My sister is a lesbian and she recently married her gf and my mom is ooposed to the hole thing and she told me I can't go to the wedding or she would kick me out of the house and never talk to me again. But I am turning 18 next week and I didnt think she was serioos and I support my sister so I went to her wedding and when I got home all my stuff was in the driveway. I haven't spoken to my mom or dad since then but tmorrow is her birthday should I call her?
2007-09-08 19:16:07 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
I would get a large box, make sure it's wrapped nicely with shiny paper and a big huge bow, maybe even some colorful balloons attached oh and an extravagant card with her name on it, then just leave it at the front door, ring the doorbell, and quietly step away. She'll be sure to call you the next day, after opening her big huge box full o' dog crap!
2007-09-08 19:41:53 · answer #1 · answered by Lady H 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well, i think you should wish her for her b'day because after all she is ya mom..u know how most parents usually are against same sex marriages and all so maybe she was boiling at that time and to think that u would support ya sis and not listen to her probably made her so furious as to do what she did, throw u out..but if i was in ya shoes, i would have definitely done what u did...but i would send her a card or something and say, " mom, I'm being very fair among all the other members of this family but not choosing sides and supporting each member to do what makes them happy. there was no proper reason for u to kick me out of the house...happy birthday...'- then u shall continue or add something more..it was just an example..i think u were very wise in dealing with the situation..good luck..
2007-09-09 02:46:07 · answer #2 · answered by shawty 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
That really depends on you. How do you feel about your Mum? If you would like to patch things up, a happy birthday wish would be a good start. Then the ball is in her court, and she can choose to reply or not.
Either way you have to take care of yourself. Do you work? Are you able to care for yourself? Did you find somewhere SAFE to go? Don't be afraid to get some help getting on your feet, since you had no time to prepare for it.
Can you talk to your Dad, or does he feel the same? Maybe he could at least get your Mum to talk to you. Believe me the longer you leave it the harder it will be to fix it, if that's what you'd like to do.
2007-09-09 02:25:47 · answer #3 · answered by Barb Outhere 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry your mom threw you out. Hope you're doing ok.
Yes, be the bigger person and call and wish her a happy birthday. She may or may not accept the call and don't allow her to draw you into an argument. If she does, tell her "I just called to wish you a happy birthday, good bye" and hang up.
If you keep the door open to your mom, then this is one of those issues that may or may not work itself out over time.
2007-09-09 02:24:35 · answer #4 · answered by Invisigoth 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Yes, drop a really syrupy-sweet birthday card in the mailbox... and write the mushiest birthday sentiment you can muster inside it. It will make your mom feel guilty... she needs that.
She's trying to control her little world into the ground, and she needs to get off that before she drives everyone away from her.
See if you can meet your dad for a cup of coffee and a little discussion.
2007-09-09 02:41:30 · answer #5 · answered by revsuzanne 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would wait for awhile, and hopefully your mom would collect her thoughts clearly. It was decent of you to support your sister. It's important that family support each other even if you don't agree with the person life sty. I am so sorry your mom feels the way she does. I hope you were able to find a good safe place to stay. I'll keep you in my thoughts...God bless
2007-09-09 02:38:29 · answer #6 · answered by tony 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I know this seems hard but do call her. Even if she's still upset and hangs up on you, be a good daughter and call her anyway. This way, it will never be on your conscience that you didn't. She's upset at what has happened and wishes that you would sit on her side of the fence but it is difficult to take sides within your family.
2007-09-09 02:23:13 · answer #7 · answered by CUrias 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you could drop a card in the box saying that you wish her a happy birthday, but that you're not going to choose one family member over another.
2007-09-09 02:22:08 · answer #8 · answered by mustlovedogs 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Absolutely. Do not expect her to accept your call but do it anyway. You have to realize this very simple thing. Your Mother will be forced to accept the situation or lose two of her very precious daughters. Time is on your side.
Be kind to your Mother now. Trust me...it is worth it.
2007-09-09 02:27:25 · answer #9 · answered by Chaz 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would,she is still your mother.Your mother should always stick by her kids.Regardless of what any of my 8 brothers or sisters did,my mother still loved us.
Your mother has to accept the fact and it may take time.If she doesn't it will be her loss.But you only have one mother,and you can be the bigger person to try to call and or send her a birthday card.
2007-09-09 02:25:25 · answer #10 · answered by karen d 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋