help.
2007-09-08 20:02:54 · answer #6 · answered by revsuzanne 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
ignore all these stupid people with their "inappropriate" nonsense. deal with it whatever way you think best. if you want to leave the possibility open for him top sleep with you from time to time, that's cool too. but he should understand that you need a given amount of space for yourself at this point in development.
2015-01-03 21:17:38 · answer #7 · answered by veebleblistertwenty 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Can you put a mattress on the floor and have him sleep there? Then you can slowly move him out of your bed. Or try moving to his bed, then when he falls asleep, move to your bed.
2007-09-08 20:00:31 · answer #8 · answered by belleebuttons 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think you might need your parents to intervene.
brief them about your problem when he is not around. ask them to explain that big sisters need their own space. Hopefully your parents will understand and be diplomatic with him.Hard for you to tackle it directly with him as you probably don't have the skills to stay unemotional. (sorry no offence)
Good on you for caring about his feelings.. he really needs to know though that it's not good for him either..
2007-09-08 20:06:57 · answer #9 · answered by willywallwalker 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋